I met a remediator before, and judging from his various circumstances, it was indeed a true breakup, so he directly chose to disconnect, but I told him based on his situation that there was no need to disconnect. Then he was stunned, he said: I read that it is said on the Internet that a true breakup needs to be disconnected.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
In fact, there is nothing wrong with this, according to the normal process, a true breakup does need to be disconnected, but I still say that, a specific analysis of the specific situation, including what I shared with you today, the general operation process of a true breakup, you should not blindly implement it, you still have to make some adjustments according to your own situation.
Then I'm not going to talk nonsense, let's get straight to the point: the general process of a real breakup.
The first step is to disconnect;
Because the other party really wants to break up with you, your entanglement at this time, humbling and making peace, is a source of trouble in your ex, so take advantage of this time, you just have to cut off the connection.
I saw a lot of bloggers on the Internet saying that a minor breakup will be broken for about 7 days, a serious breakup will be broken for about 15 days, and a more serious breakup will be broken for a month, which is actually very misleading.
I have introduced the role of disconnection to you before, you can think about it, if a person really wants to break up with you, do you think that in just 7 or 15 days, you can change that person's opinion of you?
Therefore, the number of days of disconnection, in principle, requires you to judge patiently, usually not very short, don't be blinded by your eagerness to contact your ex.
There is one more content here, that is, if your ex has not shown a great degree of disgust towards you since the breakup, do you think you should cut off contact?
Here you actually have to judge according to the reason for the breakup and the attitude of the other party, if you are a gap in the love level, or unattractive, you can still stick to the disconnection routine. If you don't disconnect, you'll spend more time letting each other see your changes.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
The second step is to find the breakup problem to change;
You are not left to wait in the same place during the disconnection, you have to learn to change yourselves and improve yourselves.
Maybe these words are too light, many people always think that it is very easy to change themselves and improve themselves, I have to tell you, the correct way to say it should be called transforming yourself, so that it can be effective.
In the cases I have actually encountered, there are very few people who can really be regarded as metamorphosis, because people's thinking has already formed their own thinking mode after decades of consolidation, and it is difficult to change it in a short period of time.
So more often than not, it's a matter of your own inner desire, how strong your desire is to redeem. Whether you are willing to abandon your original self in order to redeem yourself, and how much you are willing to pay for redemption, you have to ask your heart.
We have to understand that transformation is painful, and in this process, you will not receive a little care from the other party, nor will you receive a little positive encouragement, it is all based on your belief in perseverance.
I won't say much about this process, it's useless to talk more, and you need to experience it yourself.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
The third step is to create an intersection and redeem the other party.
In fact, in the redemption, we were deleted and blocked by our ex, or we felt that the intersection with our ex became less and we were very anxious, in fact, these are the least important in the redemption.
Because after all, you have been in a relationship, you want to find this person, as long as you are willing, I believe you can still find it, the key is that after you find it, you can be sure of success.
So if you do a good job in the second step, and create an intersection in the third step, you will be able to attract your ex, and you will have the possibility of recovering your success.
Finally, I wish you all good luck.
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