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One day in the spring of 1992, Tsinghua University prepared a variety of celebrations for the graduates, filled with a strong sense of parting and parting, giving the graduating students a special sense of ceremony.
In such a good time, two young people who had been intertwined finally renewed their relationship - they are Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei, who are about to enter a new stage of life.
Back at a relative's wedding ten years ago, an innocent little girl Meng Xiaobei had a brief encounter with Li Jian, a teenager in the prime of her youth. At that time, they were still ignorant and ignorant, they only knew how to play to their heart's content, but they didn't know the true meaning of love.
However, that chance encounter left a deep mark on each other's hearts.
In the song "Love Has Its Own Providence", which Li Jian wrote later, he affectionately described that unforgettable emotional journey: "How many trance moments, as if I saw you surging in the crowd, vaguely you have appeared, and disappeared in an instant, and a brief encounter but never forget. ”
Time flies, and when the former "little friends" reunited at the graduation ceremony of Tsinghua University, they had faded away from their youth and grown into personable young talents. Li Jian recognized the former little girl at a glance, while Meng Xiaobei took Li Jian as an example, studied diligently, and finally got her wish and stepped into the coveted Tsinghua University.
The coincidence of fate made the old couple who had been separated for many years reunited at a critical moment in their lives, as if they had already been destined to be closely linked. Since then, their relationship has been like a trickle, always maintaining sweetness and happiness.
The encounter between Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei is like a beautiful legend carefully arranged by God. The former "little friends" met again at an important juncture in their lives, and finally entered the marriage hall hand in hand, establishing a warm and harmonious family.
This feeling of destiny undoubtedly made their feelings stronger and deeper.
One day, Li Jian and his old friend Lu Gengxu unexpectedly reunited on the campus of Tsinghua University. The two hit it off and decided to join forces to create their own band and chase their music dreams together.
"Standing on the stage of the graduation party, you are the brightest star I have ever seen. Meng Xiaobei gazed at Li Jian affectionately, this sentence gave him endless strength and strengthened his determination to devote himself to the music career.
As a result, Mr. Li Jian and Mr. Lu Gengxu joined hands to create the shocking "Water and Wood Years" band. The perfect collaboration between the two made them quickly release their debut album in just one year, and the title track "Life with You" instantly became a hit all over China and became a well-known classic!
However, the world of music is always changing. With the rise of new pop music styles, Mr. Li Jian's musical style has gradually been forgotten. In the face of the difficult pressure of upstream and downstream, Mr. Li Jian once again fell into a dilemma.
However, this time, Ms. Meng Xiaobei once again incarnated as Mr. Li Jian's strong backing. She affectionately told Mr. Li Jian: "Just pursue what your heart really desires, and the noise and doubts of the outside world don't matter."
With the encouragement of his wife, Mr. Li Jian regained his self-confidence and devoted himself to music creation.
However, fate does not seem to favor them too much. In 2005, Mr. Li Jian's father was unfortunately diagnosed with cancer, which undoubtedly put a heavier burden on the family, which was already not very well-off.
In order to save the lives of his loved ones, Mr. Li Jian had to travel from place to place, asking relatives and friends for help.
Despite the hardships of life, Mr. Li Jian never gave up his dream of music. He has always worked tirelessly to create new songs, each of which is full of deep thoughts and love for Ms. Meng Xiaobei.
The family's financial difficulties have undoubtedly brought a huge impact on Mr. Li Jian's life, but he has never wavered in his dedication to the music career. Instead, he chose to use songs to pour out his thoughts about his wife as a spiritual sustenance.
Mr. Li Jian's perseverance finally paid off in 2010. At the Spring Festival Gala that year, Faye Wong's affectionate singing of his work "Legend" made him famous overnight and ushered in a glorious period of his career.
Since then, Mr. Li Jian's name has resounded in the sky, and he has become the focus of attention both in the music industry and variety shows. In 2015, he successively participated in the popular variety shows "I Am a Singer" and "The Voice of China", with unremitting efforts and firm beliefs, he finally won the warm pursuit and high recognition of the audience.
In an eye-catching interview, the music genius Li Jian did not hesitate to announce a shocking decision to the world - he and his lover Meng Xiaobei had already reached a consensus and decided to give up having the next generation! Behind the unexpected choice, Li Jian explained the thoughtfulness of this decision from an otherworldly perspective: "This has nothing to do with me at all, I don't agree with it and I don't feel the need to continue my genes...... I'm not an endangered species, so I don't need to try to perpetuate myself.
