Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Marriage is like a besieged city, where men and women who love each other enjoy it, and people who love each other but can't get along well are trapped in it.
A wise woman who knows how to maintain each other's feelings. If you are neither humble nor arrogant, you can lay a good foundation for the relationship between two people and strive for a better future.
How many women have become "strong women" in marriage and have shouldered the burden of supporting their families.
A woman with a real vision will not help her husband to support the family, she will do this.
02, a woman who bears economic pressure lives a very tired life
My cousin, whose husband started his own business. Without knowing the market, I spent more than 100,000 yuan and rented a store, but I never made a profit.
He didn't want to go to work, he didn't want to go out and run business, and he didn't want to close the shop.
When my cousin saw that he had invested more than 100,000 yuan, he took up the family's economy. She worked hard to get to work, and after work, she had to work another part-time job, working about 12 hours a day, and she didn't take a break on Saturdays and Sundays.
However, his husband often plays games in the store and can't see her hard work.
After persisting for more than a year, he still only lost money and didn't make money. My cousin was so tired that she couldn't hold on anymore, and he still hated that she made less money, and he had to let him take care of her when she was sick.
My cousin burst into tears and made the decision to divorce.
When two people enter into marriage, they become a whole. Between each other, we should help each other and shoulder the financial pressure of the family together.
Stupid women will always indulge men's laziness and not seek improvement because of love. silently shouldered the financial pressure of the family and lived like a strong woman.
But in the end, those who wait are often lazy and do not cherish them.
Women, you bear the economic pressure, and men are not motivated, which will only make you carry the weight forward and make you more and more tired.
If you give everything for him, he won't feel sorry for you.
Eventually, the woman will also be exhausted and lose the motivation to run the marriage.
Don't put all the pressure on yourself, if a woman always wants to be a hero, she will definitely not be able to run a family.
03. Set goals and struggle together with men
Sang Zhi in "Can't Hide Secretly" likes Duan Jiaxu, she knows that Duan Jiaxu is very poor and needs financial support.
She has a good family background, but she didn't ask her parents or brother for money to subsidize Duan Jiaxu. Instead, I hope that I can grow up faster, work hard to make money, and face difficulties with my beloved.
After she went to college, she was anxious to go to an internship and wanted to improve her abilities quickly. When you get your salary, you can give Duan Jiaxu more help.
Duan Jiaxu also didn't want to rely on anyone, although making money is very tiring and hard, but with the support and encouragement of his girlfriend, he is willing to work hard to give her a better future.
A smart woman will never carry the family's finances alone, but will set goals with men.
For example, how much money to save together a year, how many times to travel together.
When two people are together and have a common goal, they will struggle together and grow together.
Gibran said: "Marriage is when two strong men who love each other are in the same boat, so that they can overcome the ups and downs of the journey together." ”
Hearts together, face problems together, no matter how difficult things are, they will be solved.
Husband and wife have a common goal, can cooperate tacitly, suffer together, and enjoy happiness together. In this way, we will go through more roads through joys and sorrows, and the relationship will be better.
04. Let men shoulder some of the pressure and better manage their marriage
In life, no matter how romantic love is, it can't hide from firewood, rice, oil and salt.
Everyone is under a lot of pressure, whether they are rich or poor.
The farmer has the farmer's troubles, and the king has his own troubles.
When husband and wife are together, it is not who is attached to whom, but to operate together and support them forward.
If you put the pressure of one family on one person, the other party will inevitably be too tired. Only when each of them gives full play to their greater advantages and can benefit each other can they feel the warmth of home.
Women, no matter how much you love a man, don't refuse him to pay because of excessive pampering.
You know, men are also the pillars of the family, don't always feel that he can't do it.
There are some things that he can't do well, so he can give them a few more chances. Once he is proficient, he knows how to be a good husband.
When a man works hard outside and breaks out of the world, he must also know how to take care of his wife and give her more warmth.
Women should also have independent thoughts, can take care of their lives well, and can also earn money to support their families.
If both husband and wife are masters of life and continue to progress and grow, then the marriage will definitely get better and better.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Running a family is not an easy task.
It takes the husband and wife to work together, and it takes both of them to reach more potential.
If you want more happiness, no one can be lazy. Only when they do their part well, and the husband and wife have team spirit, can there be sustainable development.
Husbands and wives are evenly matched, respect each other, and help each other equally.
Don't complain, don't dislike, know how to be grateful, and the road ahead will be better.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.