Zhang Defen said:
"All external things are the result of your inner projections. ”
People who are narrow-minded will only stare at the mistakes of others;
A person with a big heart looks at everyone who shines.
The same is true of women in marriage.
A truly wise woman is willing to believe in others, know how to respect others, and be tolerant.
They tend to "don't care" about men.
Regardless of the phone, it is a man's privacy
The netizen's wife is a sensitive and suspicious person who often looks through his mobile phone.
Originally, he felt that his wife was just too lacking in love, so he took care of it, and showed her the mobile phone generously.
Who knew that his wife was becoming more and more excessive, and her actions were becoming more and more extreme.
Not long ago, a colleague in the working group celebrated his birthday and organized a party, but because it was a temporary idea, he didn't have time to report to his wife.
But in order to reassure his wife, he also sent her photos and videos of the party.
I went home very early after the party.
But the wife was still dissatisfied, saying that he had not informed the party in advance.
No matter how he explained, his wife still clung to it.
Picking up his phone and starting to check it, she questioned him with a call log with no notes.
After the netizen explained, she still didn't believe it, so she simply asked her to call to see if he was lying.
Unexpectedly, she ran out with his mobile phone and car keys without saying anything, and netizens ignored her and fell asleep in a daze.
I woke up at two o'clock in the middle of the night and found that my wife was not around, I was a little worried, and I just wanted to make a call, but I suddenly remembered that the phone was taken away.
He hurriedly ran out to look for it, but after looking around the neighborhood but couldn't find it, he found his wife hiding in the car in the underground garage.
Seeing that she was frantically looking through his mobile phone, netizens knocked on the window, but his wife did not respond, and the car door was locked.
In this way, the netizen took a blanket and stayed with him all night, and kept explaining the phone call.
I thought the matter was over, but I didn't expect to go directly to the company the next day to make trouble.
grabbed the supervisor and said that the netizen was having an extramarital affair with a female colleague, and the netizen was so embarrassed that he had to take his wife home stiffly.
For his wife's various behaviors, netizens became more and more anxious, and even afraid to go home.
The netizen's wife has always been in a state of anxiety and fear, and she began to be suspicious at the slightest moment, and she had to find out her husband's secret.
caused the marriage of the two to be crumbling in one crisis of trust after another.
There is a saying:
"Trust is the bond that binds you together. ”
Trust is gone, and feelings are gone.
Some people are highly clean about relationships, find it difficult to accept their partner's suspicions, and hate the act of prying on privacy;
Someone doesn't mind showing their privacy, but being investigated and watched all the time can be devastating.
And trust is built not only by the loyalty of two people, but also by whether the other party is willing to believe.
If a woman is always insecure, no matter how frank a man is, he can't bear it, and eventually the relationship between the two will become more and more strained.
Regardless of income, that's the dignity of a man
I've seen a video:
The husband dragged his exhausted body into the house after work, and saw his wife sitting leisurely on the sofa, eating snacks and playing with her mobile phone.
When the wife saw her husband coming back, she immediately asked him to cook.
The husband said that he was tired and didn't want to do it, and his words were full of exhaustion.
The wife did not notice his abnormality and showed her husband her new big-name clothes.
As everyone knows, the long-standing grievances of her husband are about to erupt.
The husband looked at his wife, who was becoming more and more extravagant, and did not care about himself at all, and couldn't help but complain a few words.
said that his wife didn't do anything every day, waiting for him to come back to get it, and his biggest wish was to have a hot meal when he got home after work.
In the face of her husband's sudden complaints, the wife did not realize her own problem, but had long been accustomed to her husband's efforts over the years and took it for granted.
And the husband just said the word weakly:
Tired.
The wife thought it was incredible, how could she not feel tired when she married her.
In the face of her unreasonableness, her husband also began to speak harshly, saying that he regretted marrying her.
