I don't know when it began, non-marriage doctrine was accepted by many women.
There are also some parents who see that their daughters are not married, and they do not give correct guidance, and say: "It's okay, save the trouble of divorce, and save yourself the pain of having children." ”
For a lifetime, one person is full, the whole family is not hungry, and there is also a surplus, which can make him chic in middle age and worry-free in his old age.
Of course, there are some women who will find a partner, but if they don't get married, so as not to get married, so as not to have the trouble of starting a family, they can also gather and disperse at any time.
Scholar Zhou Guoping said: "Marriage is a social life that follows the principle of reality. ”
Yes, there are rules for development in everything, and when you break the rules, you will find that you have deviated from the direction, and by the time you find out, it will be too late to regret it.
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Life is incomplete without marriage.
Life is not perfect, and no matter how hard you try to live, there will be no absolute meaning.
But life can be complete, the road that should be taken, the hardships that should be endured, and the happiness that should be had, must not be missing at all.
Writer Oswald Schwartz once said, "Marriage is the essence of a complete life." ”
Yes, marriage is the beginning of middle age and old age, and it is also a continuation of the teenage years.
If you don't start because you are afraid of encountering setbacks, you turn around halfway and the ending is too bleak, which means that people's courage is not enough, and their foresight is not enough.
There is an eldest sister in Guangzhou who went to a nursing home.
I saw my best friend who has never been married and is over 60 years old, eating, drinking, and having someone to serve her, and she also has a pension and savings, but her mental state is obviously decadent.
In the next room, there were also old people, but they often had their children visiting.
And the girlfriend has always been cold. Occasionally, relatives come to visit, which is also a courtesy of etiquette, or a covetous inheritance of girlfriends.
Suddenly, my best friend began to regret why she didn't get married and didn't want children.
When my girlfriend was middle-aged, she designed a lot of pension plans.
For example, sojourn for the elderly. But you can't walk while walking, after all, the years are not forgiving, and the body can't bear it.
For example, find a good woman who lives alone and retire in a group, but everyone's three views are different, how can they live together?
For example, relying on nephews and nephews. But these juniors have their own parents, and they should not take good care of their aunts and aunts.
Many things, in fact, will have an epiphany at the moment when their parents pass away.
Parents are here, women still have a home, love, care and sustenance. But when the parents leave, there is only a way back in life.
The writer Goethe said: "Although we can grow up with the protection of our parents and relatives, we can rely on our brothers and friends, and we can be happy with our love for others with the help of our friends......
Life is a process, different stages, you will meet different people, and you will also rely on different people.
Not marrying and having children, for women, there are at least several drawbacks.
First of all, the life arrangement is not long-term enough, and the thinking of eating youth rice is very serious.
Then, I am not prepared to endure hardships, and I don't know that marriage and parenting are bittersweet and joyful.
After that, I am overconfident and don't know that people will end up with a day when they can't help themselves.
After that, the family concept is not strong enough, and there is no education that accepts the best family values of the parents.
In the end, the pursuit of the perfection of marriage is excessive, so that it goes around and around, and there is no hope for marriage.
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There are four reasons why a woman should get married.
Kazuo Inamori said: "After getting married, you can have someone to talk to when you are bored, and you can have someone to talk to when you are bored." When you're tired of a day, you can eat happily at one table. Life is too long, there must always be someone who knows each other. ”
If you don't want to get married, you can find a thousand reasons, then if you want to get married, find a thousand and one reasons. In contrast, you will find that marriage has many benefits for women.
From the perspective of life, there are at least the following reasons to convince yourself to get married and have children.
First, there is always a little bit of romance in love.
Traveling through most of the city is just to meet and eat a bowl of wontons.
I have traveled across the ocean to see you, and I have spent most of my life savings for this.
Nine hundred and ninety-nine roses for you...... People are always like this, although they know that romance will not last long, but after experiencing it, their hearts will be full, and when they think about it in the future, it will be sweet.
Second, middle-aged fireworks, add a little bit.
Middle-aged, old and young, this day is not easy. But when you drag your tired body home and find a child laughing, you will suddenly feel a lot more energetic.
If you have a lover who cares, your lover will drive to pick you up from work, and it will be worth the pain.
The small days are steaming, the children bring hope, the lover brings expectations, the work brings abundance, and the fireworks soothe themselves.
Third, the expectations of parents are met a little bit.
Even if the parents say "it doesn't matter if you get married or not", in fact, in the bottom of their hearts, the parents still hope that their daughter will get married.
Parents who are reluctant to give up will also shed tears when they see their daughter getting married, but tears are happy.
will also cook a table of good dishes during the New Year's festival and wait for her daughter's return.
Fourth, there is a little bit of blessing in old age.
When people are old, women who marry and give birth have more blessings: young couples come to accompany each other in old age, children will come to see them when they grow up, and sustenance for children and grandchildren is also a kind of spirit.
It has been said, "Heavenly happiness lies in the hope of true love." ”
True love may not satisfy a woman, but it will give people a lot of feelings and fill the gap in life.
Maybe you love the wrong person, but it doesn't matter, mistakes are also a part of life, and they give people inspiration and wisdom.
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Maybe a woman will ask, "I don't want to be single either, but who do I want to marry?"
Remember Benjamin Franklin's saying, "Keep your eyes round before you get married, and half-open your eyes after you get married." ”
Getting married and having children is not to exchange a woman's beauty for happiness in the second half of your life, but to find someone and work together to change your fate and achieve a good small family.
With an effort to find someone, it would be much better.
More realistically, when a woman is working hard, she will become sunny and more worthy of love.
There is no lack of beauty in the world, and there is a lack of eyes to find beauty, and the same is true of love.
What hinders us from reaching the top is not the distance of the mountain, but often a grain of sand in our shoes.
Pour out the sand and the infinite scenery is at the top.
A woman's youth is short, but a mother's love is long, beyond life itself.
Remember, women should be brave mothers and don't always ask why.
Source: Cloth Coarse Food.