There are two mothers who talked about their little boys, and they were quite helpless:
The first mother said that her son was 5 years old, but he was very timid. Every time he played with other children, the toys were broken, and he didn't dare to find the other party's theory. Playing in the children's pile, he doesn't have any opinions, and he doesn't seem to be as strong as other children of the same age.
The second mother said that her son is 9 years old and is also very timid. I don't dare to tell my teacher about anything, and I don't dare to ask questions about my studies. As soon as others murdered him, his tears fell, and he could only endure being bullied. She really didn't know how to make her child braver.
What these two mothers said was that boys were timid and not brave enough. In fact, boys should have a brave and bold spirit, so that their growth is better.
There is a famous British prime minister named Winston Churchill, who said: "Courage is the most important thing, and with courage comes all the other qualities." "Another time, in 2007, there were children from many countries at the international summer camp. The teachers found that American children are very brave, good at making friends, and have their own ideas, even if they are not accompanied by adults, there will be no problems. Later, it turned out that parents in the United States attach great importance to teaching their children how to know the world, how to take care of themselves, how to make friends, and how to protect themselves. Their approach to education is like allowing children to grow up without adult care, making them more independent and courageous. This method can also be learned by our Chinese parents.
Here's some advice for young parents
Method 1: Make the boy more optimistic
Boys are sometimes timid, probably because they are prone to pessimism. Optimistic children will feel that it is normal for them to have difficulties and believe that they can overcome them. But pessimistic children will magnify the difficulties and feel that they can't do it before they try. Therefore, we need to encourage boys more so that they can see things from a good perspective and see their own progress, so that they will be more confident and optimistic.
Method 2: Make the boy braver
The boy's timidity may also be due to lack of perseverance. Children who do not have enough perseverance tend to withdraw when they encounter difficulties. But we can start with small things, such as getting up on time every day, writing a diary, exercising, etc., so that he can stick to it and not be sloppy. In this way, he can slowly become more persevering and braver.
Method 3: Encourage boys to make more friends
Timid boys may be more introverted and don't like to talk. As parents, we need to find more opportunities for them to socialize with others, such as asking them to take the initiative to greet people and invite friends to play at home. This way, they can get more friends and are less lonely.
Method 4: Have the boy try challenging sports
Participating in challenging sports not only gives boys physical exercise, but also teaches them how to face challenges. Sometimes, overprotectiveness of children can make them more timid. You must know that the future society is full of competition, and it will be difficult for boys to win in the competition if they do not have the spirit of hardship.
However, in reality, many Chinese parents will help their children solve all their problems, but forget to let them learn to face difficulties on their own. In fact, the process of overcoming difficulties is a good opportunity for boys to build self-confidence and courage. Many successful people finally realize their dreams because they have the courage to face difficulties.
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