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My name is Zhang Fugui and I am 65 years old. After I retired, I received a pension of a few hundred yuan and lived in a small village in my hometown with my wife Liu Cuihua. Although life is tight, we are actually quite content. The people in the village are very simple, love each other, and live a simple but comfortable life.
We only have one child, Zhang Jianguo, who is 35 years old. A few years ago, he left the village and worked hard in the city with his daughter-in-law Li Shuzhen. Nowadays, they live a petty bourgeois life in the city, and their lives are okay. They have an 8-year-old son, Zhang Xiaolong, who is the greatest pride of our old bones.
Although my wife and I live in poverty, we also rely on each other for our lives and grow old together. It's just that I've been thinking about my son and lovely grandson who are working hard outside the home, hoping that they can live a better life in the city.
One day, I said to Liu Cuihua: "It's not interesting for us to stay at home honestly." It is better to go to the city to live at your son's house for a while, not only to see their life, but also to help bring your grandchildren. "
Liu Cuihua hesitated for a moment and said, "But can we really adapt to life in the city? "
I hurriedly comforted her: "What's there to be afraid of, son, haven't they always been thinking about us? Let's go, just in time to share some housework and help." "
Liu Cuihua was finally convinced by me, and we began to pack our bags and get ready to go. She deliberately pickled some pickles, saying that she was afraid that she would not be used to eating them in the city. I took out 50,000 yuan from my pension and planned to use it to buy some daily necessities for my son's family.
Just as we were about to leave, Aunt Liu from the village came to see us and said, "Hey, are you going to the city? "
I smiled and said, "Don't worry, auntie, it's just to go and live for a few days, and the heart of the old man in the countryside who fits my son." "
Aunt Liu shook her head and advised: "Then you have to be careful, don't bring your antique-like habits to the city and hurt the hearts of your sons and daughters-in-law." "
After a day of training, we finally arrived in the city where our son was. My son and daughter-in-law picked us up at the station, and my wife and I were relieved to see that their living conditions were not bad.
As soon as I got out of the car, Zhang Xiaolong threw himself into my arms, and he shouted excitedly: "Grandparents, you are here!" I burst into tears of joy and hugged him all at once.
My son patted me on the shoulder and said with a smile, "Dad, you are finally willing to come." If you need anything in the future, just ask, and my son will serve you and the two elders. "
I hurriedly waved my hand and said, "Where, where, let's come to share your housework, you're welcome." "
Daughter-in-law Li Shuzhen is a white-collar worker and is very busy every day. She got up early in the morning, had a simple breakfast and hurried out to work. I often come back late from work, sometimes it's almost nine o'clock. When she gets home, she buys takeout for dinner on the side of the road.
Once, when I saw her eating takeout again, I persuaded her: "Shuzhen, it's not good for you to eat takeout every day, it's not good for your health." Why don't I cook you some home-cooked food?"
She said a little impatiently: "Oh Dad, don't worry about this kind of worry for your old man." I'm busy with work, so I don't have time to cook. "
In order to reduce the burden on my daughter-in-law, I took the initiative to take on most of the housework in the family. I wake up early in the morning, clean first, and then prepare three meals. At noon, my son and daughter-in-law were both working outside, and Zhang Xiaolong was the only one at home, so I would accompany him to lunch, and then help him with his homework.
Once, Zhang Xiaolong had difficulties with his homework, and I was about to go over to help him, but my daughter-in-law stopped me and said, "Oh, Dad, your old man's education method is too outdated, let me come." As he spoke, he took Zhang Xiaolong aside and taught him in her way.
I looked at her stern look and secretly felt that it was a little too much. However, in order not to make my daughter-in-law angry, I had to give up.
His son, Zhang Jianguo, is a middle-level manager in a company who has a lot of work pressure. He often has to work late hours and sometimes have to deal with work on weekends. Even at home, he always looks anxious, as if he is always thinking about work.
