Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Money is a ladder to cross the wall, a boat to cross the river, and a survival tool that people can't ignore.
Brothers and sisters, if they help each other, they can feel more warmth and can become each other's help.
There will also be times when brothers and sisters borrow money. However, it is easy to borrow money, but it is difficult to repay it.
Many siblings may not pay back money for a long time after they have borrowed it. If your siblings borrow money and don't pay it back, just do it.
02. Think more about how your brothers and sisters have helped you
My aunt's family has two sons and a daughter. The three brothers and sisters made a lot of trouble in order to demolish the house, and they didn't come to the door.
My younger brother and sister borrowed my brother's money to help the emergency, but because of this contradiction, they didn't pay back the money.
The three siblings quarreled when they met, and even when their aunt celebrated her birthday, they were nowhere to be seen.
Later, the eldest brother became seriously ill and needed a lot of money for a liver transplant to survive.
He sold the house, and it was still worse.
The younger brother and sister remembered that as long as they were bullied when they were children, the eldest brother stood up to help them fight, and the brotherhood could not be broken by interests.
The two of them pooled the money in their hands and sent it to the eldest brother.
The three siblings were blessed by misfortune, and the elder brother was treated and could continue his life, and the relationship between them became more harmonious.
Money is a good thing and can help people achieve many purposes. Between siblings, it is also difficult to calculate the accounts clearly.
When you lend money to your siblings, if they can't afford to pay it back, think more about your relationship.
Marie Curie said: "The only true happiness in the world is when a family works closely with each other." ”
No matter what kind of love and hate, right or wrong, don't forget the affection of growing up together.
The feelings of brothers are always more important than money.
03. Mention more brothers and sisters to improve their earning power
The mother in "An Home" is patriarchal.
She often squeezes her daughter and constantly asks her for money, but she spoils her son Fang Jiadong very much. Son, become cowardly and unassertive.
Fang Bijin hates her mother, but she still cares about her brotherhood.
When she is able, she will ask her younger brother to come to the company she and Xu Wenchang founded as an electrician to teach him some skills. And encourage him to be self-reliant, so that he has the ability to make money.
The previous debts of the sister and brother are not settled. But Fang Bijin let him learn to be independent and self-reliant, no longer rely on her too much, and the relationship between them has become better.
Brothers and sisters who borrow money have a bad life, their cognition and ability are relatively poor, and they need to be improved.
Zeng Guofan said: "Brothers and sisters, although the poor and small households will prosper, brothers are not harmonious, although the family and eunuchs will be defeated." ”
If you are one with better economic conditions, you can see what kind of talent he has and which industry he can develop.
The best way to get along is to let him find the motivation to be self-reliant, help him rebuild his confidence, and get rid of his bad habits.
Raise and support your brothers and sisters, so that they can also have a better way to earn a living and live a more prosperous life.
04. Don't help the poor, don't condone your brothers and sisters to borrow money
Siblings are close and can help each other when they are young.
When the other party is not an adult, he can give more resources so that he can develop better.
However, if he is an adult, there are some things that he has to deal with on his own.
Only by experiencing setbacks and tribulations and experiencing the difficulties of life can we take responsibility and know the importance of improving ourselves.
A famous person said, "Those who privately advise us and point out our mistakes are the real brothers and sisters." ”
For brothers and sisters who are lazy and dependent, we must restrain and guide them back to the right path.
Don't give him material help directly, this will develop his slack mentality.
To help brothers and sisters, we must also do it, and we must not help the poor in emergencies.
Let brothers and sisters work hard with their own hands to have a truly bright future.
Everyone is united in the same spirit, sharing weal and woe, unity and mutual assistance. Don't put your interests first, you can get more precious family affection by doing so.
05. Summary
When siblings open their mouths to borrow money, they must ask why.
If the other party is really in a hurry, don't hurt the brotherhood and leave regrets because you care too much about money and don't help.
Knowing that brothers and sisters want to take advantage of them and always want to get something for nothing, they should be carefully taught and explained the pros and cons. Let him know that even if he doesn't borrow money, it's for his good.
When he was in difficulty, he taught him the ability to make money, so that he could be responsible and live on his own.
If we unite and make progress, the future will be brighter.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.