In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sometimes we may feel a certain sense of alienation from our mother-in-law, as if we are always an "outsider". This feeling is often chilling and makes us question our own place and worth in the family.
However, if we look at this from a different angle, we may find that this is actually a good thing.
Mother-in-law's performance of treating you as an outsider may be due to some kind of consideration or worry, and this consideration or worry is precisely an opportunity for us to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and enhance mutual understanding.
Therefore, in the face of the alienation of the mother-in-law, we do not need to be in a hurry, but should calmly analyze and respond positively, and strive to improve the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, so that the family is more harmonious and happy.
1. Maintain a certain sense of distance
A manifestation of your mother-in-law's perception of you as an outsider is that she maintains a certain sense of distance from you in her daily life.
She may be less willing to interfere too much in your private affairs and share her inner world with you. This sense of distance may make you feel excluded and isolated, but in reality, it also has its positive side.
First of all, maintaining a certain sense of distance helps to maintain the independence and freedom of the individual.
In the mother-in-law relationship, excessive interference and dependence often lead to contradictions and conflicts. Mother-in-law respects your personal space and does not forcibly intervene in your life, which gives you more opportunities and space to develop your interests and careers.
Secondly, the sense of distance also prompts you to be more proactive in communicating and communicating with your mother-in-law. In order to get closer to each other, you need to put in more effort to understand your mother-in-law's thoughts and feelings, and find common topics and points of interest.
This kind of active communication and exchange helps to enhance the understanding and trust between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and lays the foundation for a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
2. Treat you differently from other family members
Another sign that your mother-in-law sees you as an outsider is that she treats you differently from other family members. She may be more intimate and caring towards other family members, while she may seem relatively cold and distant from you.
This kind of differential treatment may make you feel aggrieved and unjust, but equally, it also contains the possibility of improving the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
First of all, you need to reflect on your role and performance in the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Is it that I am not good enough in some aspects, so that my mother-in-law has misunderstanding or dissatisfaction?
If this is the case, then you need to actively correct your shortcomings and deficiencies, and strive to improve your quality and cultivation.
Secondly, you can try to have in-depth communication and exchange with your mother-in-law. Understand her expectations and requirements for you, and also let her know your thoughts and feelings.
Through honest communication, you can gradually eliminate misunderstandings and estrangements, and increase mutual understanding and trust.
Finally, you can actively participate in family affairs and demonstrate your worth and abilities. By contributing to the family, you can change your mother-in-law's perception and attitude towards you by allowing your mother-in-law to see your strengths and strengths.
3. Reservations or objections on key issues
The third sign that your mother-in-law sees you as an outsider is that she has reservations or objections to you on key issues.
This may be because she disagrees with your perceptions and values in some way, or because she has reservations about your abilities and trust.
While this performance may leave you feeling frustrated and lost, it also provides you with opportunities to grow and improve.
First of all, you need to stay calm and sensible, and don't lose control of your emotions or overreact because of your mother-in-law's objections.
You can try to put yourself in her shoes and understand her concerns and concerns. At the same time, she must also stick to her principles and positions, and use facts and figures to convince her.
Second, you can seek support and help from other family members or friends and relatives. They may be able to provide you with different perspectives and advice that will help you better respond to your mother-in-law's objections.
At the same time, they can also act as intermediaries to help you communicate and communicate more effectively with your mother-in-law.
Finally, you need to constantly improve your abilities and qualities. Through learning and practice, you can gradually change your mother-in-law's perception and attitude towards you, so that she can see your growth and progress.
Not only will this help improve the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but it will also help you achieve better in other areas.
Summary:
Although it may make us feel cold and disappointed if your mother-in-law treats you as an outsider, it is actually a good thing if we can look at it rationally and deal with it positively.
These performances suggest that we need to reflect on our roles and performances in the relationship between our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also provide us with opportunities to improve the relationship.
By strengthening communication, understanding each other, and demonstrating our own value and ability, we can gradually eliminate barriers and misunderstandings, and enhance understanding and trust between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In this way, we will not only be able to make the family more harmonious and happy, but also be able to go further on the road of growth and progress.
Therefore, in the face of the alienation of the mother-in-law, we do not need to worry or be frustrated, but should face and solve the problem with a positive attitude, believing that as long as we put in the effort and time, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will definitely become better and better.