The ancients said that "good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June", which shows how powerful language is, so we must pay special attention to what we say, because once some words are said wrong, it is the water that is spilled, which can never be recovered, and the damage caused cannot be recovered.
When people get along with each other, we must pay special attention to the language, what to say and what not to say, and we must think carefully before saying it, otherwise saying the wrong thing may cause a breakdown in the relationship, and there is no way to repair it.
Especially in intimate relationships, we should pay more attention to language, lovers get along with each other, it is easy to have quarrels when there are contradictions, and people who are angry are easy to say unscrupulously and say some wrong things that should not be said.
If you don't want the relationship to break down, and you don't want the two of you to have a pimple in your heart for the rest of your life, then you must pay attention to some words, and you would rather let it rot in your stomach than say it to your lover, otherwise you will regret it for the rest of your life.
1. You're useless
Why put this sentence in the first article? Because this sentence is very, very lethal, as long as one of the husband and wife says this sentence, basically the relationship is over.
Whether a man says it to a woman, or a woman says it to a man, the heart of the person who hears this sentence is already dead.
This sentence often happens when two people quarrel, because at this time in anger, it is easy to say this sentence, maybe to win the other party, or maybe it is too angry and wants to shut up the other party.
But in fact, is he really a useless thing? No one is useless, and as long as he has even a little value, he cannot be said to be useless.
Maybe he's lazy at home and doesn't like to do housework, but he's working hard to make money outside.
Maybe he doesn't make a lot of money, but he spends all his time outside of work taking care of his family.
Maybe he doesn't have the gentleness of others, but he carries it when he encounters something.
Everyone has advantages and disadvantages, no one is perfect, there must be advantages and disadvantages. Don't say this in anger, you can't go back to your relationship after saying it.
Second, you just don't love me anymore
Any relationship will have a dull period, there will be times when each other is burned out, and it is often easy to doubt the other party's love for themselves at this time.
Because the emotional concentration is low at this time, he may not spend so much attention on himself, he may not care so much about himself, or he may spend more time outside.
Many women like to say "You just don't love me anymore" at this time, and this sentence is really cool to say, especially when you see his hurried explanation, you will feel a trace of pleasure.
But stop it, don't say it again, because when you say it, the other person will also start to wonder if they don't love you anymore.
If you talk about it again and again, maybe he himself will slowly come to believe that he doesn't love you anymore.
As for yourself, you will keep looking for evidence to prove that he really doesn't love you anymore, and if you have the slightest clue, you will feel that he doesn't love you anymore, and then reason with him, saying, "Look, if you treat me like this, you don't love me anymore." ”
Originally, he loved you, but as you make trouble like this, his love for you will slowly decrease and he will no longer love you.
You should keep emphasizing to him that he loves you, encourage him to love you, and give positive feedback when he gives you some details of love, then he will only love you more and more.
The above two sentences must be remembered, never say them, no matter how hard you quarrel, no matter how fierce the quarrel is, no matter how angry you are, you must hold back and not say it.
Because these words are spoken, either to hurt the other person's feelings, which will affect the feelings between you, or to make the other person start to doubt the feelings between you.
To learn the art of speaking, don't think that your partner is your own person, don't learn the art of speaking, just say everything, the more intimate the person, the more you should pay attention to speaking.
Don't give all the tenderness to outsiders, and give all the bad temper to the person next to the pillow, this is the most worth the loss.
Don't say anything that will make you regret it, don't say anything that ruins your feelings, or you will only regret it in the future.
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Stills from "The Road to Revolution".