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I am a 28-year-old programmer working for an internet company. Although the work is busy, the income is okay, and the life and rest are relatively regular. As a post-80s generation, my parents have urged me many times to find a partner to marry, so I registered an account on a blind date website. Through the website, I met a girl named Chen Siyu, who is two years younger than me and is the human resources manager of a foreign company.
After some conversation, we finally agreed to meet at the French restaurant at 7 p.m. next Saturday.
"I'll wait for you at the restaurant first, if you're late, you can't do it. Chen Siyu told on the phone.
"Don't worry, I'll be there on time. I answered truthfully.
At around 6 p.m. that day, I drove to the restaurant and waited. At 7 o'clock, Chen Siyu was late. She combed a delicate hair today, wore a small black dress, and a pair of stiletto heels, and the whole person looked particularly elegant and charming.
"Hello, I've kept you waiting. She walked over with a smile on her face.
"It's okay, I didn't wait too long. I quickly got up and pulled out a chair for her.
"Thank you. She nodded and gracefully sat down across from me.
"Ahem, let's get down to business first. Before eating, Chen Siyu suddenly spoke, his tone was a little stiff, "I heard that you are a programmer in an Internet company, and your annual salary should be more than 200,000 yuan, right?"
I was stopped by her blunt words and said, "Yes, probably at this level." "
"Then I'll be blunt, I still have a good impression of you. But if you want to continue to develop, you must first pay me a 50,000 yuan as a meeting gift. "
"What?" My eyes widened in shock and I looked at her in disbelief for a moment.
Chen Siyu's outrageous request made me angry, and I took a deep breath and tried to calm myself down. Thinking about it carefully, perhaps some of her previous critical words and deeds towards me have actually revealed her values of attaching importance to material life. I just didn't realize it at the time.
"I know my request may be a bit difficult for you to accept. Chen Siyu said slowly, "But you also have to understand that as a modern independent woman, I have requirements for my own standards." I don't want my future half to have too little income, at least to give me a decent living. "
"But marriage shouldn't be built on such a material foundation!" I was anxious, "Isn't true affection the most important? Even if my income is not high now, I may have better development in the future, why are you so sure that I can't make money?"
"Oh, you're naïve. Chen Siyu sneered, "The real society is very cruel, and money is the last word." If you can't even get a 50,000 yuan as a gift, how will you support your family in the future, and how will you give me a decent life?"
"Then you say, should we stop here now?" I gritted my teeth and said, "It seems that our values are too divergent for us to continue to develop!"
"Do you look down on me like that?" Chen Siyu sighed, looking a little lonely, "I make this request to you, and I also hope that you can work hard for me." "
"However, I could not accept being asked of it in this way. I lowered my head, my heart full of mixed feelings.
And just like that, the two of us fell into a long silence in the dining room. The atmosphere was ten. After a long while, I finally broke the silence.
"Miss Chen, maybe the two of us are really not suitable. There are too many differences between you and me, and there is too much gap in values. We might as well stop there, lest the hurt be further in the future. "
Chen Siyu took a deep breath and nodded. "Well, if you've made up your mind, there's nothing I can't do. Hopefully, you will be able to find a more suitable candidate in the future. "
With that, she got up and left. I watched her tall figure drift away, and my heart was mixed. Perhaps, this fate ends here.
However, I still believe that emotional and spiritual harmony is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. Even if you can't give each other a luxurious material life for a while, as long as you manage it with your heart, you will succeed one day. I secretly decided that next time I must find someone who matches my values, work together, and build a happy nest with love.
When I got home, I couldn't help but complain about the experience on social media. "I just went on a blind date, and I was asked to give a meeting gift of 50,000 yuan, and said that it was to motivate me to work hard to make money, do you think this is taking money and holding crony?"
Soon, the post sparked a heated discussion in my circle of friends. Some people say that this is undoubtedly a kind of "diamond lover" behavior, blatant and shameful; Some people also think that although the approach is a bit radical, her original intentions may be good; Some people also advised me not to go to my heart and continue to work hard to find true love.
