The mother-daughter relationship is always a very important interpersonal relationship, and this relationship can be seen as a model for all our ongoing relationships. It permeates and affects our personal character, our relationships, and the way we raise our children......
Husband and wife can go their separate ways, but the mother-daughter relationship is inseparable.
What is your relationship with your mother like?
Is it true that a daughter can't escape a fate similar to that of her mother?
Many, many questions can be answered and healed in the process of reading this book.
Whether you're a young girl or already a parent, the World of Mothers and Daughters: A Contradiction of Love and Hate, recommended by million-fan blogger Miss Ball, will provide you with a guide to exploring the bond between mother and daughter.
1. Explore the bizarre world of mother and daughter
If there is such a complex relationship as husband and wife in the world, it must be the relationship between mother and daughter. The conflict between husband and wife is played out in various daily theaters and becomes a topic of public discussion. But the mother-daughter relationship is still an unknown world, containing more contradictions than any relationship.
All relationships require knowledge and skill, and naturally mother-daughter relationships are also included. What is your relationship with your mother? Is it a relationship where you are aware of the problem, and because you are too close, you have become a love-hate relationship where you can't look at the problem?
If you don't know the answers to these questions, then be bold and explore! Exploring the mother-daughter relationship can greatly contribute to your own growth and make the mother-daughter relationship healthier.
2. The daughter is not the doppelganger of the mother
A girl named Jingmin often feels like she is a doppelganger of her mother. When the atmosphere in the house is not good, her mother will ask her to act as an atmosphere group, such as "talking to grandma" and "asking aunt if she has eaten". Be gentle when relatives gather and be careful to entertain your elders...... But no matter what Jingmin thinks, she must cooperate with her mother's request and play the role of a good agent.
In real life, quite a few mothers treat their daughters like this. Mothers easily turn their daughters into their own doppelgangers, and the daughters do not know that they are doppelgangers of their mothers for a long time. The doppelgangers erode their existence, and usually did not rebel until they had a certain economic base.
Human beings have the uniqueness of the individual, which is the reason why the doppelganger is incomparable. Compared with making her daughter a doppelganger of her mother, watching her daughter maintain her original characteristics and grow up, influence others and even change society is a happiness that nothing can match.
3. Find an independent self that surpasses your mother
"Alas, when you have a daughter like you, you will know!"
Whenever their daughters are sad and wronged, mothers will always say this sentence involuntarily. But the daughters may not think so. They whispered in their hearts, "I won't be a mother like you!"
So-yeon, a girl who longs for mother's love but is fostered alone, doesn't want her children to taste abandonment after becoming a mother, so she trembles even if she leaves, and has been doing her best to protect her children. She struggled to swim in the opposite direction of her mother, trying to avoid becoming a mother like her own.
In fact, the important thing is not that we should not live like our mothers, but that we should live happily. So-yeon can't help but ask herself, "Is this the life I want now?" If we just have a heart that doesn't want to repeat our mother's mistakes, we might as well think about whether such a mood can really lead us to find happiness?