As the saying goes: "Things gather by like, people by groups", in this life, if you want to be successful and want to be respected by others, you must be with excellent people.
Some people choose to be gregarious, thinking that they will become good with such people, and some people choose not to be social, thinking that it will be easy to be with such people.
But in fact, gregarious people also have many advantages.
And those excellent people, they will not go with the crowd to get along with others, but have their own thoughts and opinions, and have their own unique personal charm.
And the reason why these excellent people choose not to fit in is because they have their own unique ideas and opinions.
Each of us has our own circle and our own favorite things. Therefore, the really good people are often not very social.
- People who don't fit in have their own unique minds
In this life, if you want to be excellent, you must learn to think. Only by having your own unique ideas can you make yourself better.
If a person chooses to be unsociable, then he will look for his own circle. They will make an effort to associate with others just to gain more knowledge and experience in them.
But in reality, if they don't like these interactions, it's hard to fit in. Because in the process of interacting, they will find that these people have no thoughts, and will only go with the flow.
Therefore, they can only choose not to fit in and find what they really want. Over time, they develop their own unique ideas and opinions, which will also influence their future direction.
Therefore, people who do not fit in often have their own unique ideas and opinions.
- People who don't fit in like to challenge themselves
Each of us has our own circle, and in this circle, we meet all kinds of people. Some people are gregarious, while others are not.
And those who don't fit in, they will also choose to join a circle they like, in which they can show their talents to their heart's content.
They don't go with the flow every day, like those who fit in. On the contrary, they will like to challenge themselves to find their own share of happiness in this world.
Therefore, the really good people are often not very social. Because they have their own unique opinions and thoughts, and have their own unique personal charm.
- People who don't fit in are better able to focus on their own things
There was once a story about two people who went to climb a mountain together and saw a wild dog running after a little rabbit on the way. So one of them stopped and said to his friend, "Let's stop here, go a little further and we'll see the rabbit."
But another said, "We're already tired, and we'll be even more tired if we go any further, and the rabbits will definitely be scared away by us." ”
For the views of these two people, many people must agree. But really good people tend to choose not to fit in because they know what they want to do and what they need to do right now.
And they will be more focused on their own things and will not be affected by some inconsequential things. Each of us should learn to think for ourselves and not lose sight of what we really want to do because we fit in.
- People who don't fit in can always shine in what they are good at
People who don't fit in tend to be better in what they are good at.
In these areas, they will be more confident and will work harder, so that they can become better.
When you shine in what you're good at, you will find that being gregarious is not that important.
And those who don't fit in tend to do better than those who fit in.
They will not change their minds because of some opinions and ideas of others, but do what they want to do and do what they are good at.
Being unsociable does not mean that it is bad, on the contrary, if a person has something he likes to do and is good at, he will be better.
So, being unsociable doesn't mean it's bad.