In family life, grandma is a symbol of affection, but why do some mothers call grandma the "natural enemy" of their babies? What is the source of mothers' concerns?
One of the main reasons why mothers are suspicious of grandmothers with babies is the difference in educational concepts. With the changes of the times, the concept of modern parenting is changing with each passing day, and the concept of intergenerational education of grandmothers is often inconsistent with modern scientific parenting methods. Grandma may overfeed her baby because she thinks it is good for her health, but she doesn't know that it can burden your baby's digestive system, causing indigestion and absorption problems.
In addition, grandmothers may think that wearing more clothes is a good way to keep warm, but overdressing may cause your baby's body temperature to become hyperthermic and may even trigger heat cover syndrome. This difference in educational concepts makes grandmothers prone to health risks when they bring their babies, which makes modern mothers feel worried.
Secondly, the reason why mothers are prone to skepticism about grandma with a baby also lies in the risks that may arise from grandma's improper behavior. Due to differences in age and responsiveness, grandma may not be able to take care of her baby as attentively and meticulously as a young mother. Inadvertent behaviour, such as putting your baby in danger, eating inappropriate food, or wearing too much clothing, can pose a threat to your baby's health.
Grandmothers like to train their children in advance, such as training them to walk or other movements in advance. However, it should be noted that the baby's bone and muscle development needs to follow a natural pace and should not be too impatient. If your baby's bones and muscles aren't ready, forcing training can be harmful to your baby, potentially leading to problems such as poor bone development or muscle strains. Grandmothers should be patient and wait for the baby's own growth process, and do not train too early, so as not to affect the baby's healthy development.
There is also excessive kissing of the baby, although it is a way to express love, but the bacteria hidden in the adult's mouth may infect the baby and cause diseases. The ability of grandma with the baby may not be able to deal with emergencies in time, which makes mothers even more uneasy.
Finally, the collision of intergenerational relationship and modern education is also an important factor that causes mothers to have doubts about grandma with baby. Mothers hope to establish a good intergenerational relationship through grandma and baby, but then there is a collision of educational concepts. Modern mothers respect their grandmother's experience, but they also want her to embrace modern parenting concepts.
Lack of communication and conflict of educational concepts may lead to differences between grandmothers' care styles and mothers' expectations, increasing the uncertainty and risks in the process of raising babies.
Mothers can communicate openly with their grandmothers about parenting ideas and expectations by establishing effective communication channels. Respect grandma's experience and dedication, but also gradually guide grandma to accept modern parenting methods, such as scientific feeding, reasonable dressing, etc. Through mutual understanding and respect, we can reduce the conflict of educational concepts and improve the quality of baby's rearing.
Secondly, mothers can provide timely guidance and supervision during the process of grandma taking care of the baby. Try to keep your baby safe and healthy to avoid harm to your baby from your grandmother's misbehavior. Mothers can make a detailed parenting plan and precautions to follow with grandma to ensure that the baby is well cared for and educated.
Finally, mothers can also choose a flexible parenting style and adjust the parenting strategy according to the baby's growth stage and grandma's characteristics. Under the principle of the supremacy of the baby's health and happiness, we will gradually guide the grandmother to accept the modern parenting concept and jointly promote the healthy growth of the baby.
When grandmothers are faced with the sound advice of their mothers, they can adopt an open and inclusive attitude. First of all, grandmothers can listen carefully to their mothers' opinions and suggestions and understand their concerns and expectations. Mothers are usually concerned about their baby's health and well-being, and making recommendations is for the sake of their baby's health.
Secondly, grannies can communicate and discuss constructively with moms. In the exchange, grandmothers can share their own experiences and opinions, and at the same time, they should be open-minded and accept the rationality of modern parenting concepts. Through rational dialogue and mutual respect, a consensus can be reached to find the right parenting style for your baby.
In addition, grandmothers can gradually adjust their behavior and habits to meet the expectations of mothers and modern parenting standards. Try to accept new educational concepts, and gradually improve in actual operation, so as to improve the quality of baby's raising and healthy growth. In this way, the relationship between family members will be more harmonious, and the baby's growth will be healthier and happier.