Once, when he was working late at home, I went over to persuade him: "Jianguo, it's not okay for you to overwork like this, pay attention to your body." "
He ignored me, and just said perfunctorily: "Dad, you don't have to worry about it, this is what I need for work." "
Although the pace of life is a little breathless, I don't feel tired. On the contrary, I am happy to be able to share some of the household chores with my children. Seeing their hard work, I am truly proud of them.
"Ah, you old people are insensitive! The house is messy, like living in the village. Do you think you've done your duty, and I work so hard every day, do I expect to go back to this environment?"
I was so choked by her words that I couldn't speak for a moment, and tears fell straight down my face. Even Zhang Xiaolong saw it and cried very aggrievedly.
My daughter-in-law's words made me feel extremely aggrieved. I stayed here with good intentions, but I didn't expect her to count me down like that. I endured it in silence for fear of angering her, and she wouldn't let me stay here.
I looked at her in amazement, and she continued, "You see, we're not welcome here at all. The pace of life in the city is too fast, and we old bones can't adapt to it. Moreover, we did cause a lot of trouble for Shuzhen, so she was so angry. "
Before leaving, the son finally spoke. He said with a sad face: "Dad, Mom, you should think about it again, don't be so ruthless." "
But I've made up my mind that I don't want to spend any more time here. I said firmly: "Jianguo, when your parents are gone, you will be pure." We're here, and we're only causing you trouble. "
"Mom, Dad, don't go! I know you've suffered a lot in the past few months. But that's also because we work too hard to be considerate of your old feelings. If you're gone, we're sorry you're old. "
I looked at my son's sincere eyes, and my heart suddenly softened.
At this moment, my daughter-in-law also stepped forward and knelt down to apologize to us with tears in her eyes.
"Dad, Mom, it's all my fault, I haven't had a tutor since I was a child, and I don't know how to respect the old and love the young. You've been working hard these days, but I haven't been filial to you, I'm so damned!"
She choked up and continued, "Don't go, don't go! I know what I said that day was so hurtful, but it was also because I was too tired and lost my mind. Give me another chance, I'll change my ways!"
Seeing my daughter-in-law change her past like this, my wife and I were speechless.
We never thought of breaking with our children. The reason why they want to leave is just that they feel that staying here will cause them trouble.
"Okay, Mom and Dad won't leave for the time being. But you also have to be sincere with us, don't let your parents be sad. "
When the son and daughter-in-law heard this, they burst into tears of joy and nodded their heads in agreement.
"Dad, take your time, I'll do all the work. "
My son has also learned to focus on his family outside of work. Once, when he saw that Zhang Xiaolong had difficulty doing his homework, he immediately put down his work and came over to teach carefully.
They began to be considerate of the needs of our seniors. My wife and I have also learned to respect their way of life and not interfere and criticize them too much.
I'm beginning to realize how blessed it is to be with my children and grandchildren. Many elderly people spend their old age alone and die alone. And although we had some contradictions and disagreements at one time, they were eventually resolved.
We began to cherish the joy of family in front of us. Whenever I see Zhang Xiaolong's innocent smiling face, I feel that it is all worth it.
We started to help each other and formed a harmonious family atmosphere. When my son is too busy at work, I take the initiative to share some household chores. When my daughter-in-law got off work too late, I helped take care of Zhang Xiaolong.
"Oh Dad, you're so virtuous!
After eating, the daughter-in-law also took the initiative to clean the kitchen. I hurriedly said, "Hey, Shuzhen, you are working too hard, leave these tasks to your parents." "
Since then, our family has started to live a warmer and more harmonious life. Whenever my son and daughter-in-law came home from work, we would sit together and talk and laugh.
Once, when I was telling Zhang Xiaolong an old story, my son interjected and teased: "Oh, Dad, you are always instilling those 'old clichés' in Xiaolong again." "
The daughter-in-law smiled and said, "Although those stories are old-fashioned, they also give children some positive values." "
We just laughed and joked, and the family had a great time.
