"How many times have I told you, don't do this, you just don't listen, it's really disobedient. ”
"You hurry up, okay, you always like to procrastinate in doing things. ”
"You weren't careful enough when you did it, so you did it wrong. ”
This is a criticism that we often hear in daily life, and the content of criticism is different, but the helplessness of parents is very similar. At the same time, we hear a variety of reactions from parents about their children. ↓
"My child, as soon as I criticize him, he cries endlessly. ”
"As soon as I criticized the child, she said, 'I won't, I don't want to do it. ’”
"Today's children are really getting harder and harder to educate, and I don't know how to criticize them......"
It can be seen that many criticisms do not meet the expectations of parents. So, how do you make your child obedient?
Effective criticism
in order to make a difference in children
Every child will inevitably make mistakes when they grow up, and when they point out mistakes, they need to be criticized. Educators such as parents and teachers want to make children better through criticism, and no educator expects criticism to be ineffective.
In the face of some unsatisfactory performance of children, whether to criticize or not, how to criticize, must be specific problems to analyze and deal with.
Rough and cathartic criticism often affects the child's self-confidence, so that the child thinks that he is not capable of completing the task in the next similar task, so he will give up persistence and effort in the face of difficulties. This is contrary to the original purpose of our education.
Educators should use language that children can understand and effectively criticize things that children are capable of correcting.
Criticism is to help the child eliminate incorrect behavior, so as to establish correct, good behavior and habits. This needs to be cultivated gradually according to the child's ability, and the child cannot be criticized simply and rudely just because the child's behavior does not meet the psychological expectations of the educator, or just to vent his dissatisfaction with the child.
In order to achieve the purpose of effective criticism, educators need to pay attention to the following three points in the way and method of criticism.