Come to Xiaoshan to be a son-in-law, you can't hide your height

"Age is not a problem, it can be seven or eight years older than me, the main thing is that I don't want to work hard. ”

"I haven't graduated yet, can you find me a rich woman I can rely on, brother? You hang up my information, and when I have money, I will never forget our company." ”

"Teacher, agree with me, I'm so eager for love!"

Li Jiyan has been running a golden idea matchmaking company for 25 years, and in the past two years, he has encountered many such male customers. These people didn't want to be sons-in-law, but were bent on marrying a rich woman, so without exception, they were all sent away by Li Jiyan.

Among Li Jiyan's WeChat contacts, there are hundreds of college students waiting to be recruited.

He remarked the WeChat of these people into numbers. For example, Jiangsu male 04182 student 211: "04" is 2004, indicating the year of birth, "182" is the height, and then the school.

When the reporter was interviewing, it happened that a young man with four apartments at home sent a friend application to Li Jiyan, and Li Jiyan asked if the other party had a job, and the other party replied, "Not for the time being." Li Jiyan rejected his friend's application and told him to look for a job first.

Li Jiyan has 1 landline and 6 mobile phones on his desk, and the computer clicks on his own website

"Hangzhou Golden Idea Marriage Introduction Service Co., Ltd.", there are two small bay windows on the webpage, namely: "Youth is not always there, hurry up and fall in love! Find a lover, a happy life!" "10,000 male and female members from all walks of life, including civil servants, banks, public institutions, teachers, medical personnel, white-collar workers, engineers, business enterprises, ordinary employees, etc. ”

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His wife Sun Jimei sat opposite Li Jiyan, her facial features were delicate, her skin was very white, typical of a woman in Jiangsu and Zhejiang, and her speech had a strong Xiaoshan accent. Every time a male customer asks for a job, Sun Jimei and Li Jiyan will interview each other together.

There is a height scale printed at the door of the Golden Idea Matchmaking Company, corresponding to a height of 160, 170, and 180 cm. As soon as the other party walked in, Li Jiyan probably knew what the other party's height was, and he couldn't fake it at all.

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Li Jiyan often uses "How much is Sesame Credit?" as an opening remark. During the interview, a college graduate from another province came to apply for a son-in-law and clicked on Alipay as required. Seeing that the other party's sesame credit was as high as 745 points, Li Jiyan nodded with satisfaction.

He requires the man's sesame credit to be at least 550 points.

The boy has been in Hangzhou for a month, and he has not yet found a formal job. Li Jiyan encouraged the young man to come back two years later, "You are still very good-looking, and you are tall, come back two years later, the youngest registered female customer is 26 years old." Sun Jimei told on the side, "Child, you are still young, go to graduate school, or take the civil service exam." When your conditions are good, it will be better to match the other half. ”

The female customers who came to Jinqian to register for their sons-in-law did have one or two families with hundreds of millions of assets, and there were a few suites in the worst family. In addition, the woman generally has a stable job. The reason why I came here to register is nothing more than to expand my social circle and find a better marriage partner. Li Jiyan said: "In the past few years, business has not been good, and some families have not been able to do as well as before, but the starving camel is bigger than the horse, and the family conditions are good after all." ”

A few years ago, a male customer from other provinces came to visit. He runs an advertising agency, is about 183cm tall, and has a secondary school culture. The other party's trip was specially for Zong Fuli, the heir of Wahaha, and he thought that Li Jiyan had been deeply involved in the Hangzhou marriage market for more than 20 years, and he must have Zong Fuli's contact information in his hands. Li Jiyan was stunned after hearing this, and told him, "I have never been in contact."

The other party didn't believe it, so let Li Jiyan think of a way. Li Jiyan said: "Doesn't Wahaha have an official website? Have you ever called the official website?" The man replied, "Do you think I haven't called?" ”

Even if I expected the blind date market to be straight to the point, when I was really in the communication scene, I couldn't help but be shocked in my heart. After the young college student who had just graduated left, a local from Xiaoshan who drove an online car-hailing car came to register his son-in-law. The man wears a cap and is about 168cm tall when he passes by the doorway.

