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(Note: This article is purely fictional, if you have similar experiences, it is purely coincidental, please read it sensibly)
During the Qingming Dynasty, I went back to my hometown with my wife to go to my father's grave, and by chance I met an uncle who was adding soil to my father's grave, and had a brief chat with him, but it evoked a memory of my past.
It was about more than ten years ago, I was still in elementary school, my father hadn't had an accident yet, and our family of three was still living happily together.
At that time, our family's life was relatively okay, my parents were both people who lived a good life, never extravagant and wasteful, sometimes there was no work on the construction site, and my father would find some odd jobs to do, so my family also saved some money in those years.
My father is a brother and sister, he is the second in line, and I also have an uncle and a sister-in-law, because our family life is okay, and my grandmother always asks us to help the poorer uncle's family.
If you want me to say that my uncle's family is poor, I can't blame others, my aunt loves to play mahjong, since she got married, she has never worked formally, and she is soaking in the mahjong parlor in the village all day long.
My uncle, who has a housekeeping skill, only went out to work for two days when he ran out of money, and when the salary was paid, he immediately ate and drank nonsense, and he didn't look at the things he bought was not within his spending power level.
My grandmother and father have said Uncle many times because of this incident, Uncle always said disapprovingly, people just live like this, and they can't enjoy it, as the old saying goes, "there must be a road before the car reaches the mountain", what is there that can't get by, besides, there are no you, don't always be too pessimistic.
I have to say that the uncle's mentality is really good, and fortunately, the aunt is not a self-motivated person, otherwise they would have to fight every day, and they would not have been able to get along for a long time.
When I was in junior high school, my cousin wanted to marry his daughter-in-law, and my uncle came to our family to borrow money, saying that he wanted to build another house for my cousin in the village, and asked them to move there after they got married.
At that time, I was still in school, and I couldn't spend much money, so my parents took out 120,000 yuan for the uncle's family as soon as they discussed, and called the group of friends on the construction site to help the uncle's family build a house.
But when he got to the uncle, he didn't appreciate it, saying that he had already found the engineering team, and he didn't have to worry about this matter anymore, and he would handle all this himself.
Father and grandmother have been happy about this for a long time, you must know that although the eldest uncle is the eldest son, he has not been worried at all since he was a child, and his father and grandmother are helping him do all kinds of things.
This time, the eldest uncle finally got his heart into it, and they definitely couldn't hold back, so they didn't care about it.
But after my uncle took the money, he didn't start the construction for a month, and my father was suspicious and asked my uncle, and the uncle said that he had found someone to calculate the auspicious day, and it was not yet time to start construction.
When it came to the next month, the uncle told his father that the family had made an appointment with his in-laws to travel together, and he had to go out for a few days, and asked his father to help him take care of the yard and help feed the kittens and puppies at home.
My father didn't care, so he agreed, but the accident happened at this time.
On the third day after the uncle left, it suddenly rained here, and my father was worried that the uncle's house would leak, so he wanted to go over and have a look, but his mother told him to wait for the rain to be lighter.
Uncle's house is not close to our house, one is in the east, the other is in the west, usually cycling to not feel far, this walk plus rainy days seem to be a long distance.
Because he wants to build a house for his cousin, he has piled up a lot of materials, wood and other things in the uncle's house, which is not stable, and he loves to fall when it rains and winds, but the uncle also piles him on a high place, which increases the risk factor all of a sudden.
After his father inspected the uncle's house, he was about to walk back, when the wood piled up on the high place suddenly had a tendency to fall downward.
At this time, it was almost an hour before my father went to my uncle's house, and the rain gradually eased, and my mother said to me, you wait at home, I will go to your uncle's house to see your father.
About half an hour or so, the landline at home rang, I picked up the phone, and I heard my mother say anxiously, Xiaokang, you hurry up and get dressed and come to your uncle's side, your father has an accident, hurry up, let's go to the hospital with the car.
After hanging up the phone, I didn't dare to delay, I ran out in slippers, and when I arrived at the hospital, the doctor told us that my father's condition was not optimistic, because he had been pressed for too long, and it was the best result to be able to save his life.
After the doctor left, the nurse came to urge us to pay the operation fee, and my mother and I were in a hurry, and we didn't have any money in our hands, so we called my aunt and asked her to send some money to come over first to deal with the emergency.
My aunt's family lives in the town, and it came very quickly, and my aunt and uncle took more than 30,000 yuan and told my mother that they could only make up so much, and they lent most of the family's money to my eldest brother to build a house.
