Author: Insight Jiang Yumu
When I went to Shenzhen on a business trip a while ago, I met a friend by the way.
He was originally a middle-level worker in a local Internet company, with an annual salary of nearly 600,000 yuan after tax, and he has always lived quite well.
But because of poor management, his department was completely eliminated by the company, and he, a small leader, also lost his job.
I wanted to take advantage of this meeting to cheer him up, thinking that with his ability, there will always be no shortage of opportunities.
As a result, as soon as I entered his house, I first smelled a bad smell, and then I saw a pile of miscellaneous items on the table, sofa, and floor.
He was wearing a crumpled shirt and a beard that he hadn't taken care of for half a month.
When chatting, I didn't see him discussing his future plans, and he either complained about his former company, or lamented that middle age was so difficult.
To be honest, when I saw him like this, I couldn't say any words of encouragement.
It is said that middle age is the age when you can't afford to lose, and if you are not careful, you will lose everything.
But in fact, as long as you are willing to learn and dare to do, even if you have nothing, there is no harm in starting over.
What really makes people fall back into poverty overnight is not material overstretching, but spiritual insusustainability.
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Lack of mental power
I wonder if you feel the same way I do.
Just past the 40-year-old hurdle, it seems that the brain is a little insufficient.
The process that used to be understood by reading it once now takes days to ponder.
When you hear new terms and jargon in meetings, you feel a headache.
In addition, when people reach middle age, there are many things, and many times they simply let their brains swing.
When encountering problems, they are too lazy to think about it, and they directly follow the old methods; they are too lazy to ask questions if they don't understand something, so they simply let those who understand do it.
But in fact, giving up thinking and learning in exchange for a moment of relaxation are secretly marked with a price.
After talking to a few college classmates a while ago, I was even more determined to have this idea.
Lao Hu, a roommate in his freshman year, was a well-known brain.
He can never forget the specifications of hundreds of screws, and he can memorize more than ten thick international standards.
But since he became the director, he has been busy with both his career and family, and he basically has no heart to learn new things.
The company introduced a new management system, and he didn't even want to go through the more than ten pages of operation manuals.
When his subordinates introduced him to the new plan, he dozed off.
Later, he failed to accurately analyze the market, and the projects he handled caused huge losses to the company.
Not only did he lose his position as director, but his income was also cut a lot.
It was Lao Zhao from the next class who had just been promoted to the head of the foreign trade department by the company, and he was doing a good job.
After graduating for so many years, he has not let his brain sit idle.
Every day, even if I am busy until late, I will spare at least half an hour to learn new technologies and theories, and think about the development trend of the industry.
A few years ago, he judged that the Southeast Asian market would become an outlet, and took the initiative to apply for dispatch to the branch of the main foreign trade, and won several large orders that year.
When a person reaches a certain age, various functions related to the brain will inevitably decline.
The ability to think alone is often given up by ourselves.
In the era of rapid change, there are new technology iterations every day, and new industries are born every year.
No longer receiving new cognitions, no longer understanding new trends, the brain can only atrophy and degenerate.
As depicted in a cartoon on YouTube.
Anyone who wants to get out of poverty must start with active learning and thinking.
A brain that can digest and absorb new things is the greatest confidence for middle-aged people.
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Lack of mental energy
Internet person @崔璀 mentioned one of her employees.
At the age of 46, the employee was given a chance to run for senior director.
He is usually very motivated, and the voice in the department is also high, and everyone thinks that he can be elected.
At the last moment of the campaign, he was unexpectedly hospitalized, and the position of director was also left to others.
Originally, Cui Huang took into account his situation and has been helping to keep an eye on other positions, and as long as there is a vacancy, he will be pushed up.
But after this incident, it was as if the employee had changed as a different person.
The tasks assigned by the boss are dealt with casually, the documents handed in by the subordinates are signed casually, and the bad luck is complained to others at every turn.
Not only did he work inefficiently, but he also made the morale of the whole team low.