Because they are both locals, Li Jiyan and the man have started an "encrypted" call since then, because even if I went to school in Nanjing, I could only understand a few words with difficulty, "Kama" and "Kama". Fortunately, in the end, they began to communicate in Mandarin again. Li Jiyan asked the other party to take off his hat to see if the hair loss was serious. The man took off his hat, and the back of his head was a little thin.

"It seems that you are under a lot of pressure," Li Jiyan said with a smile. The man replied frankly: "Well, there is some pressure. "Then do you bet?" asked Li Jiyan. The man replied, "No." "Do you eat cigarettes or not?" the man scratched his head, "I have about a pack of cigarettes a day, and I rarely eat alcohol." ”

Li Jiyan hesitated a little, and said "Karma" five or six times in a row. Seeing that he was quite embarrassed, the man told him, "It doesn't matter if you sign up for a name", and after speaking, he got up and left. Maybe Li Jiyan felt that the other party did not meet the requirements at the beginning,

I forgot to ask about Sesame Credit's score in the conversation just now.

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There are a lot of plastic documents printed on the table, there are interviews with Li Jiyan, and love quotations written by him, and there is also a page of rejection written by Li Jiyan-

"There are ten situations in which the matchmaking refuses!"

1. Have a criminal record;

2. Those who are not right-minded and are looking for a lover's second wife;

3. Those with low quality, shoddy, beating and scolding;

4. Those who have tattooed on the body (except for those who have artistic tattoos, not in obvious places, within 3 cm);

5. Those who do not change their habits such as stealing;

6. Chicken belly, narrow-minded, no bad habits, such as drinking, smoking, etc.

7. Unreasonable and other violators;

8. Psychopaths;

9. Gambling, drug abuse, soliciting prostitution, or prostitution;

10. Those with serious infectious diseases.

Once it is found that there are any of the above bad deeds, the matchmaking agency will refuse to serve, and the money collected will not be refunded.

The reporter asked Li Jiyan, "Psychopaths won't tell you directly?" Li Jiyan said with a smile, "Hey, scare him, first play a deterrent role." Every time he meets a qualified male customer in all aspects, Li Jiyan will push this piece of paper in front of the other party and ask the other party to check whether it meets the standards.

There was a male client who graduated from Tsinghua University before, but was turned away by Li Jiyan because of the tattoo on his arm, "The woman doesn't like this." ”

There are many people who come to apply for a son-in-law, but there are very few who meet the criteria.

Li Jiyan and Sun Jimei's checks are very strict, so when eligible men and women meet each other, the success rate is also very high.

In Li Jiyan's view, the past model of son-in-law is more likely to have problems, because men only think about eating and being lazy after coming to the door, and many of them are even contaminated with gambling vices. But not in recent years,

Today's son-in-law track has long been crowded with high-quality talents. Many "new Hangzhou people" who have obtained a hukou not only have a stable job in the system, but have even bought a house.

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According to Li Jiyan's analysis, today's son-in-law has already evolved into four forms: one is the affordable type, the man's conditions in all aspects are really bad, and he inserts the door into the woman, in order to improve his life; The third is the strong alliance, the man already has a house and a car, and the marriage is to live a more comfortable life, the woman's parents help take care of the next generation, and their parents are a little more leisurely; the fourth is the icing on the cake, the man has his own company, and the annual income is very rich, and the wealth may be for the class jump. In a word, the son-in-law is gradually realizing the "new four modernizations":

Normal, younger, more knowledgeable, and more high-quality.

