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I am a mother, a mother who was once full of anticipation and joy. However, now I can only face my son's indifference and resentment alone, and my heart is full of endless remorse and pain.
In recent days, I've often thought back to that decision that once made my heart ache. That was me, as a mother, for the sake of my son's so-called "happiness", and personally broke up his originally happy marriage.
Now, he is as cold as ice to me, and even said resolutely: "I have no wife or children in my life, and I will not provide for you in old age." In the dead of night, these words pierced my heart like a needle.
At that time, I thought I was planning a better future for my son. He was young and promising, and he had a successful career, but he married a woman who didn't seem like a good match to me.
I worry that his marriage will affect his future and that his future will be in jeopardy as a result.
So, I began to mention my daughter-in-law's shortcomings in front of my son, intentionally or unintentionally, exaggerating her shortcomings, and trying to shake my son's feelings for her.
Sometimes, I would also make up some unwarranted things in front of my son, saying that my daughter-in-law was not filial, disrespected her elders, and even fabricated rumors that she was having improper relationships with other men.
I was well aware of the gravity of these statements, but at the time, I was blinded by prejudice and stubbornness.
In addition to verbal slander, I also secretly intervened in their lives. I often summon my son home for various reasons, so that he can miss important moments with his daughter-in-law, such as anniversaries, birthdays, etc.
In addition, I deliberately created some contradictions and frictions to make their relationship increasingly strained. I even used my own relationships to try to create obstacles in my daughter-in-law's work and life, causing her to feel stressed and distressed.
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In the end, under my constant interference and provocation, my son's marriage finally came to an end. They divorced, my daughter-in-law left the house, and my son was full of resentment and disappointment towards me.
After my son divorced, I was full of joy and thought to myself, now my son can find a good daughter-in-law who is the right person. However, I did not expect that what I did would cause so much harm to my son.
He lost his beloved wife and his trust and respect for me. After the divorce, he became reticent and shunned me. I tried to make amends, tried to warm his wounded heart in every way, but to no avail.
Today, he is nearly half a hundred years old, but he is still alone. Whenever I see other people's children and grandchildren in a happy house, my heart swells up with endless guilt and remorse. I know that it was I who ruined his happiness with my own hands, and I who made him suffer so much.
Now, I often wonder if my son's life would have been like if I hadn't been so opinionated and self-righteous.
He may have a happy family, a virtuous wife, and a few lovely children. They will live together happily as a family and enjoy the joy of family. And I, as a mother, will also feel relieved and satisfied because of my son's happiness.
However, all this is just hypothetical. The reality is cruel, and I can't change the past, and I can't redeem my son's filial piety for his mother. I can only silently bear this pain and remorse, and spend the rest of my life repenting of the mistakes I made.
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Over the years, I have also learned a truth: every child has their own life and life trajectory, and as parents, we should respect their choices and support their decisions, rather than blindly interfering and obstructing.
Now, whenever I think of my son's decisive words, my heart swells up with endless sadness and helplessness. I knew that I could not change his opinion and attitude towards me, nor could I restore the bond between our mother and son.
But I still hope that in the days to come, he will be able to find his own happiness and joy and be able to live the life he wants.
Message from the setting moon:
A good mother-in-law will definitely achieve her son's marriage, because such a mother-in-law is sensible and can make a difference.
If a mother-in-law is self-centered in everything she does, she usually has a strong attitude towards her juniors, never thinks about others, and makes her son have to listen to her.
Then, when a woman marries such a family, she must be cautious.
Through the above story, we must also understand a truth, that is, if the elders want the younger generations to live happily, then they should interfere less in the married life of their children, because children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and if you manage too much, it will be counterproductive.