Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Love is like a cup of hot tea, held in your hand, you can instantly warm from your body to your heart.
A man treats her gently, can brush away all the worries and anxieties in her heart, completely relax, and enjoy the time with each other.
A man's gentleness and carefulness can also make her more determined in her choice. Stand by the man's side at all times and walk with him.
A woman hopes that a man can treat her gently and be cherished by him.
Let a man in life, be gentle with you, and take care of you carefully.
02. Treat him gently and exchange hearts for hearts
I have heard such a saying: "Gentleness is like a magic key, which can open the shackles of the soul and make people feel infinitely relieved." ”
Managing love is also a beating of one heart to another, awakening his enthusiasm and initiative.
If a woman wants to be treated gently by a man, she must first let the man feel your tenderness and thoughtfulness, and feel the sincere companionship you give him.
Shen Yi's husband has been under a lot of work pressure recently, and he is busy until late at night every day, and his words are full of exhaustion.
One day, Shen Yi called a few friends to come to the house to play, and it was very lively, and after her husband came back from work, he just said hello and entered the study, seemingly a little dissatisfied.
Shen Yi and her friends agreed to get together next time, and after everyone left, she brought her husband a bowl of chicken soup and massaged his shoulders to relieve his fatigue.
After her husband's face was calm, she asked him again, what day is it?
Only then did her husband remember that today was Shen Yi's birthday, and when he realized his negligence, he apologized again and again, saying that he had been too busy recently and forgot her birthday.
Shen Yi smiled softly and said, I know you are stressed, so I called a few friends to accompany me, and now you still have time to say happy birthday to me.
The husband's heart instantly softened, and he felt lucky to have such an understanding, gentle and lovely wife, and he was determined not to let her down, and to take care of her with all his love.
A woman uses tenderness to awaken the love in his heart, which will allow herself to gain more tenderness.
03. Express your needs so that men know how to do it
There are many differences between men and women in terms of their way of thinking.
If so, the woman always lets him guess, which is not conducive to the management of feelings.
If a woman wants to be treated gently and carefully by a man, she must learn to express her needs in a timely manner and tell her what she thinks and feels in her heart.
For example, if a woman wants a sense of ritual, she can remind the man of what important days she has recently and what kind of date she is looking forward to.
Or, a woman confides in a man about her grievances, not necessarily to ask the man to stand up for her, but just hopes that he can be a listener and let her vent all the negative emotions in her heart.
In this way, men will know how to do it better.
Some women, in marriage, don't know how to express themselves, but they complain that men don't pay.
When women learn to express, men will also give more precisely and provide emotional value for themselves.
Men will pay close attention to the anniversaries in their lives, surprise women, listen to women, and be her most loyal listeners.
The relationship between two people will become more harmonious, more tacit, and the sense of happiness will be greatly improved.
04. Give praise and make men do better
William Henry Chaney said, "Praise is an encouragement that brings out the best in people." ”
Women, giving timely praise and affirmation to men's dedication will make men have more motivation and confidence.
He will put more time and effort into trying to do better and make the relationship sweeter.
For example, a man gives a woman a gift, and a woman praises a man for his vision and taste. Complimenting him on the gift he gave is exactly what he wants, and it will inspire more enthusiasm and initiative in men.
Men will give more attention to the woman in life, understand her needs, and meet the expectations of her heart.
Or, in front of friends, praise men for their ability and talent, and dare to fight hard in their careers, men will be encouraged and recognized, and they will work harder to create a promising future for women.
The power of praise is immense and infinite.
Women, praising a man more, can motivate him to grow and make him a better partner.
Women should make good use of praise and learn to discover the strengths of men, so that he can exert greater charm in the management of feelings.
05. Summary
In the world of feelings, blindly taking, complaining, and blaming will not make the relationship better, but will quickly consume love.
Women should master the ways and skills of managing feelings, and exchange hearts for hearts.
Use gentleness to knock on the door of a man's heart and let the feelings continue to heat up.
Give love with your heart, give gentleness, and guide men how to love, so that they can reap the happiness they want.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.