Seeing all kinds of comments and suggestions from netizens, I suddenly felt more in my heart. Yes, everyone has their own values and pursuits, and Chen Siyu's approach is certainly unacceptable to me, but her inner desire is not unreasonable. It's just that the gap between her and me is too big, and we are destined to not be able to stay together for the rest of our lives.
"Let go of the past and start over. "When I saw such a message in the circle of friends, I was thoughtful.
Yes, this experience made me a little disheartened, but life still has to go on. I didn't give up on finding true love, on the contrary, I strengthened my belief. I am determined to work hard, give it my all, and prove my ability with practical actions. Only in this way can I attract a partner who is in line with my three views and move hand in hand to the next stage of my life.
That night, I took the initiative to ask my friend Xiao Zhang out for a drink and chat. "I'm going to work harder to make money in the future, so you can support me a lot!" I said to Xiao Zhang with a smile. Xiao Zhang saw my determination, patted me on the shoulder and encouraged me vigorously: "Come on brother, life is still very long, as long as you have a dream, you will definitely be able to achieve it!
With the support and encouragement of my friends, I am filled with confidence. Yes, life is to keep pursuing, keep fighting, and one day you will find your own happiness. Let's start again!
In this way, after that unpleasant blind date experience, I regained my enthusiasm for life and devoted myself to my work. After a few months, I finally made a breakthrough in my career and received a considerable year-end bonus.
That weekend, I asked a few friends out to relax. Unexpectedly, in a shopping mall, I actually met Chen Siyu. She is still the same familiar appearance, well-dressed, elegant and generous.
"Hello, what a coincidence. She took the initiative to say hello.
"Well, long time no see. I nodded, but there was something awkward in my heart.
"How are you doing? Judging by the way you look, you must have a new development in your career, right?" Chen Siyu seemed to see the change in me.
"yes, there's been some progress lately. "I'll say it simply.
"That's good, I'm happy for you. Chen Siyu smiled slightly, "Actually, the last time we broke up, I was also very conflicted and struggling in my heart. "
"What do you mean?" I looked at her quizzically.
"My request for a 50,000 yuan gift that day was not out of attachment to money. Chen Siyu sighed, "It's my parents who are secretly playing tricks on me behind my back." "
"Your parents?" I was even more confused.
"So, you were complying with your parents' intention by making that ridiculous request?" I finally understood everything.
"That's right. Chen Siyu nodded, "I also felt very embarrassed at the time, but due to my parents' expectations, I had to do it hard." In fact, deep down, I sincerely hope to develop well with you. "
"So, are you single now?" I plucked up the courage to ask.
"Yes, I haven't developed with anyone else since the last time we broke up. Chen Siyu lowered his head.
"So, maybe we can start over?" I took a deep breath and mustered up the courage to speak up.
Chen Siyu was stunned for a moment, and then his eyes lit up: "Really, are you willing to give me a chance to start over?"
"That's right, I believe there is a fate between us. I smiled and said, "As long as you are no longer bound by material things, we will definitely be able to work together towards a happy future." "
Chen Siyu nodded excitedly, and the corners of his eyes were even a little moist. "Thank you, I will definitely cherish this opportunity. "
In this way, under the rearrangement of fate, Chen Siyu and I regained love. We agreed on a time for our next meeting, and we both left the mall in high spirits.
This unexpected reunion gave me a new understanding of the whole thing. It turned out that all the misunderstandings stemmed from the absurd test of Chen Siyu's parents. And Chen Siyu himself has always had a simple and kind heart. It is we who judge her outward appearance and words and actions too much and ignore her inner qualities.
In modern society, the relationship between people is often fragile, and it is easy to be blinded by superficial substances. Just like my first acquaintance with Chen Siyu, both of us were confused by each other's appearances, which led to some unnecessary prejudice and suspicion.
Fortunately, under the arrangement of fate again, we are fortunate to be able to regain each other's opportunities, get rid of those superficial things, and truly understand each other's inner qualities and pursuits. I secretly determined that this time I must cherish this fate, manage this relationship with tolerance and understanding, and work together to pursue a better future.
