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Editor / Tommy
When it comes to the topics discussed, many single women share their own personal experiences.
Some women say they haven't had a boyfriend for five to six years, while others say it's been ten years.
Of course, there are also some girls who have never been in love due to the strict education of their families.
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The title of the article, "Hold", is very graphic, and it is suitable to describe the situation of women in this regard.
In the current society, there are many boys who are commonly known as "scumbags".
They think they can be completely independent.
At the same time, some women who have never experienced love have a certain curiosity and envy for these so-called "scumbags", and they even hope that they can become masters of seducing men.
Although these ideas may seem avant-garde, they often struggle to keep up with their own ideas in practice.
In the final analysis, this is also a manifestation of "sexual repression".
We delved into this through street interviews and psychological perspectives.
Here are the thoughts and experiences of three women:
Ms. Zhang had a relationship in college, but broke up with her boyfriend after graduation and has not been in a relationship for nearly three years. She feels very lonely and hopes to find a partner to marry as soon as possible.
Ms. Yang experienced a failed marriage, and she and her ex-husband had big differences in values and morals. This experience made her lose trust in men, and she believed that women could live completely independently and not depend on men.
Ms. Wu is currently in a relationship, she said that she cannot live without a boyfriend, and although she is full of uncertainty about the future, at least for now, she is not alone.
The stories of these three women show different psychological states and life choices.
A team specializing in psychology analyzed this in detail and came to some conclusions.
Psychology tells us that all normal adult women have a sexual desire, just to varying degrees.
Those women with a strong libido are usually energetic and popular with men.
Sigmund Freud once pointed out,
Sexual desire is a basic human instinct, and it is as important as survival instincts such as eating and avoiding danger.
It is not normal to suppress this nature, and it can lead to the repression of the whole life.
In some subcultures, there is a misconception that sexual repression is necessary or even desirable.
A counseling psychologist shared a case of a married female client who was satisfied with her open sex life and that her husband treated her well but did not accept premarital cohabitation.
After the marriage, she found that her husband was not doing well sexually, and she questioned whether the marriage was worth continuing.
The reactions in the comment area are varied, and some people think that since the husband is a good person and has not cheated, he should accept the status quo, solve his sexual needs by enriching his spiritual world, and cherish this hard-won marriage.
This may sound ideal, but it's not easy to implement.
As evolutionarily advanced creatures, human beings often have a vague understanding of their values and desires.
Desire is a spiritual realm that involves many complex factors.
If you are not careful, you can easily get lost. In fact, many times, excessive desire often stems from a subconscious feeling of repression.
Women should accept their sexuality and find appropriate ways to deal with it, rather than blindly suppressing it.
Of course, they can't indulge in it, everything should be in moderation.
Excessive repression can ultimately lead to only one result:
Aggressive aggressive response.
Instinct and aggressive behavior are closely linked and can lead to sexual abuse.
Once we accept this, we begin to pursue a more perfect inner world. Many women may feel hesitant to start a new relationship after experiencing emotional damage.
Just like Ms. Yang, on the surface she may not have a boyfriend for a long time, but she has to face many negative effects, both mentally and physically.
These harms are far more serious than suppressing oneself, and people have an instinctive reaction to aggression.
If the sexual desire is not properly released, this aggressive instinct may turn outward, such as devoting itself to work, personal hobbies, reading, dancing, hiking, and other life activities. These are all great ways to be a distraction.
A single mother can live happily and happily even without a partner because her children have become the whole of her life and she pours all her love into her children.
Therefore, ladies and gentlemen, you can also put your attention and love into your life, seriously experience the beauty of life, release your enthusiasm and charm, and your "prince" will naturally appear.
There is no definitive answer to the question of how long women can "endure" not to find a boyfriend.
Some say a month, some say half a year, or even a year.
At the end of the day, everyone's level of care and concerns are different.
Women should unleash their instincts at a young age and not wait until they are old to regret not being able to enjoy life in time.
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