A few days ago, there was a popular video on the Internet that was scolded miserably, and I found out that adults are facing choices all the time, this time, one side is the mother, the other side is the child, and the woman's final choice is to watch the crying netizens!
Here's how it happened:
The author of the video is just 30 years old, and three years ago her biological mother suffered a brain injury that left her with mobility problems.
And this author actually has a younger brother who is no longer in school, and he is not very motivated.
The woman and her son-in-law had a child last year, and they have to take care of the child and her mother on the other.
But the woman's mother, because of the torture of illness, was very emotionally unstable, often cried loudly, and asked her daughter to resign from her job to take care of and serve 24 hours a day, so that her young granddaughter could grow up in fear.
One day, the woman's mother howled again for no reason.
All of a sudden, he frightened the baby in the house, and even had a serious illness because of the fright.
She knew that if she continued like this, her mother had not fallen, and perhaps she would fall first, and then her mother would have no one to take care of her.
On the one hand, she gave birth to her mother and raised her, and on the other hand, she was a child waiting to be fed, she had never been so anxious, she had never been so distressed, she felt sorry for herself, and she felt sorry for her mother.
This time, the woman couldn't bear it anymore, and finally she made a decision: "send her mother to a nursing home"!
In this matter, she also knew that she might be the most "unfilial" daughter, and at the moment she made her choice, her biological mother had been "abandoned" by her......
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Seeing this, many netizens were about to suffocate.
is obviously his biological mother, and he is obviously a relative who has raised him for decades, but he made such a cruel choice because of his child.
In fact, everyone also understands that the woman is also very uncomfortable.
It's just that some netizens think that their mother is the most important.
Therefore, many netizens have commented:
"Come to think of it, when you were a child, your mother has always taken care of you"
"As far as I'm concerned, I'm still not going to give up on my mother. Looking for a nanny to take turns, she didn't give up on me when I was a child, and raised me with a handful of urine and. No matter how poor my family is, I will be allowed to go to school, hey, I can't repay their kindness in this life. ”
Yes, the grace of childbirth cannot be overstated, and when the real parents leave this world, we will think: how lively it would be if Mom and Dad were around!
Isn't this a very cruel act for a mother?
Your mother has raised you for decades, and one day you suddenly suffered misfortune, how can you "abandon" your mother because of your own excuses?
Therefore, in the adult world, sometimes you can only make choices if you are ruthless.
Just like this woman, if "the heart is not ruthless enough", more people may be tortured, herself, her son-in-law, her mother, and her children......
In fact, making a choice is not terrible at all, what is terrible is regretting after choosing, and what is even more terrible is that you can't bear the result after choosing.
If the mother is really sent to a nursing home, the caregiver does not take good care of the elderly, or the elderly person is in a bad mood and hurts himself by doing extreme behavior.
That woman will really regret it for the rest of her life!
A netizen in the comment area shared a story:
The son of our neighbor in my village was sent to a nursing home and passed away a few days ago. Or the people in the village went to the county seat to see this old man. At that time, the old man was lying on the bed, and his eyes could not be opened—his breath was hanging. He died two days after returning home. If you don't eat in a nursing home, you won't be fed, if you eat too much, you won't be fed.
In fact, according to the current configuration of most nursing homes in the mainland, if you don't spend a lot of money, other ordinary nursing homes do have many defects in taking care of the elderly.
But the current woman does not have enough ability to provide a better nursing home for her mother.
But it can't be said that women don't do their best, and the sorrow of adults is more than this one thing?
Some netizens said: When the child was young, the mother served with all her heart, but the mother was old and the child was unwilling to serve anymore.
But as netizens said, without her suffering, how do you know that making this decision is the most "perfect" choice?
Netizen: My mother has a cerebral hemorrhage and is now in the ICU, the doctor said: Even if it is good, it may be a vegetative state, today my family said that I will be discharged from the hospital and let me take care of it, my child will take the high school entrance examination next year, it will be so difficult.
Netizen: I have also experienced that when the child was just one year old, my mother did not wake up after cerebral hemorrhage, I took the child to take care of it, many times I carried the child on my back, wiped my mother and massaged, cleaned up, and my mother gave me the opportunity to be filial in the last three months.
Life is full of regrets, and many things, once you make a choice, you can't go back.
As Kriging puts it:
If you decide, you won't regret it, don't complain if you give up, everyone should pay for their actions, this is life, this is life.
Every difficult choice made in adulthood will become a lingering regret in the memory, superimposed into a heavy burden, until it crushes the person.
The grace of nurturing is difficult to repay for a lifetime.
Hollis Says:
Mom's mother, but also Mom's child
If there were only men in the world, I am afraid that mankind would have been extinct long ago.
Because there are women in the world, this society will continue to function.
A well-known gynecologist once said:
When a woman grows up to be a mother, she becomes more emotionally dependent on her mother
I guess that's not a lie.
Only after experiencing the pregnancy in October can we understand how much "sin" the mother suffered when she gave birth.
Some netizens shared her mother's story:
I can understand very well, my grandmother has been paralyzed for 15 years, this is how she suddenly yelled, my mother took care of her for 15 years, pushed her wheelchair every day to take her out, there were two car accidents, my mother broke her ribs and two arms were broken, she first stood up to get grandma up, and when she went to the hospital, she knew that she had a fracture, I admired her very much, I don't think I can do her like this.
As netizens said, when her parents are there, she has always been a child, and after her parents left, she is like a headless fly in life, and she has to carry everything by herself.
I think that the woman in the video can take care of her mother for three years, which is already very good, and we should not expect her to give up her family and children in order to continue to take care of her mother.
It's also unfair to the family, and it's obviously cruel to the child.
Everything is difficult at the beginning, maybe when this woman really sends her mother to a nursing home, all problems can be solved!
The suffering and hardship of a middle-aged person like a woman, who is the only child in the family, may not be able to understand and taste it if you have brothers and sisters.
The bitterness and pain in it are probably only known to the parties concerned!
Therefore, I hope everyone can look at this matter rationally and respect the woman's choice.
I don't know, do you agree with this view of the editor?
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