In the TV series "The Story of Cheng Huan", the contrast between Mai Chenghuan's mother Liu Wanyu and grandmother Chen Shuzhen, two middle-aged and elderly women, is really tragic.
Mai's mother Liu Wanyu married from Anhui to Shanghai, and found an honest Shanghai man to take root. After getting married, she became a housewife, focusing on her children, but she also lived around pots and pans and stoves every day. When the children grow up, the husband drives for the big boss, the daughter has a rich second-generation boyfriend, and the son is about to become a barrister.
And grandma Chen Shuzhen's first marriage and Yao Zhiming's grandfather worked side by side in the shopping mall after marriage, but they eventually broke up because of the difference in business philosophy and values, as well as Yao Zhiming's grandfather's domestic violence. Later, grandma and Grandpa Mai talked about a twilight love, until they sent their beloved man away, and grandma had no relatives by her side. The son didn't recognize himself, and the son of the wife felt that she was occupying the magpie's nest and occupying his mother's position and felt guilty. In desperation, my grandmother had to live in a nursing home and take care of herself. Grandma's only decency is to wear a cheongsam every day, dress up beautifully, and go to afternoon tea.
If you meet the two for the first time, passers-by may think that Mama Mai is really a typical example of relying on her own efforts to get a better life, and Grandma is a typical old lady with a hard life.
But "Chenghuan Ji" tells us: Liu Wanyu's so-called success is based on squeezing her daughter's husband, but behind Chen Shuzhen's failure, it is all wisdom and calmness.
Liu Wanyu is a typical housewife, after the social value is not reflected, she desperately grasps the value of her husband and children, and realizes her sense of worth by showing off the success of her children and husband to the outside world.
As a result of this, although Liu Wanyu has true love for her husband, she also sincerely cares for her children. But in traditional Chinese thinking, housewives do not create social value. All of her social values come entirely from her family members. Therefore, Liu Wanyu embodies her dissatisfaction with her husband's inability to make a lot of money, as well as her strong desire to control her children who must be obedient.
The children of ordinary families can't be like Mai Chenghuan, who can still be so emotionally stable when they meet such a strong controlling mother. Because the anxiety of the mother is bound to be passed on to the children. But Mai Chenghuan is stable in the core, able to catch the bad emotions transmitted by his mother, and use his own way to dispel them. What is shown is that it is a foolish filial piety to the mother, and in exchange for the mother, the mother has less and less awareness of the bottom line, and in the end, even the daughter's engagement can make decisions for her daughter. Mai Chenghuan's connivance and pampering of Mai's mother made Mai's mother finally shoot the arrow at herself.
Mai's mother never realized that the more she grasped, the farther away her daughter would be from her, and the tighter she grasped the family, the lower the probability of success for the family with her experience that she had not succeeded. The less capital she can show off, the less.
Let's take a look at grandma Chen Shuzhen again. She has been fighting for herself all her life. The husband and himself do not agree on the three views, and the domestic violence will leave. When you meet your lover at dusk, you get married. In addition to the family, she also built the Xin'anli Hotel into a bigger home, which not only makes her life worry-free in her later years, but also the wisdom that the employees treat themselves as relatives, and the wisdom honed when building the big family of Xin'anli, which is also the confidence that grandma can take care of herself no matter who comes or goes.
Mai's mother takes care of a family of four, and her grandmother takes care of a hotel group can be peaceful, which woman is more wise, and she immediately stands out, right?
There are too many "wheat mothers" in real life, because the sense of existence given by society is extremely low, resulting in domination at home, regardless of men and women, behind them is the logic of the victim, and they feel that it is the responsibility of others to mix badly. But those who really live a good life are always the ones who solve problems by themselves and make continuous progress in solving them.
In other words, Mai's mother thinks that her failure is not her own problem, so the chicken baby, the result is that the relationship with the baby is tense, and her life is not good.
Grandma has been chicken herself from beginning to end, so the days are really rich, and no one can be rich for her.
And the reason why grandma likes her granddaughter Mai Chenghuan, who is not related by blood, is because Mai Chenghuan rarely inherits his mother's victim mentality, but has always hoped to improve his life through his own efforts. Grandma saw in Mai Chenghuan her young self and the qualities she had to succeed.
In fact, if the relationship between Dad Mai and his grandmother had not been stiff at that time, Mak Chenghuan might have learned more from his grandmother and grew up faster.
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