"What a coincidence, I didn't expect you to meet again. Xiao Zhang said in surprise, "It seems that this is a chance for God to give you." "
"yes, I didn't expect that to be the result. I smiled and said, "But I now have a new understanding of Chen Siyu, she is actually very simple and kind in her heart, but she was misunderstood before." "
"Then make the most of this opportunity. Xiao Zhang patted me on the shoulder, "But you did have some differences before, you have to reflect on it and see if you can really tolerate and understand each other." "
"You're right. I nodded, Xiao Zhang's words gave me a new experience, "The maintenance of feelings not only requires mutual tolerance, but also needs to listen to each other's inner voices with an understanding heart." Only then can we truly come together. "
In this way, inspired by Xiao Zhang, I have a new idea of how to manage this relationship. I am determined to treat Chen Siyu with a more tolerant and understanding attitude, and strive to listen to her inner voice, rather than being blinded by superficial things. Only by truly understanding each other with our hearts can we truly love each other.
Since then, Chen Siyu and I have started a relationship again. At the beginning, we were all cautious about getting along, for fear of disagreements and estrangements again. But soon, we learn to listen to each other with an inclusive and understanding heart, and try to figure out what the other person thinks inside.
Gradually, in the confiding and communication with each other, Chen Siyu and I have a deeper understanding of each other. I understood that her attachment to money was only driven by a desire for security; And she also understood my pursuit of the spiritual level, the yearning for inner happiness.
With this level of mutual understanding in place, we will be more considerate of each other's positions when dealing with issues. For example, once Chen Siyu asked me to change to a higher-paying job, although I was a little reluctant, I patiently explained my love for my current job.
"I know you're here for us to have a better life in the future. I said, "But it would be a shame if our future happiness was based on my lack of enthusiasm for work." "
Chen Siyu nodded after hearing this, expressing understanding. "You're right, it's a blessing to be able to love what you do. As long as you work hard, you will be able to achieve financial freedom in the future. When the time comes, we will be able to live a relatively decent life. "
In this way, through mutual understanding and understanding, we have resolved many problems that may cause contradictions. As the days passed, the relationship between us became deeper and deeper.
However, just as our relationship gradually stabilized, a new problem surfaced: the opposition of parents on both sides.
My parents felt that Chen Siyu's previous attachment to money was unacceptable; Chen Siyu's parents thought that I was too idealistic and could not give my daughter enough material security.
In the face of the doubts of parents on both sides, Chen Siyu and I did not have a disagreement, but became more united.
"It doesn't matter, as long as we stand up for what we believe in, they will change their minds one day. Chen Siyu comforted me and said.
So, we started trying to explain and explain our ideas to both parents, hoping that they would understand our values. At first, both parents were very wary, but gradually, with our sincere persuasion, they began to waver.
After about half a year, my parents finally changed their attitude and began to accept Chen Siyu.
"Actually, we are also watching you during this time together. My father said to me one day, "When we see that you really love each other, we let go of our worries." "
"Thank you, Mom and Dad. I smiled and said, "We will definitely prove ourselves with our actions." "
Soon after, Chen Siyu's parents finally accepted me. Seeing the scene where they finally blessed us, Chen Siyu and I were extremely relieved. Yes, as long as you treat each other with tolerance and understanding, you will one day be recognized by others.
In this way, with the blessings of relatives and friends, Chen Siyu and I got married smoothly. The door to our new life was slowly opened.
"My dear, our new life is about to begin. "That night, when I fell asleep with Chen Siyu in my arms, my heart was full of anticipation.
"Yes, we must work together to pursue our common ideals and happiness. Chen Siyu nodded, with a happy smile on his face.
I think that although our married life is still very long, as long as we maintain our original intention and treat each other with tolerance and understanding, we will be able to stay together forever. Material things are important, but inner happiness is the ultimate goal to pursue. With this belief, I believe that we will be able to live a loving life together.
Although there is still a long way to go, as long as we treat each other with tolerance and understanding, we will definitely be able to grow old together. Let's work together and pursue a better future with action!