On weekends, we also go out together. Once, when we went to the park for a picnic, Zhang Xiaolong was so happy that he rolled on the grass. Seeing this, the daughter-in-law also followed the example of a child and turned a few times on the grass. My wife and I watched and were amused.
This kind of warm family time made me feel unprecedented happiness and satisfaction. Our family has re-established a deep bond of kinship.
In the process of getting along with my children and grandchildren, I will also inadvertently pass on some life experience and wisdom to them. For example, birth, old age, sickness and death are inescapable fates for everyone.
Once, when I was telling Zhang Xiaolong the story of "birth, old age, sickness and death", my daughter-in-law suddenly came over and said, "Oh Dad, don't instill this in Xiaolong, it will frighten him." "
I smiled and said, "Shuzhen, birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws, and everyone has to accept this fact." If you run away from it from an early age, your child will only grow up to be more afraid. "
The son also echoed: "Dad is right, birth, old age, sickness and death are inevitable. We need to learn to face it, not run away from it. "
Since then, whenever Zhang Xiaolong asks about the meaning of life, I will patiently explain it to him. I told him that life is short and precious, and that we should cherish the present moment and live a wonderful life.
"Shuzhen, although it is hard to have a child, it is a gift from God. You have to learn to cherish and don't give up easily. "
Under my guidance, my daughter-in-law finally dispelled this idea and decided to keep the child. Since then, I have taken the initiative to share more of the housework so that my daughter-in-law can have a good rest.
Once, my daughter-in-law suddenly had a stomachache in the middle of the night, and we rushed her to the hospital. Outside the delivery room, I cheered her on until she finally gave birth to a healthy daughter.
Over the years, his son's career has also risen steadily. At one point, he happily told us that he had been promoted to general manager of the company.
"Thanks to your parents, you have given us enough support at home, so that I can work with peace of mind. The son said gratefully.
I smiled and said, "Silly boy, it's all your own doing." Mom and Dad just did their duty. "
Since then, my son has worked harder, but he has also learned to allocate his time wisely and ensure that he has enough family time. He often takes time to take Zhang Xiaolong and his little daughter out to play and enjoy the joy of family.
And so the days went by, year after year. In the blink of an eye, Zhang Xiaolong has already gone to high school, and his youngest daughter has grown into a lively and lovely girl.
One day, I was sorting through old things at home and accidentally pulled out old photos from many years ago. Looking at the young self in the photo, I couldn't help but feel a lot of emotion.
Yes, the years pass like a white horse, and they are gone forever. But I don't regret it, because I've come most of my life, and I don't have any regrets.
Now, my greatest wish is to spend the last few years of my life with my children and grandchildren. With their company, my old age will be full of sunshine.
That night, I was taking a nap in my bedroom when I suddenly heard my wife's breathing getting weaker and weaker. I quickly woke up my son and daughter-in-law, but by the time the doctor arrived, she had left us forever.
I wept bitterly and almost broke down. The son and daughter-in-law were also very sad, and even Zhang Xiaolong and the youngest daughter were awakened by our crying.
"Mom, have you left us forever, how can you leave your father and grandchildren so cruelly?" I wailed and was overwhelmed with grief.
My son hugged me tightly and choked up and said, "Dad, you want to mourn." Although Mom is gone, she has already finished her life. She wouldn't want to see you like that. "
The death of my wife is undoubtedly a heavy blow to me. But in the process, I also rediscovered the preciousness and transience of life.
Yes, life is like a short dream, and when you wake up, everything will cease to exist. Therefore, we should cherish the present moment and live the meaning and value of our lives.
The days after my wife passed away were the darkest and most painful times for me. Without the company and support of my son's family, I would have been in complete despair.
My son and daughter-in-law took turns by my side, distracting me in various ways and slowly coming out of the gloom. Sometimes it takes me to the park for a walk, sometimes it accompanies me to play chess and cards.
Zhang Xiaolong and his little daughter are my greatest comfort. Every time I see their innocent smiling faces, I feel a burst of warmth in my heart.
