Home was supposed to be the warmest haven in the world. But in this bizarre father and daughter, home has become a cold and ruthless island.
This is a bizarre story that takes place in reality. A father and daughter, although they live under the same roof, have ignored each other for 12 years, and they are like passers-by. It wasn't until half a month ago that her daughter suddenly moved out, which brought this long-frozen contradiction to the surface.
What was the cause? Uncle Yu himself was puzzled. In 2008, he divorced his wife, leaving a property owned by him and his daughter. But since then, the relationship between father and daughter has cracked and become increasingly estranged.
Uncle Yu felt very aggrieved, he didn't know where he did anything wrong, if his daughter pointed it out, he could still correct it. However, the daughter never mentioned this, but avoided him.
In this way, two people eat and live together but are strangers, no one cares about anyone, and 12 years have passed in a flash. Now that his daughter has moved away, Uncle Yu doesn't know where she went, he only feels extremely lonely and hopes to reconcile with his daughter. But when he dialed his daughter's phone, he found that he had been blocked.
So the reporter contacted her daughter and finally revealed the reason for this bizarre father-daughter cold war. It turned out that the daughter felt that her father lacked love for her and her mother since she was a child. A more direct trigger was that once his son-in-law accidentally offended Uncle Yu and was slapped by him on the spot.
It was a trivial affair. The son-in-law saw Uncle Yu wiping the refrigerator with a floor towel, so he kindly reminded him to use the kitchen towel. Who knew this, Uncle Yu was as if he had been insulted, and replied, "You can use whatever you want, listen to you!" With that, he slapped his son-in-law.
The son-in-law did not fight back, but the daughter, who witnessed the incident, immediately hid in the bedroom. Unexpectedly, Uncle Yu chased after him, forcibly dragged his daughter out, and pushed her away. The daughter made up her mind at that time that she would never talk to this abusive father again.
That's 12 years. It wasn't until half a month ago that she finally moved out of that roof, away from the trauma of many years ago.
Regarding the scene back then, Uncle Yu only admitted that he had beaten his son-in-law, but denied pushing his daughter, saying, "I like my daughter very much, how can I be willing to push her." But even so, his daughter refused to reconcile with him. She said that she couldn't stand his behavior, so she had to move out, how could she reconcile?
Tracing back carefully, this family conflict can actually be attributed to two aspects: first, the father and daughter are indifferent and lack of mutual cherishment; The second is that the personalities of both parties are too stubborn and refuse to bow their heads first to resolve the contradictions.
If Uncle Yu was more considerate to his daughter, or if his daughter could forgive her father's temporary mistakes, how could she drift apart and finally break up? Unfortunately, this is not the case. Violence and paranoia distort the family affection that should be cherished by each other, and the father-daughter relationship falls into a bottomless abyss.
This incident has sparked widespread heated discussions among netizens. Some people think that the old man's stubbornness and selfishness are the key, some people criticize their daughter for being vicious and unkind, and some people accuse their daughter of just trying to evade the responsibility of support.
Everyone's point of view is different, but one thing is the same: it is clear that the father-daughter relationship has broken irreversibly, and it is no longer important whether it can be alleviated, but how to prevent this regret from playing out in other families.
In many cases, family conflicts are not due to huge differences that cannot be bridged, but rather a lack of understanding and tolerance for each other. Just like this father and daughter, if they could have met 12 years ago through sincere communication and candle, how could they have brought the relationship to the point of incompatibility?
Family members should first respect each other and communicate with each other as equals. When encountering disagreements, don't be malicious and suspicious, and don't have a bad attitude and hurtful language. Even if there is an argument, it is necessary to leave room for the other party, rather than making a desperate bet and cutting it outright.
Secondly, there should be more tolerance and understanding among family members. People who are not saints and sages will inevitably have negligence, but this is not enough to negate all good intentions. On the contrary, a little more forgiveness and understanding can help maintain the relationship.
In addition, third-party mediation channels should also be set up within the family to dredge up conflicts in a timely manner. If you still can't find common ground while reserving differences, you might as well live separately for a while and wait for the temperature to cool down before re-examining the problem.
Of course, a long separation is not a good thing. Family bonds should be nurtured, not remedied until they are on the verge of a rupture. For family relationships, everyone should be more cautious in their management, and don't wait until all their affection is exhausted before they regret it.
For example, this father and daughter, if Uncle Yu could realize his negligence earlier and take the initiative to repair the relationship with his daughter; Or if the daughter can be more tolerant and ignore her father's small mistakes, how can she make trouble in the family? Unfortunately, they do not have enough wisdom to keep this family affection.
Life is incomparably short, let alone the long-standing affection between father and daughter, which we should cherish more than that, instead of resting on our laurels and scheming, which ultimately ruined the irretrievable relationship.
There is often a lack of absolute right and wrong in life, and only by tolerating each other and resolving the mustard can we find that way out. And once they are stalemate and complacent, just like this father and daughter, they are destined to miss the last family affection in life.