On dating apps, it's hard to get a successful match, but in the end you always lose to a standard conversation that doesn't match, or an embarrassing conversation like a net worth survey?
1. Instead of "like", ask "hate"
Most of the chat interactions on dating apps start with "like", such as "what kind of food do you like to eat?" and "what kind of object do you admire?", but this kind of topic is too common, and sometimes it seems boring and old-fashioned. You can replace your liking with "hate" so that you can extend it to the things you like, making the conversation more interesting and unconventional.
2. Ignore hobbies and talk about "quirks"
On dating apps, most of the people who don't know each other will focus on some interests and leisure hobbies. But this kind of topic is both common and may have been talked about until it is bad, and there is no extension and spark to ask questions. At this point, you might as well turn the conversation to quirks or bad habits, from which you can not only get to know each other better, but also bring them closer through self-disclosure.
3. Talk to his friends so that they can get to know him as a person
It is often said that "things gather by like", "those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black". The two sides can be friends, more or less, and the three views must have some commonalities and similarities, so that they can communicate for a long time without disputes and conflicts. Therefore, you can talk to the person you are having an affair with about your friend, and you can hear what he says about his friend, and what kind of values and ideas the other person may have.
4. Old feelings can start with "breakup".
When you meet an ambiguous partner who is worthy of long-term development, when the two parties have basic acquaintance and trust, the chat will inevitably touch on emotional topics such as exes and old relationships. At this time, instead of asking about some basic ideal object traits, appearance, and personality, you might as well start with "how to break up in the first place", so as to understand the other party's emotional landmines and matchmakers' expectations for the relationship.
5. "Good or bad family relationships" is the key point
From the other party's family relationship, whether it is friendly and intimate, or is it a mutual resentment, you can see what kind of attitude he may use to face your relationship when you and her go on in the long run, and gradually move from family to relatives.