Author: Zhou Zhengsheng
In life, there are all kinds of people, there are things of right and wrong, and there are feelings in their hearts, but there are always people who will point fingers. In fact, the real wise man: behave in the world, see through but do not say through.
It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us 60 years to learn to shut up. Many things can be seen clearly at a glance, and they know each other.
Seeing through and not exposing it, often leaving room for others, and also leaving space and retreat for yourself, this is not only a kind of kindness, but also a manifestation of a person's cultivation.
Not to say, it is a kind of wisdom. The ancients said: Sitting quietly often thinking about one's own faults, and gossiping about others. There are always some people who think how clever and talented they are, and they love to comment on things, which is straightforward. Not to mention a skill, it is the highest level of language arts. Not to mention that it is a very effective weapon, it can solve many problems, and it can also avoid many problems.
Not to mention, it is a choice. Many times, in the face of some people and things, we will choose not to say it, not because we are afraid of anyone, but because we let time prove time and let people's hearts verify people's hearts. Be calm, do your best in a down-to-earth manner, talk less and do more, know but not speak, and keep your mouth shut in a timely manner.
Not to mention, it is a kind of cultivation. Mencius once said: A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people and is cold in June. The importance and practicality of speaking are exhausted. There are a lot of words left in my heart, and I don't have to say them, so I grasp the degree. Even if it's a piece of advice, it should sound comfortable. Everyone's situation is different, and there are some things that we only see on the surface, so we shouldn't comment on others casually.
Not to mention, it is a kind of maturity. Being a good listener is a sign of a person's maturity. Be cautious in your words and deeds, think twice before acting, and think twice before you speak. Especially when you are excluded and wronged, let alone aggrieved. Continue to do your job with an open mind, and everyone has an account in their hearts.
Not to mention, it is a kind of calmness. Among our five senses, we have two ears and a mouth, which is telling us to listen more and talk less. Knowing people doesn't have to be exhausted, and if you are exhausted, you have no friends. Blame people don't have to be harsh, and if they are harsh, they will be far away.
I hope that for the rest of your life, you will open your mouth rationally, grasp the size, see through it without saying it, and manage your own mouth, so that the road of life will be wider and smoother.
The author is a reporter, director, deputy editor-in-chief, vice president, editor-in-chief, etc., director/researcher of the National Legal Public Opinion Monitoring Center, director/researcher of the National Legal Research Center, deputy secretary-general of the China Commercial Law Research Association, senior consultant of the cooperation platform of the Chinese Mission in China, etc