As soon as this statement came out, it was like a bombshell, which instantly detonated the heated discussion of public opinion, and some people praised it, believing that Dink's life symbolizes people's brave challenge to traditional ideas and a deep love for independent life, however, some people questioned that a childless life seems to lack that irreplaceable fulfillment
In the face of various doubts and arguments, Li Jian firmly expressed his position: "We chose Dink because we know that raising children requires a lot of energy and effort, and it is by no means as easy as raising pets, and we are not fully prepared for the arrival of a new life."
It is true that compared with the general public, Li Jian, as an artist, is undoubtedly under heavier pressure and responsibility, as the famous singer Pu Shu once said frankly: "I understand that every child must go through hardships to thrive, but I really can't bear that I don't have enough confidence to raise a child into an outstanding talent, a person with a sound personality."
Li Jian's predicament may be because, as Pu Shu said, as an artist who persistently pursues his musical dreams, he is cautious about his choice of life path, although Li Jian has made brilliant achievements in his career, he still has to face many doubts and debates
Choosing to live a Dink life is undoubtedly a highly controversial topic, triggering a heated discussion in the online world about whether to have children, everyone has their own unique point of viewLi Jian and his wife Meng Xiaobei choose this lifestyle because they firmly believe that they are not fully prepared to welcome a new life, as artists, the pressure and responsibility they have to bear may be unimaginable to ordinary people.
Although Li Jian has climbed to the pinnacle of honor in his career, he still does not hesitate to devote a lot of energy to accompanying his beloved wife Meng Xiaobei.
From their frequent interactions on social media, it is not difficult for us to find that there is a lot of affection between them.
Li Jian sweetly called Meng Xiaobei "the little shell in the depths of my heart", and Meng Xiaobei also affectionately repaid Li Jian as "Mr. Honorable". These subtleties are all silently telling the deep love and harmonious relationship between them.
The stars who choose to live a Dink life are not limited to Li Jian and his wife. For example, Tony Leung and Carina Lau, Chung Chuhong and Zhu Jiading, Ni Zhen and Zhou Huimin, and many other high-profile artists have made the same decision.
Whether it is out of deep love for their children or endless longing for the world of the two, their choices fully demonstrate the diversity of life and the charm of choice.
Li Jian has undoubtedly erected an exemplary monument.
His successful career is the best testimony to his hard work, and his loving and happy marriage is the beautiful epitome of his married life. What is especially commendable is that when faced with the major choice of having children, he was able to reach a consensus with his lover and resolutely chose to become a Dink family.
In this way, his life is rich and colorful, and he has no regrets.
However, there are also some people who hold a different view, believing that "there are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is greater". They believe that families without children will find it difficult to secure their later life, and family inheritance may also be disrupted.
There are indeed various understandings and opinions about the word "Dink".
However, no matter what others say, Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei's married life has shown the world that their choice does not mean loneliness, but symbolizes a precious freedom and happiness.
As Li Jian said in an interview: "Destiny is like a light boat, and life is like a mountain." He cherished the quality of his personal life even more, and chose Dink not to escape the complexity of the adult world, but because of his deep desire for peace and freedom.
It has been said that everyone should pursue happiness on their own terms. For Li Jian, his happiness not only comes from the success of his career, but also from the affection with his wife Meng Xiaobei.
In their colorful Weibo interactions, Li Jian's deep affection for Meng Xiaobei infiltrated people's hearts like spring breeze and rain: "In countless moments, it seems that I see you in the magnificent sea of people, and in the dark, you have quietly appeared, but you have disappeared without ......a trace in an instant" Such sincere and deep emotions are undoubtedly the powerful driving force that supports Li Jian to firmly move towards Dink's life!
Li Jian's decision to choose Dink life is by no means a waiver of all his responsibilities as an adult, on the contrary, he cherishes the two-person world he spends with his wife even more. They choose this way of life in order to pursue the peace and contentment of their hearts.
As he said in an interview, "I'm not an endangered species, so I don't need to perpetuate myself. These sonorous and powerful words undoubtedly reveal his unique view of life.
He firmly believes that the value of life lies not only in reproduction, but also in the pursuit of individual happiness and freedom.
With no children to bear, Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei were able to enjoy the beauty of life and chase the passion in their hearts. They support each other, with freedom and joy in their hearts, away from the pressures and anxieties of the world.
Bravely pursuing inner peace and contentment, choosing to become a Dink family, does not mean loneliness, but symbolizes a precious right to choose and freedom.