01
The night before, my mother-in-law told me that she wanted to take my sister, who gave birth to her second child, back to her parents' house for confinement, and the next day she took it upon herself to take it back.
Looking at my husband, who was silent and silent, I didn't make any noise, packed my luggage and took the child back to my parents' house.
This is the second time my sister has gone back to her parents' house for confinement. When my sister gave birth to her first child two years ago, I had just married my husband not long ago, and it was not good to openly work against my in-laws, so I could only suffer this dumb loss.
However, perhaps it was my acquiescence, or perhaps my non-resistance, that made my mother-in-law think that she had taken control of me, so she asserted it again.
02
My name is Su Yun, and I have been married to my husband for 5 years, but I have also been angry for 5 years. In my 5-year marriage, I was aggrieved but had no way to complain.
When my sister went back to her parents' house for confinement for the first time, I was a new daughter-in-law, and it was difficult to deal with my in-laws. And when my mother-in-law saw that I had no objection, she intensified her efforts.
It just so happened that I quit my job at that time and had not yet found a new job, so the burden of taking care of my sister's confinement fell on me. Five meals a day must be carefully cooked according to the recipes given by the mother-in-law.
If there is a slight negligence or mistake, the mother-in-law will point fingers. finally survived for a month, and then my sister took the child back to her house.
03
After that, I became pregnant and gave birth to a child, but I didn't have the treatment of my mother-in-law to serve the confinement and take care of the child. My mother-in-law said that she was not in good health, she was prone to dizziness and high blood pressure, and she couldn't serve the confinement and couldn't take the child, so she asked me to find my mother-in-law.
So, my sister can go back to her parents' house for confinement and enjoy the treatment of her parents and her mother's brother and daughter-in-law, but I haven't even served my own mother-in-law.
After my maternity leave, I asked my mother-in-law to help with the baby. But my mother-in-law said that I should take it with me, and my mother felt sorry for me and couldn't bear to let me quit my high-paying job, so she came.
As a result, as soon as my mother came, my mother-in-law spread her hands, didn't care about anything, started to be the shopkeeper, and picked and chose my mother at every turn, calling my mother, as if my mother was a free nanny.
04
My mother worked hard in my house for more than half a year, leaving all kinds of illnesses, I was distressed, and I was angry with my mother-in-law's practice of both taking care of the work and shaking off the shopkeeper, so I sent my mother home and let my mother-in-law be fully responsible.
The mother-in-law was so angry that she jumped to her feet and shouted that she wanted to go back to her hometown. I told her without flinching, if you go back, I won't care about the pension after that. This frightened my mother-in-law and reluctantly helped me take care of the child.
It has been less than a year since my mother-in-law had a child, and my sister rumored that she was going to have a second child. The mother-in-law felt sorry for her daughter, thinking that her sister was an elderly mother, and her mother-in-law was not careful, so she offered to take her sister to the family to care for the elderly.
My mother-in-law just informed me, and the next day she picked me up. Looking at the room full of people, I packed my luggage and took the children back to my parents' house without saying a word.
05
When I went back to my parents' house, my mother-in-law called first, saying that I was gone, who would serve her daughter, she would not serve the mother herself, and the meals she cooked were not to my sister's appetite, and she hoped that I could come back to help, just serve my sister as she did when she gave birth to a child.
I sneered and directly scolded my mother-in-law, whose daughter will serve. My mother-in-law's face is also too big, and her daughter-in-law doesn't serve her confinement, but she wants to take care of me.
After 7 days, my husband called again, and as soon as he opened his mouth, he collapsed: Wife, I was wrong, I shouldn't have agreed to my mother taking my sister back for confinement. My sister's person is so hard to serve.
I didn't speak, and my husband continued, "Wife, you just left me and went back to my parents' house, but it hurt me." My parents are not good at cooking, and now I cook every day for my sister to eat. My sister is picky, this dislikes that picky, and she doesn't eat the food you cook.
06
My husband apologized to me bitterly and admitted his mistake, saying that he would not acquiesce to his mother next time, and hoped that I could come back to preside over the overall situation, and the whole family was looking forward to your return.
I think it's ridiculous, my in-laws and husbands are all guarding my eldest sister at home, but no one cooks. Because they're all accustomed to sit back and enjoy it, waiting for me to cook and serve them.
I still refused my husband and asked him to either send my sister back to her mother-in-law's house and let her husband and mother-in-law serve the confinement child, or pay for the confinement lady to serve, anyway, I will not serve again.
My refusal made all my in-laws angry. They all think that I will not save me when I see death, think that I am selfish and indifferent, and would rather go back to my parents' house to hide and relax, rather than work hard for a month to serve my sister's confinement.
I just find it ridiculous and pathetic about this. Do you think I have the obligation to serve my sister's confinement child?