Whether it is the recently popular "Queen of Tears" that explores the marriage of strong women and weak men, or the "Crooked Mouth Dragon King" series of male frequency dramas that are out of the circle - accompanied by the classic counterattack line "The three-year period has arrived, it belongs to the Lin family, I want to get it all back!", coupled with the semi-permanent evil smile on the mouth, many people's imagination of the son-in-law focuses more on the dilemma of the marriage of strong women and weak men, and there are many worries that the son-in-law will "eat soft rice and hard food" after entering the door , and to take shortcuts to the wealth and resources of the woman's family, and to be the head of the family machismo, the old concept in his bones has not changed.

But in Sun Jimei's opinion, these men who are ready to come to the door to be sons-in-law don't seem to be too entangled, and many scenes of catching horses are nothing more than filters imposed on them by the outside world. After serving as a matchmaker for so many years, Li Jiyan and Sun Jimei seem to have reached a consensus,

The so-called son-in-law is nothing more than a marriage choice, a marriage model that can help parents reduce pressure and create a good life for the next generation, and everyone has the right to choose the life they want.

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"Our screening is quite strict, through early communication, we can try out a rough character, and we can't pass this level if it's too twisted. And those who can recruit sons-in-law are generally reluctant to let their daughters be wronged, so as long as you are good to their daughters, the woman's family will definitely be twice as good to you. If you go to those travel agencies, many of the people who go abroad on holidays are sons-in-law and mother-in-law and their families. If you have a good home, you will always have a lot of time to play together. A little less stress, a little easier life. Otherwise, if you pay off the mortgage for decades, how can you have time to enjoy life? Everyone wants to live a well-off life. It's simple. Sun Jimei said.

The son-in-law culture in Hangzhou Xiaoshan has a long history, and door-to-door sons-in-law can be seen everywhere.

This seems to have naturally created a relaxed cultural environment for the son-in-law, and reduced the psychological burden of thousands of years of cultural habits that are difficult to change.

Xiaoshan was one of the top 100 economic counties in the country before it was divided into districts and merged into cities, and it was one of the top 100 economic districts in the country after it was divided into districts and merged into cities. In this fertile land, 22 A-share listed companies were born, and at one time every family set up factories and opened stores. With the advancement of family planning in the 80s of the 20th century, Xiaoshan generated a large demand for sons-in-law, and many Xiaoshan entrepreneurs openly recruited sons-in-law.

In addition, Xiaoshan is also the place where the money is written into the demolition regulations. In 2017

The "Implementation Rules for the Expropriation and Resettlement of Renovated Houses in Urban Villages in Shushan Street" mentions "sons-in-law who meet the conditions for enrollment", where the conditions for enrollment refer to one or two daughters in the family, and there must be no boy in the family, but only one of the two daughters can be enrolled, and the other cannot be enrolled.

This provision is more aimed at the local demolition households in Xiaoshan, and one more son-in-law can get an additional 70 square meters of resettlement housing, which is also the reason why Xiaoshan local people like to find a son-in-law. Li Jiyan sighed: "70 square meters, according to the current housing price, it is also several million." How difficult it is to make money now, feelings should also be realistic. ”

However, many of the men who chose to join the family because of the demolition in the early days were not highly educated, let alone knew how to manage marriage, and most of them only knew how to eat and be lazy, and even got into gambling vices. This may also be the reason why Li Jiyan repeatedly asked the other party whether he was gambling, and checking Sesame Credit was also to verify the other party's credit.

In recent years, the educational qualifications and personal conditions of men who choose to join the army have been significantly improved, and many people ridicule that it is no less difficult to go to Xiaoshan than to go ashore in the public examination, and some people ridicule,

"Two intersections that change my life, one is to take the college entrance examination, and the other is to go to Xiaoshan to join the family." This may be just a joke, but "the economic base determines the superstructure" is the consensus of most people.