Cui Huang had no choice but to transfer him from his core position.
It was only later that she learned that the employee, given his age, had taken the campaign as his last chance to move upward.
As a result, he was unexpectedly defeated, which made him feel that he could not go up again in his life, and he lost his previous motivation.
Teacher Liang Ning said: "The most direct way to abolish a person is to let him start to resign himself to fate. ”
Indeed it is.
When many people enter middle age, they lose the mental energy they had when they were young.
Missing the spiritual energy that comes from the heart to want to do something well.
People with strong mental strength, even in the face of career bottlenecks and life setbacks, will never be defeated.
For a person with weak heart, a blow can make him collapse.
Shan Renxing, an investor, summed up a "40-year-old rule".
People often suffer a major setback around the age of 40, and most people gradually become mediocre or even fall into a low point.
However, the few people who survive the setbacks can push their careers to higher heights in a very short time.
Shan Renxing said: Middle age is a test of the inner spirit, when you have enough mental strength, you can temper the necessary heart and pattern for success from the crisis.
The road of the middle-aged man is rough and dangerous, and the state of the middle-aged man is tired and painful.
The more you show that you are low on energy, the more life will leave you helpless.
Sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat.
Maintain the tenacity to grow upwards and cultivate your heart strong enough to live your life as you want.
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Lack of energy
I used to hear people say that people are not tired to death, but are busy to death.
At the time, I didn't understand it, but in the last few years, I've become more and more impressed by it.
Last year I was busy for a while.
Every day in the company is either in a meeting or on the way to a meeting.
During this period, I had to find time to reply to more than a dozen emails and prepare a few materials.
When I get home, I have to face all kinds of household chores.
Relatives in my hometown also called me from time to time, either asking me to borrow money or asking me to help find a job for my children.
All kinds of things are piled up, and sometimes there are more than 30 undone items on the to-do list in a day.
Finally one day, I was like a computer running under a load and crashed, and I was lying in bed and didn't want to do anything.
In the end, I took a long vacation and rested at home for half a month, and the whole thing slowly eased up.
It is said that middle-aged people are difficult, where is the difficulty?
I think the difficulty is that life is an ambush on all sides, and you don't have three heads and six arms.
When I was young, I was able to stay up all night for one thing without distraction, and I woke up full of energy.
But after starting a family, the unit's projects must be rushed, the children's education must be grasped, and the parents' health must be taken care of......
There are always things that are busy, and I can never say what I am busy with.
It wasn't until one day that I was exhausted and began to get used to lying flat and rotten, and I realized that I had already lived as the most unrecognizable one in the crowd.
No wonder the writer Liu Run said that people who bend around to pick up sesame seeds are destined to throw away the watermelon in their hands.
The level of a person's life is hidden in the way he manages his energy.
Amy, a Hong Kong journalist who was mired in family disputes and lost her job after suffering from hyperthyroidism.
It wasn't until she moved into a 15-square-meter house alone and shielded herself from distractions that her condition improved and her career gradually improved.
Hugo was also too busy socializing to write and experienced a long period of low points.
Later, he gritted his teeth and forced himself to strip naked and write at home.
In this way, others did not dare to visit him, and he did not dare to go out to find others.
With the creation of concentrated concentration, the final "Les Miserables" came out.
When people reach middle age, they are no longer at the age when they can attack from all sides.
Life is not focused, and the result of putting energy into everything is to be quickly crushed by all kinds of trivial things.
Meaningless meals can be pushed and pushed, and social interactions that consume body and mind can be avoided.
Only by taking care of your limited energy can you settle down and take care of your family.
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After middle age, material gains and losses are easy to see, but spiritual defects are difficult to detect.
But it is often these subtle, invisible cracks that make life collapse overnight.
When a person lives to a certain age, his greatest wealth is not a good deposit, a decent job.
It's the habit of thinking, the tenacity of mind, and the energy to be full at all times.
Remember, there is only one kind of bankruptcy in this world, and that is the elimination of mental savings.
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