When the wife heard this, her anger was on the verge of eruption, and she said what was in her heart:
"I regret it even more, I insisted on marrying you at the beginning, you were incompetent and earned little money. ”
The husband's emotions also began to explode, saying:
"Then you find someone who is capable, find someone who is rich. ”
Then the wife took out her best friend to compare, saying that the best friend married well, bought a big name with her eyes closed, drove a Mercedes-Benz, and lived in a villa.
The husband didn't want to quarrel anymore, but the wife still didn't give up, and looked down on him:
"People's husbands are so good, and I don't see people tired, you earn so much money, what qualifications do you have to say tired. ”
Now the husband just wanted to run away from the house and go to the door, while the wife chased after him and pricked the nasty words in his heart over and over again.
The husband was disheartened and slammed the door.
The woman in the video only cares about herself, but she dislikes her husband for having no money every word, tramples on her husband's dignity, and doesn't care about his feelings at all, and in the end her husband can only leave helplessly.
It is true that money is important to everyone, and money is a man's confidence.
A shy man with a shy pocket is prone to low self-esteem, but he has given the best he can, and then he should be respected.
And in a relationship, instead of putting pressure on one person, it is better for two people to support each other.
As the saying goes, a good wife helped me Ling Yunzhi, and I also gave my good wife ten thousand taels of gold.
Husband and wife share weal and woe, is the best form of love.
Marriage is the support of two people, not the contribution of one person.
If a woman never acts, or even ignores men's efforts and tramples on men's dignity because of their own selfishness and comparison, such feelings will collapse one day.
Socialize or not, that's a man's freedom
Mr. Qian Zhongshu said:
"Marriage is a besieged city, and those outside the city want to go in, and those who are in the city want to come out. ”
People who want to escape from marriage probably think that marriage is suffocating.
Xiao Chen and her husband have a good relationship after marriage, but she is very dissatisfied with her husband going out to socialize.
I can't wait to tie my husband to the waistband of my pants all day long.
At first, her husband would take her, but she always shook her face in front of her friends, and then she was not happy to let her go.
At this time, Xiao Chen was still chasing after her husband, and kept calling to urge.
The two had a very unpleasant quarrel for this reason, but Xiao Chen still felt that those gatherings were meaningless and would only occupy the time that should belong to the marriage and family.
She also always likes to persuade her husband, but he is not moved, but instead intensifies and does not report his itinerary.
In this way, the relationship between the two became more and more strained, and finally broke out at a party.
Once, her husband told Xiao Chen that he was going to see a friend after work, and he couldn't answer the phone after hanging up.
Xiao Chen's long-accumulated emotions gushed out, and she started a carpet search of the whole city in a fit of anger, looking for the places where she thought her husband was going.
finally found her husband under her "unremitting persistence".
quarreled with her husband in front of everyone, and even counted all the people present, and finally dragged her husband home.
Back at home, Xiao Chen was still aggressive:
"Me and your friends, you can only choose one, if you have any more dealings with them, you will divorce!"
The husband refused to bow his head anymore, he said:
"Leave, leave, I'm just relieved!"
In this way, no one refused to give in, and finally chose to divorce.
Xiao Chen restricted her husband's social interactions, not only did not shorten the distance between them, but also drifted apart, and finally ended in divorce.
Although couples are the closest people, they are still separate individuals.
Give each other a little space, let them enjoy a moment of freedom, and clean up their emotions and exhaustion, so that they can love each other in a better state.
If a woman restricts a man's freedom because of her desire to control, she not only traps him, but also builds a high wall between them.
In the end, under the extreme pressure, they bottomed out and rebounded, losing both sides and having to part ways.
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Yang Xiwen said:
"Think of yourself as a work of art, polish it well, love it with your heart, you look good, and the world will look good. ”
A cultivated woman is pleasing to everyone, and naturally she will not be unforgiving.
They will not snoop on men's privacy, will not suppress men for money, and will not tie men's steps.
And a woman who is narrow-minded by herself, her eyes are full of men's problems, and she finally pushes away the really good man.
Therefore, women must manage themselves well in order to grasp happiness.
Author | Ziqiao · SDX, a post-00s writer who is firm and motivated, and serious about coding words.
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