The 80s turned three times and one sounded
90's hotel pomp
In the 21st century, the personality is flamboyant
Young people's attitudes towards marriage
It has always been a topic of social concern
And a "minimalist wedding" that can be completed in ten minutes
Can you imagine what it was like?
Recently, this kind of "minimalist wedding" that can be completed in ten minutes without a convoy, no kissing, no groomsmen and bridesmaids and other traditional links, has set off a craze among young people.
Browsing social media, it is not difficult to find that young people's weddings are becoming more and more diverse. Some choose to travel together for a romantic wedding ceremony in the scenery along the way, others invite only close friends and family to make the wedding an intimate party, and others turn the wedding into a relaxed dinner with laughter and happiness. Perhaps, when the solemnity and cumbersomeness of traditional weddings gradually become a shackle, it has become a natural trend to explore new forms of weddings.
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Save money and effort
Create a true "self" wedding
Spring
This year, Jiang Xiaomei (pseudonym), a post-95 girl, and her lover held a minimalist wedding with no photography, no emcee, and no tear-jerking, which received unexpected praise.
From the appearance of the bride and groom, to the announcement of the knot by the host, to the final announcement of the wedding banquet, the time before and after is no more than ten minutes. "The wedding itself is not a show for people to see. Although our wedding was very simple, it was completely held according to our own wishes, and the whole process was prepared and organized by ourselves. Xiaomei shared with a reporter from Youth Daily in Shanghai.
In order to save money, Xiaomei insisted on not renting a luxury car to pick up relatives, taking care of makeup and clothing herself, did not rent dresses, and did not hire makeup artists and follow-ups. "Not only do you save the expenses required for traditional weddings, but you don't need to spend too much energy to prepare for marriage, and young people have limited financial resources and energy. Talking about the benefits of a minimalist wedding, Xiaomei said.
In the past, there was a saying of the "Four King Kongs" in the wedding industry, that is, the four indispensable roles in the wedding, namely the master of ceremonies, wedding makeup, wedding photography, and wedding videography. Usually, that's the bulk of the cost. In order to save money, Xiaomei's best friend, younger brother and the man's friends helped to simply decorate the hotel room with balloons and other decorations purchased online. "The whole process is that my brother and girlfriend are responsible for taking pictures and recordings, which is not very demanding, and the main theme is 'just there', which plays a commemorative role. ”
Xiaoshuai, who had just finished the wedding, deeply felt what it meant to "spend money like running water". "Whether the wedding is grand or not, of course, depends on the individual's economic situation, but the most common banquet in the hotel is 3888 and 4888 a table, and the overall cost is basically more than 100,000 or 200,000 yuan. ”
In recent years, minimalist weddings are quietly emerging as a new trend. Many young people tend to choose a simple and solemn wedding form, pursuing the streamlining of the process and the abundance of time. They have abandoned the traditional model of lengthy and cumbersome, and strive to simplify the ceremony and process, creating a truly "self-centered" wedding.
"I'm quite disgusted with the kind of weddings that have to be pompous, and I don't think there's any need to tell the world. Xiao Qin, who got married in the 90s in January this year, told reporters, "Married life is also run by yourself, life is lived by yourself, except for yourself, there are not so many people who really care and care, such as people drink water and know themselves, just go their own way." ”
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9 percent of young people have a wedding budget of less than 100,000
The "2023 Young People's Ideal Wedding Report" is released
Spring
A few days ago, I @后浪研究所发布了一项年轻人 a small survey on "ideal weddings". According to the "2023 Young People's Ideal Wedding Report", under the 10-point system, the average willingness of contemporary young people to hold a wedding is only 4.81 points, and even nearly 8 percent of young people say that they do not want to have a wedding, but choose to only get a certificate and not a banquet. As for why they don't want to have a wedding, 8 percent of young people think that "there are too many trivial things and trouble", and more than half of the respondents think that "it costs money" and "there are too many bad habits of traditional weddings".
Although the average wedding expenses of the respondents were 147,500 yuan, 9 percent of young people had a wedding budget of less than 100,000 yuan. This also illustrates the frugal attitude and money sensitivity of young people towards weddings.
In terms of wedding expenses, the top 3 most valuable expenses were photographers, makeup artists and videographers, which also shows that young people attach importance to wedding details and memories. More than 9 percent of young people prefer small and beautiful weddings to grand weddings. As for how to present and design the wedding, more than half of the young people want to DIY their own wedding works.
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Rejecting ineffective "performative socializing"
When it comes to individuality, you should also refer to the opinions of your elders
Spring
Young people began to "reorganize" their weddings, not by rejecting the social relationship of favors, but by rejecting the ineffective "performative socialization". In the survey, both boys and girls felt that the door blocking game was the most unnecessary wedding link. Guest games and toasts to guests have also entered the blacklist in the hearts of fifty percent of boys. In the hearts of girls, 55.97% think that it is unnecessary for the father to hand the bride's hand to the groom, and 52.32% think that the kissing process is complicated and redundant.
Netizen Xiao Hana shared: "Our wedding is a big dinner. All the relatives and friends involved were relaxed, and it was a happy, fulfilling and relaxing wedding. Her sharing has won many likes from netizens. She said: "I originally wanted to travel to get married, but unfortunately I was vetoed by the elders in the family, after all, the family needs to be lively, so our wedding is more for relatives and friends." ”
Marriage has been a major event since ancient times. In ancient society, marriage not only involved the feelings of two people, but also the connection between two families or even two families. From the perspective of today's parents, a wedding is not a "small fight" between two couples. It is a complex ritual that blends traditional ideas, family dignity, and social resources. "If the couple wants to optimize the wedding process, they should also refer to the opinions of the elders in the family. She said.
"The biggest feeling of getting married is not to be feudal superstition. Xiao Jiang, who was born in the 90s, said that she and her partner did not count the 'time to go out', so their itinerary was relatively relaxed, and they could even rest at noon. She advises that when getting married, thinking about time to go out or other travel arrangements should be based on practical situations and personal needs, rather than relying on fortune-telling or superstitious methods. If it is overly superstitious, it may lead to unreasonable travel arrangements, increase unnecessary stress and fatigue, and may even affect the mood and happiness of the newlyweds.
Compared with weddings, there are also young people who pay more attention to obtaining certificates. Xiao Xu, a young man from Shanghai, said: "In fact, for me, the most ceremonial thing to get married is to get a certificate, because after getting a certificate, you are husband and wife, and in the legal sense of husband and wife, this is more important to me, so we are very grand to get the certificate." ”
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Author: Youth Daily Youth Shanghai Reporter Chen Jiayin Part of the source: Xiaohongshu netizen @Zeng Huishu Trainee Editor: Baoding Proofreader: Lin Guiren Final review: Yang Qing
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