Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In the besieged city of marriage, getting along with husband and wife is not only a daily life, but also a kind of wisdom.
Many women hope that they can still maintain the sweetness of love after marriage and be favored by their husbands. But pampering is not gratuitous, it is often inseparable from a woman's wisdom.
Some women can always make their husbands pamper her, while some women are always complaining that their husbands are not considerate enough.
The difference between this often lies in whether a woman understands some of the "careful skills" of getting along with her husband. Those women who know how to scheming can always inadvertently grab their husband's heart and make their married life sweeter and sweeter.
Many times, when getting along with their husbands, scheming women tend to be more favored.
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Know how to be coquettish at the right time, good at listening and praise
Coquettishness is a woman's nature and a spice for married life. Timely coquettishness can not only resolve conflicts, but also enhance the relationship between husband and wife.
For example, when your husband comes home after a busy day, you can gently hold him and say to him in a gentle tone, "Husband, you have worked hard, come and hug him." ”
Such a small gesture can not only show your concern for him, but also make him feel your tenderness.
As the ancients said: "Tenderness is like water, and good times are like dreams." "A woman who knows how to be coquettish can always make her husband fascinated by her.
Men often need to be understood and praised more in marriage. A woman who understands "scheming" will be good at listening to her husband's voice and giving him enough support and encouragement.
When her husband shares his ideas or achievements, she looks at him with appreciation and gives him the most sincere compliments.
For example, when her husband has achieved something at work, she will say, "Husband, you are awesome! I'm so proud of you." ”
This kind of praise is often what men crave the most. If you give him this emotional value, he will naturally cherish you more.
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Maintain a sense of mystery and know how to respect your husband
If you want to keep your marriage fresh and stay sweet, you need to maintain a certain sense of mystery.
A woman who understands "scheming", she will not show everything she has to her husband at once, but will leave some space for him to explore and discover.
At the right time, she will show some of her specialties or some new looks to surprise her husband.
For example, on a weekend, she would suddenly cook a nice dinner for her husband or wear a beautiful dress that he had never seen before.
Such small changes often make your married life more interesting and full of expectations.
Although marriage means that two people have to live together, it does not mean that they have to stick together all the time.
A woman who understands "scheming" will respect her husband's personal space and allow him to have his own friends and hobbies. She does not interfere too much in her husband's private life, but gives him enough freedom and trust.
As Schopenhauer said, "Respect every man, no matter how humble and ridiculous he may be." ”
When you can give your husband enough respect and trust, he will also cherish and appreciate you more.
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Good at communication and expression, pay attention to their own growth
In marriage, if you know how to communicate and how to express, the relationship between two people can become more and more intimate.
A woman who understands "scheming", she is good at using gentle language to express her feelings and thoughts, and at the same time will listen to her husband's heart.
She will not put her dissatisfaction and complaints, all of them in the bottom of her heart, and endure them silently. Instead, I will choose a suitable time to communicate frankly with my husband.
For example, when she is dissatisfied with some of her husband's behavior, she will say, "Husband, I think you have been socializing a little too much lately, and I am a little worried about you, can we talk?"
This way of communication can not only show your concern, but also avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and quarrels.
At all times, we must understand that marriage is not the end of life, but a new beginning.
A woman who understands "scheming" will always pay attention to her own growth and constantly improve her ability and charm. She will learn new knowledge or skills and strive to become a better and more interesting person.
Such a woman can not only maintain her attractiveness to her husband, but also inject new vitality and fun into married life. A woman who is constantly "renewed" will naturally make her husband always fascinated by her.
Therefore, as a woman, you might as well have a little more "scheming", a little more wisdom, and a little more strategy in marriage.
When you learn how to get along with your husband skillfully, you will find that your marriage will become more beautiful and fulfilling. And your husband will cherish and pamper you even more because of your wisdom and charm.