If you think your boyfriend doesn't know how to coax you, you may just think that they are too straight, but it is not necessarily that they are too straight, but that they are expressing the wrong meaning.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
You can think about it, when you first fell in love, whether they were straight men or not, they at least spared no effort in coaxing you. For fear that a little mistake will make you unhappy, and he will be frightened when you frown, so it's not that they don't coax you, but as the relationship lasts longer, their thoughts begin to change.
You can understand that before falling in love with you, the most important thing they do is to chase you down, so they are all acting in order to make you happy, and you have to be coaxed when you are angry.
But if you are in love, at this time, as the man understands you and the meaning of your behavior, he is already very clear, and at this time they will judge whether they need to coax you according to the importance of the matter. In other words, the importance of this matter has been hierarchical, and there is no need to be coaxed equally.
We have also talked before that men think rationally, that is, they will choose important and urgent things to deal with. Then after being in love with you for a long time, many of your things don't seem so important in their minds.
The importance mentioned here does not mean that it is not important in the eyes of us outsiders, but it is divided from the hierarchy, and it is not very important at a very high level.
For example, if you have your eye on a bag that you've been talking about for a long time, then it's quite high at this level, and they may pay attention to buying you one. But if you take a fancy to this bag and you just mention it casually, in your boyfriend's mind, this bag is unlikely to affect your relationship, and he will not be interested.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
In the same way, if you say that you have recently shouted about weight loss, and you are simply complaining, your boyfriend may think that you are not at ease about this matter, and it must not be particularly important. But if you mention it every day, he will know that you care more, and he will pay more attention to this part in follow-up chats, food, etc.
So, a lot of times guys don't coax you, not because they don't think you're important, but because they think that what you're currently expressing isn't important enough.
At this time, some people may ask: how to solve this situation?
My opinion is: don't fix it. If it doesn't affect your love, there is no need to take it too seriously many times, because there is a difference between the pursuit and the time of love, if you want the other party to treat you as if you were pursuing you, then this is actually a bit demanding for your man.
I hope you can recognize the law of love, that is, there is love and there is insipidity, what you have to do is not to keep in the state of pursuit, but to find your own love mode in the run-in with each other, so that you can better maintain the concentration of love.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Finally, let's talk about the situation at the time of recovery, after the breakup, there are also some female friends who want to arouse the concern of their boyfriends by selling miserable, or by caring for each other in exchange for the other party's concern, this is the same reason, we must understand the emotional form of each stage, there are emotional characteristics of each stage, rather than using the previous feelings to bind the current way of getting along.
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