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Who doesn't want to grow old with their loved ones? Many people's lifelong pursuit of dreams is simple and pure, just to meet the person they like, and join hands with him to spend the ups and downs of life, and go to the end of life together. What a beautiful and unconventional wish!
This simple dream may still not be realized. Some people will meet the right person at the wrong time, while others will meet the wrong person at the right time. Whether it's the former or the latter, it brings with it a sense of regret that can't be eliminated.
If you have ever loved someone deeply and would like to be with them for the rest of your life, but you are limited by reality and cannot do so, then you may be able to try another way of life.
I used to have him in my heart, and I can still think like that.
However, to turn this longing into motivation, so as to become a better person, just as there is a line in the classic movie "This Killer Is Not Too Cold": "My deepest love for you is to live myself as you are." ”
To love someone, you don't have to stay with them, but what lasts more is spiritual care.
From a different point of view, if you get along with someone every day and live together, even ordinary firewood, rice, oil and salt will make you gradually tired. But if you're in your hearts, it's completely different. In your heart, you will only miss, cherish and praise them, and that beauty will never fade, just like when you first met.
If your relationship is genuine, and you confirm that this is a rare true love, but you don't have the opportunity to be a couple, then focus on the following three things.
When you elevate this love to a higher level, it will exist in a new way and will silently accompany you until the end of your life.
One: pay attention silently, do not contact, and live a good life with all your heart
I deeply love a movie called "The Dream of the Covered Bridge". Because of my love for this movie, I deliberately read the original novel. Eventually, I finally understood the hidden and almost repressed love between the hero and heroine. This work perfectly shows the endless struggle in the face of love, and it also made me deeply understand the true meaning of love.
When they met, they had already gone through half of their lives, the female protagonist was over forty years old, and the male protagonist was over fifty. Although age no longer makes them impulsive for love, they are still deeply attracted to each other.
It only takes one glance to feel how shallow the previous life was and how meaningless the previous days were.
Days without each other are wasteful and empty, and life has real meaning only when we are with each other.
They can't be together. Because the heroine has a family and children, although there is no affection between her and her husband, they have a shared responsibility. This fact prevents them from abdicating their responsibilities so easily, nor so easily choosing their personal feelings.
She could not continue to follow in his footsteps, and could only decide to cut off all contact with him. To her relief, he understood and respected her choice. Since then, he has not been seen in her world again.
Although they were separated, they never lost their thoughts of each other.
Instead of contacting him, she focused on living her life to the fullest. Because she understands that she can't act rashly at such a young age. Love is beautiful, but a true love is enough, and having too much is just a luxury after all.
Two: Try to divert your attention and enrich your spirit and life
The protagonist is a typical housewife whose daily affairs revolve around the kitchen and household chores. She tries to keep herself busy and avoid thinking or worrying too much.
Because she knows that no matter where the other party is or what he does, he will love her deeply and never waver in this trust. This deep love lets her know that she is just as important in his heart, and this trust is the cornerstone of each other's affection. This love made her feel relaxed and at ease.
It's a pity to meet the right person but miss the opportunity, maybe this is the reason why fate has not arrived.
The hero and heroine are clearly sane and sober. They chose to separate because it was the greatest respect and fulfillment of each other's feelings. If forced together, the rest of the rest of your life may be filled with pain due to guilt.
Since the heroine has a family, a husband, and children, as a wife and mother, she needs to fulfill her responsibilities and obligations and be a role model for her children. While doing so would be self-sacrificing, she had no other choice.
We can't blame anyone, only fate, because they met too late. Since we have no chance to become husband and wife, we can only divert our attention and silently enrich our spirit and life. Love each other silently in your heart.
Three: You can keep each other's things to talk about lovesickness, and turn thoughts into motivation
The protagonist leaves a record of the letters she received and the time when she took the photo, and she feels that she has never been so beautiful, not only because of the photographic skills of professional photographers, but also because of the love she had at that time. These memories make her often reminisce and still give up.
In front of the man she likes, women show different beauty, and they can make women regain the confidence and beauty of their girlhood. This man made women no longer focus solely on housework and cooking, and their pampering made them a cute little girl. The feeling is incomparable, and with his company, the woman is sublimated into a beautiful presence full of charm and confidence.
Similarly, the other party also kept the note written to him by the heroine and invited him to dinner after work. This sticky note presents a simple yet warm message that evokes good emotions in people's hearts. It was a relaxed and formal exchange, expressing a sincere invitation and cherishing our friendship.
This love is proof of existence for him, and although the two may never meet again, they silently love each other in the bottom of their hearts for a lifetime.
Keeping each other's belongings to express lovesickness can give yourself an object to rely on and miss. In addition, it can also turn thoughts into motivation to live and move forward better.
If you fall in love with someone who can't possibly be together, try to love him in another way. Don't care too much about whether you can be together or not, as long as you love each other, then this relationship will be eternal in your heart. It's a way to cherish and maintain it more than giving up. Because sometimes, love is a pure, selfless force, and everyone deserves to be loved.
There are many forms of love, and it is love that is obvious on the surface, and it is also love that flows deep inside.
Only when this is clear can we better protect and cherish it. However, we also need to remember that loving ourselves is a prerequisite for loving others.