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Fei Xiaotong wrote in the book "Fertility System": "On the one hand, husband and wife enjoy the pleasure of life together, and on the other hand, they jointly run an extremely important and basic social undertaking. If you can't have the best of both worlds, you have to sacrifice one. In traditional Chinese society, the former is sacrificed. ”

Husbands and wives should manage a life of all-round cooperation: first, the cooperation in affairs should be reduced, so that the husband and wife should emphasize the harmony of feelings, interests and interests, and second, the emotional requirements should be put aside and the economic and career cooperation should be emphasized. In Fei Xiaotong's view, "there is no difference between the high and the low at the beginning of this kind of bias, and the important thing is to look at the living environment." "There is no doubt that most of the two people who entered into marriage through blind date chose the latter.

For many people, love seems to be a language question, and it takes a lot of reading comprehension to understand each other's minds.

But marriage is more like a math problem, people each take out chips to do resource replacement, and many men who join the woman's family business are like getting a round of A, B round, and angel round investment from the woman's family.

In addition, Hangzhou has a natural sense of local cultural superiority. People often say that "there is heaven, there is Suzhou and Hangzhou", located in the core area of the Yangtze River Delta, Hangzhou Xiaoshan, the economy is indeed more developed, can enjoy a lot of urbanization stage results, so many families will be reluctant to marry their daughters, no one will easily leave the "paradise".

It may take time to accept a son-in-law in other cities, but in Xiaoshan, it will even form a situation where you don't recruit a son-in-law, but don't understand it. Sun Jimei once listened to the neighbors discuss a certain family, because she did not recruit a son-in-law, she was evaluated by everyone as "not good".

In the 25 years since he ran the Golden Idea Matchmaking Company, his son-in-law's business has been getting better and better, and the registration fee has risen from 2,300 yuan to 15,000 yuan. But Li Jiyan and Sun Jimei did not get rich because of this, they currently only have one property, an old house of more than 100 square meters.

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The couple had a daughter and had considered recruiting a son-in-law, but the family only had one property, which did not meet the entry threshold for local recruitment. During the Spring Festival, my daughter took two elderly people to Xiamen for a trip. Li Jiyan only went out on the first day to take a few photos, and the rest of the time stayed in the hotel to be busy answering phone calls. Sun Jimei sighed: "He was so busy that he didn't have time to rest at all, and he also worked in the hotel when he came out." ”

In addition to Li Jiyan and Sun Jimei, there are three "love headhunters" in the marriage agency, which are composed of three retired aunts. They don't have to sit in the class on weekdays, and use their connections to find matching partners for members, "With more resources, the success rate will naturally be higher." ”

Li Jiyan also often writes articles and publishes advertisements in newspapers and magazines in major cities in Hangzhou, "Many people think that our husband and wife must have a lot of savings after opening a matchmaking company for so many years. In fact, we don't have any money at all. We need to keep spending money on promotion, so that we can attract more high-quality young men to our doors. ”

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Li Jiyan used to be an employee of Hangzhou Xiaoshan Hardware and Electric Company, and also worked as a Japanese teacher in night school. The first time he helped others to get married, it was when he introduced colleagues from other places to the locals as sons-in-law. In 1999, Li Jiyan was laid off from a state-owned enterprise and opened a golden idea to marry a son-in-law, and the current marriage agency is still in the former state-owned enterprise building where he once worked.

"We mainly marry young, middle-aged and elderly people, which account for 3/4 of the business, and the son-in-law only accounts for 1/4 of the total business. Many people think that we specialize in door-to-door sons-in-law, but we must have misunderstood. The son-in-law is just a local characteristic of our Xiaoshan. Li Jiyan said.

Hanging on the wall of the Golden Idea Matchmaking Company

The signboard of "The World's No. 1 Matchmaker", on the other wall, is full of photos of Li Jiyan being interviewed by the media. In the marriage agency, Li Jiyan's "love proverbs" can be seen everywhere, and he named each of them: "The Art of Love", "Advice on Choosing a Mate", "Love Trilogy", ......

A proverb reads - calling on large, medium and small cities across the country, rural families, with multiple suites, relatively wealthy older women and school-age women, change customs, and marry older men and school-age men who have no houses for the time being!

Times are different, women can marry husbands the same!

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