Once, my youngest daughter suddenly took my hand and innocently asked, "Grandpa, why are you always so sad? "
Hearing my granddaughter's innocent words, my heart suddenly felt sour. Yes, I'm getting old, and my life is coming to an end. The most important thing now is to accompany these relatives in front of you and leave good memories.
In order to get out of the haze, I began to devote myself to public welfare. My son's company happened to have a charitable foundation, and I volunteered to join it to help those in need.
At first, I just did some simple volunteer activities, such as doing housework for the elderly. But gradually, I found that I could also contribute more of my own strength to this society.
So, I began to use my years of life experience to provide advice and advice to the foundation. I, along with some other senior volunteers, set up a senior volunteer group to serve the elderly.
We walked into the nursing home to explain the common sense of life and impart the wisdom of life to the elderly there; We go out into the community and help some empty nesters who live alone to solve their life difficulties.
In the process, I found a sense of meaning in life that I had never experienced before. Although I am in my twilight years, my life is still very valuable, and I can make my own contribution to this society.
In this way, with the company of my children and grandchildren and the comfort of public welfare, I gradually got out of the pain and regained the joy of life.
I began to look at the world with more kind eyes. The desperate and competitive I used to be no longer there. Instead, there is a calm, peaceful, contented state of mind.
Once, I was walking in the park and saw an old man practicing Tai Chi there, slowly but gracefully. I was so captivated by this scene that I joined them.
Since then, every morning, I will come here and practice Tai Chi with other old people. We breathe in or move away from the clouds, as if our bodies and minds have reached unprecedented peace and tranquility at that moment.
I also started to focus on getting along with my grandchildren in turn. Whenever Zhang Xiaolong and his youngest daughter come home from school, I will take the initiative to ask them about their studies and life. If they encounter any difficulties and troubles, I will patiently solve their doubts and provide them with wisdom and inspiration with my own life experience.
This peaceful state of life has made my later life more fulfilling and meaningful. I felt happiness and satisfaction like never before, as if my life had come to its final fulfillment.
In such a wonderful life, I also realized that my life was coming to an end. Yes, there will be an end to all life, it is the law of nature, and no one can be an exception.
However, life is not for nothing. On the contrary, it is a gift from God to experience the wonders of this world in a limited time.
We should cherish life, not fear death. Death is just another beginning, and perhaps we will continue to exist in this world in another form.
Once, when I was teaching my grandchildren the philosophy of life and death, Zhang Xiaolong suddenly asked, "Grandpa, aren't you afraid of death?"
I shook my head with a smile and said solemnly: "Death is not terrible, what is terrible is not living this life well." As long as we live life to the fullest, we will not be afraid of death. "
It was in such a peaceful old age that a sudden illness struck me.
It was a normal morning, and I got up as usual to do morning exercises. Unexpectedly, I suddenly felt dizzy, and then I lost consciousness and passed out on the ground.
When I woke up again, I was in a hospital bed. My son and daughter-in-law stood by my side anxiously, and they were relieved to see me wake up.
"Dad, you can be considered awake! The doctor said that you had a stroke, but fortunately, you were rescued in time and your life was safe. However, I may have to stay in bed for a while to recuperate. The son said.
Although I was lying in a hospital bed, I was in an unusually good mental state. It was as if I saw that the end of my life was just around the corner, so I decided to say some final words to my fellow relatives.
"Jianguo, you have all grown up and have your own families. Dad is so proud of you. However, you should also remember that family is the greatest happiness in life, and you must cherish this family happiness in front of you. "
I turned to my daughter-in-law and said earnestly, "Shuzhen, you have always been a virtuous and good daughter-in-law. You must be considerate of the hard work of nation-building, and you must also accompany the growth of children with your heart. "
In the end, I set my eyes on Zhang Xiaolong and my little daughter, and said with a smile: "You are grandpa's two favorite precious grandchildren." You must study hard and serve the motherland in the future, and you must also respect the old and love the young, and live in harmony. "