When people get along with others, what they are most afraid of is that there will be misunderstandings and misunderstandings.
When there is a misunderstanding, there will be a contradiction, and if it cannot be resolved in time, the contradiction will become more and more intense.
So, getting angry is a very good emotion management technique.
Whether a person can make himself angry or not can best see his character and humanity.
We say that a person has a good character, not for you to please him, but when you are angry, will you see his truest appearance.
- Look at who he is angry with, to his family, to his lover
The truest appearance of a person is the truest appearance when facing his family and lover.
We must understand that people who are angry with their family members will not be polite to their lovers. If a person is very polite to his family and lover, it means that he is a very cultured person and is very patient with his family and lover.
And a person will not be angry with his family and lover, which means that he is a very good-tempered person, and no matter how hard and tired he is outside, he will not bring bad emotions to others.
Because they know that their family and lover are the ones who love them the most, and they are angry outside, and they will definitely vent when they return home.
- After seeing if he loses his temper, whether he apologizes or is more angry
A truly cultivated person will not let himself be angry.
He will solve the problem calmly and not lose his temper in order to get angry with himself.
In the matter of emotional management, a person's attitude determines his character and humanity.
Those who don't lose their temper in life are the most cultivated people.
The more temperamental and inner strength a person is, the more able he is to control his emotions.
They also have an emotional reaction before they get angry.
But they are able to calm down and solve problems with a calm attitude.
Just like Lin Miaomiao in "Youth Pi", she will not lose her temper, but communicate with her father very calmly.
Because she knew that her father would not scold her, she was able to communicate with her father calmly.
Such a person is not only educated, but also kind.
- See if he's venting his emotions or solving the problem
When people are angry, they are at their most vulnerable.
If he is a person who is open-minded, generous, and can think from the other party's point of view in everything, will not be calculating, and will not vent his emotions on others, then his character and humanity are good.
If he is a narrow-minded person who wants to win or lose in everything, and does not consider the feelings of others, then such a person is not worthy of deep friendship.
There is also a situation where some people, when they are angry, lose their minds and act impulsively.
If a person gets angry a lot and doesn't leave enough time and space for themselves to reflect afterwards.
Then such a person can easily go astray, and some of the actions he does when he is angry will only hurt himself and will not have any positive impact on himself and others.
- Look at how he behaves afterwards
If a person can still maintain his sanity after getting angry and will not do excessive things, then the person's character is generally good.
However, if a person becomes hysterical after getting angry, then it means that the person's temper is a bit bigger. It is likely that his heart is extremely sensitive, and his emotions are easily swayed by the other party.
It's not about who's right and who's wrong, it's that the person is too emotional. We say that the ability to manage emotions is very important, and being able to manage one's emotions well is also a kind of cultivation and ability.
Don't worry too much when you're angry, and look at the problem calmly afterwards, that's the real maturity and open-mindedness.
Therefore, if you want to see whether a person is worthy of association and deep friendship, you can observe it from the details of his anger.
A detail sees character, and it sees people's hearts for a long time.