I am 54 years old, most of my life Rongma, suffered a lot of losses, summed up and found that there are three pits to avoid in this life, life is smooth, life is comfortable.
One, don't be overly kind.
After the age of fifty, I realized that kindness requires strength, and if you are kind everywhere at the bottom, you will never be able to stand out. Kindness needs to go both ways to reflect its value.
My best friend is very kind, and when she got married, she considered that her mother-in-law's family conditions were not good, and she started from scratch with her husband, without causing any financial pressure on her mother-in-law.
The two of them worked hard and saved money. The days are getting better and better, and my husband is also working hard and has a very good position. Her mother-in-law saw that they were doing well, and always asked for money to help her unhappy little son for no reason. The more money was given, the more money was given, but no one was grateful. When she stopped funding, her mother-in-law went around saying that she was bad.
No matter what her mother-in-law says, what others think, she just doesn't pay anymore.
When she hid her kindness, her brother-in-law also began to work and no longer gnawed at the old. In fact, sometimes the more kind we behave, the more we hurt others. The key is that I have lived a miserable life.
Second, don't put too much emphasis on relationships.
Whether we are at work or at home, we have to deal with such relationships, especially in families with many children. No matter what kind of interpersonal relationship, you must face it correctly from the heart, otherwise you will suffer the loss.
I am a 54-year-old fellow who retired to take care of my sick mother, and she is the sixth of seven sisters in the family. The other sisters just went to the house to see their mother and buy something. The mother felt that other children were filial and never had a good face for her.
She always laughs and jokes, and never takes it to heart. She said that her parents are getting older and their cognition is getting narrower. If you are serious and don't talk about hurting yourself, there will be constant fights in the family.
That's not good for your family, and it's not good for yourself. Her thoughts make me look high, and a person's pattern determines the height of life. So face the relationship properly. It will make your mood spacious and bright. Good for health, good for luck. Whether it is family or work, don't worry too much about interpersonal relationships, the road of life will be easy to walk, and many disasters will be avoided.
3. Don't do things that are detrimental to your virtues.
I was in charge of demolition work in the company, and I saw a lot of indifference. The originally very good family, because of the distribution of the demolition money, went to court to fight a lawsuit, and even did not communicate with each other. In fact, this is not worthy of virtue, and money is a disaster.
Each of us has two things in this life, one is art and the other is Tao. Art is ability, and Tao is conduct. If you don't have enough character, you won't be able to keep any amount of wealth. The Yellow Emperor's internal scripture records that great virtue must have its longevity. It is also the character that is being said.
After the age of fifty, you must not do anything that is detrimental to your moral character. Be kind to others, don't fight, don't rob, everything is fate.
Only when virtue is enough, life will be smooth, and wealth will be nourishing. If you don't believe it, look at those corrupt officials who have been punished, money is a sharp blade. Therefore, after the age of 50, try not to do anything that is detrimental to morality. In particular, when a man is rich, he behaves recklessly, which is all damage to morality. Only when virtue is enough, the rest of your life will be smooth.
I am Sister Mi Li, a post-70s who loves to share, like to share, remember to like and support to show encouragement, thank you!