Not long ago, the famous calligrapher and painter Fan Zeng officially announced that he had remarried and made the photos of his little wife public. It was originally a good thing, but unexpectedly, it caused widespread heated discussions among netizens.
There is only one reason for the heated discussion, and that is the age difference between the two people by 50 years.
One is an old husband and the other is a young wife, and such a combination is not uncommon in today's society. When Mr. Yang Zhenning married Miss Weng Fan, there was the same problem. (Mr. Yang Zhenning's living room has Fan Zeng's paintings)
In the universal values, marriage should be the right family, 3-year-old generation gap. Obviously, there is a generation gap between Fan Zeng and his new wife as many as a dozen. This kind of "grandson love" is not only immoral, but also more likely to play a false propaganda role.
The old husband is greedy for beauty, and the young wife is greedy for fame and fortune.
This is the vast majority of people's understanding of their marriage.
There is nothing wrong with this understanding. Ordinary people looking for a partner who is 10 years older will be suspected of coveting the other party's money or fame. If a man finds a wife who is 10 years younger, he will be accused of eating tender grass by an old cow.
Now his new wife was born in 1988, and he himself was born in 1938, a difference of 50 years between the two. There is a huge gap between the two in terms of career achievements and spiritual realm.
According to the content of Fan Zeng's official announcement, it can be seen that he is deeply saddened by the departure of his beloved wife Nan Li, which shows that he has deep feelings for his late wife.
However, he suffered from a mild cerebral infarction, which led to huge problems in his life, and even his artistic career was difficult. He expressed that after his ex-wife left, his situation was not very good.
Fortunately, Ms. Xu Meng was by his side to take care of him, take care of his food, clothing and daily life, so that he could recover physically and mentally. Ms. Xu Meng can be said to be a ray of light in his bleak old age, driving away loneliness for him.
In his life, Ms. Xu Meng is not just a "nanny", she will encourage Fan Zeng's creation of art. For an artist, there is a feeling of "meeting a soulmate". In other words, his artistic achievements in his later years are actually inseparable from Ms. Xu Meng's encouragement and support. In other words, she also contributes to the culture of excellence.
From his point of view, although the two did not share weal and woe, they also welcomed the light together from the trough.
Although Fan Zeng is 86 years old, his career achievements are unparalleled. Yet he was always an old man.
When people reach a certain age, their inner emotional needs will become more and more like that of a child, and they are particularly prone to feeling lonely and afraid of loneliness. At this time, it happened that there was someone around who was willing to accompany him, which was also a blessing.
However, many viewers only saw the 50-year age difference between the two people, and did not understand Fan Zeng's emotional needs.
In fact, from ancient times to the present, there are not a few old husbands and young wives like this. still remembers that Su Dongpo's friend Mr. Zhang, who is in his 80s, took in an 18-year-old concubine at that time. Thus was born a very famous poem:
"I'm eighty years old and eighteen, and I'm red and white-haired. It is the same as the Qing upside down, only separated by a sixtieth in the middle. ”
Su Shi was even more emotional, and raised his head and chanted: "Eighteen brides and eighty langs, pale hair and red makeup." The mandarin ducks are made into a double night, and a pear flower presses the begonia. ”
This poem has been passed down for thousands of years, and a pear flower pressing begonia has also become a joke of "old cows eat tender grass".
Once, Fan had three marriages, and the third one was the most unforgettable.
The first paragraph is with the poet Lin Xiu, the two fell in love for 5 years, and finally separated because of personality differences.
The second paragraph is with classmate Baohua, the two have the same interests and hobbies, but unfortunately the emotional foundation is relatively weak, resulting in the inability to grow old together.
The most unforgettable is the third paragraph, his wife Nanli was his virtuous helper and a philanthropist, they have been with each other for 40 years, supporting and encouraging each other. So when Nan Li died, Fan Zeng was immersed in grief and couldn't extricate himself.
He not only lost a wife, but also a comrade-in-arms who fought side by side. Now on the road of life, he is the only one left to fight alone, how can he not be lonely?
So when Xu Meng appeared in his life, took him out of his pain, soothed his sorrows, helped him recover, and encouraged him to pursue his artistic career like Nan Li, he was like grasping a life-saving straw.
After careful consideration, the two decided to get married. Such an ending is not easy for Fan Zeng, and it is also the best.
He knew that once the official announcement of his marriage, he would definitely be overwhelmed by the outside world, and he lived for 86 years, and he knew this.
But he also knew that Ms. Xu Meng had paid to him, and he also saw clearly that Ms. Xu Meng was not with him for fame and fortune, he was just old, not confused.
What kind of feelings does Ms. Xu Meng have for Fan Zeng? Guess it must be out of appreciation and admiration for the artist's talent, so that she is willing to take care of him.
This society does not advocate "old husbands and young wives", but it is understandable if it is a decision made by two conscious people. To get to this point, it must be after weighing the pros and cons to take what you need, but after weighing the pros and cons, there will definitely be true love.