No partner is inherently perfect. To be able to walk through this life hand in hand, it all depends on the accumulation of time, little by little, to cultivate tacit understanding and enhance feelings.
Recently, the topic of Weibo #What is the essence of marriage and love# has remained hot, and the number of readings of the topic has reached 62.875 million. In this topic, there is a popular comment that we deeply agree: the essence of marriage and love is the connection and sharing of emotions.
Emotional connection and sharing are inseparable from all kinds of interactions between the two, especially the encouragement from the lover. And the "encouraging partner" is also the most popular type of partner on social networks at the moment.
Today, we'd like to talk to you about: What is an "encouraging partner"?
Why We Need an "Encouraging Companion"
Everyone has many abilities that are "hidden". If someone tells us the actual situation with certainty, or even is willing to accompany the practice, then these suppressed abilities can definitely be released.
Psychologist William James said, "The most ardent need of human nature is the desire to be affirmed." ”
This sentence also confirms the "Rosenthal effect": everyone craves praise and affirmation from others, and will internalize the expectations and approvals of others (especially those close and authoritative), affect their own cognition and emotions, and then change their behavior.
Therefore, people have a natural sense of trust in their partners, and the encouragement from their partners is more convincing, and we will feel unprecedented beauty in various incentives and infections.
What are the traits needed to be an encouraging partner
The "encouraging" partner needs to have a strong "self-driving system", and only when he is strong can he have the energy to promote the progress of his partner.
First of all, they usually have a strong sense of self-worth. People with a high sense of self-worth can not only recognize their own strengths, accept their emotions and shortcomings, but also have great psychological capacity to accommodate their partners. Allowing yourself to make mistakes, as well as allowing your partner to make mistakes, will give the other person room for trial and error.
Second, they are also insightful. In an intimate relationship, an insightful person will look at the partner with a developmental eye, discover their strengths, and be able to respond and judge objectively to the partner's decisions and evaluations, and can also give the partner a lot of constructive advice.
Finally, they need to continue to grow themselves. Continuous self-growth can improve self-awareness and execution. People who continue to grow themselves also have a constant stream of motivation to support their partner.
Finally, we want to show you that encouraging partners are not hard to come by. You don't have to leave your existing intimate relationship to find an encouraging partner.
An encouraging partner is precious, but love that takes time and sincerity is even more precious.
No partner is inherently perfect. To be able to walk through this life hand in hand, it all depends on the accumulation of time, little by little, to cultivate tacit understanding and enhance feelings.
In any case, the two should set a common goal, which should be to connect and share emotions. The two sides strive to establish a zipper-like intimate relationship, where they are connected and they are closely compatible.
Life is difficult, please cherish each other
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