The mother calculated the family's money and felt that the operation and hospitalization fees were not enough, so she called the uncle, thinking that she would get the money lent to him back and pay the fee first, and then give it to him after his father was safely discharged from the hospital.
After answering the uncle's phone, the mother quickly told the uncle the ins and outs of the matter, but the uncle hung up the mother's phone on the grounds that he wanted to accompany his in-laws, and waited until he went back, and never called again.
My father didn't survive in the end, and the 30,000 yuan my aunt brought was enough, so my mother and I took my father's body home and put it in the mourning hall at home.
My aunt called my uncle, and this time he answered, but he never showed up at my father's funeral and never returned to his hometown.
Since then, my mother has hated the uncle's family, she thinks that her father died because she took care of their family's house, and she asked them to borrow money without giving them a don't say anything, and her brother's funeral should also be coming, not only did they not come, but they didn't even make a greeting call.
It was also after this incident that we cut off contact with the uncle's family, and in the second month after my father's death, the uncle's family was finally willing to go home from outside.
Perhaps because he was ashamed, he didn't dare to come to our house, but just burned a few pieces of paper money on my father's grave.
At the end of the year, the uncle built the house for his cousin, and in May of the following year, the cousin and sister-in-law got married.
My aunt and mother said that the family did not have an overnight feud, so they took this opportunity to say hello to the two of them, but the mother refused, did not go to the cousin's wedding scene, and did not pay for the gift.
But I don't think my mother did anything wrong, I don't think anyone can accept this matter so quickly, no matter who puts it on him.
However, after my cousin got married, my uncle always helped our family openly and secretly, but my mother didn't appreciate it, and she always resented my uncle's family.
Seven years have passed in the blink of an eye, and I have graduated from college, have a stable job, and have bought a three-bedroom, two-hall house in the town by my own efforts.
When I was twenty-seven years old, my girlfriend and I got married, and my mother said that the family had not had a happy event for a long time, and the wedding was not held in the hotel.
My wife and I had no opinion, so we followed my mother's wishes, and when I informed the guests, I asked my mother if she wanted to inform my uncle's family, and my mother said, let it be, the grievances of our previous generation should not affect your generation.
I thought about it and informed my uncle's family, but they didn't show up at my wedding, and their names weren't on the gift book.
I thought that was the end of our relationship, they didn't come to my father's funeral, and they didn't attend my wedding now, neither at my mother's nor with me.
After the wedding feast, my wife and I were out to see off the guests, and I suddenly caught a glimpse of a person sneaking around my door, I said a word to my wife, and walked over to the person.
As we got closer and closer, I realized that the sneaky man was actually my great uncle.
After seeing me, my uncle took out an envelope from his bosom and told me that there was a card and 2,000 yuan in cash, and the money in the card was the money that our family had lent to their family to build a house, and the 2,000 yuan in cash was for my entourage.
I asked the uncle, since he came, why didn't he go in, and the uncle said that he didn't want to go to the events of the year, and felt that he was speechless to face me and my mother, and he didn't have the luxury of getting the forgiveness of the two of us, so he didn't go in to dislike people.
After saying that, the uncle left in a hurry, and I took the envelope and looked at the uncle's back, and I didn't know how to tell my mother about it for a while.
After all the guests in the house left, I stopped my mother, who was cleaning up the house, took out the envelope given by the uncle, and told my mother that it was sent by the uncle, and that it contained a card of 120,000 yuan and 2,000 yuan in cash.
To my surprise, my mother did not seem surprised by this incident, and my mother took the envelope and said, "Your aunt has already told me, you can accept this money with peace of mind, this is your father in exchange for his life, if your father is still here, your uncle will definitely not pay back this money."
As soon as I heard my mother's words, I knew that she was still blaming my uncle's family in her heart, after all, there was a life between our two families.
After the wedding, we took my mother to the town to live with us, and only went back to our hometown for a few days when we went back to our father's grave.
Although we don't live at home, our house is well taken care of, and the neighbors told us that the uncle comes to the house from time to time to see, and if there is any leakage, it will be repaired in time.
In the past few years, because my mother's health has become worse and worse, she has not returned to her hometown with us, but I told her all these things.
My mother still told me not to be disturbed by the grievances of their older generation, and to get along with my cousin as we wanted, but I think that's how our relationship is, after all, no matter how good it is, it can't go back to the past!