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My name is Li Lin, I am 38 years old, and I am a project manager at a technology company. I have a stable job and an income, but my love life has always been a big regret in my life.
Recently, my parents and friends have started to worry about my marriage. They thought it was time for me to start a family and kept introducing me to blind dates. Although I also have this idea of getting married, I always feel that it is difficult to make up my mind because I lack a wonderful sense of fate and fit.
"Lin Lin, you're almost 40 years old, aren't you in a hurry to find a companion?" That's what my mom always told me.
"Mom, I wanted to too, but I just didn't meet the right one. I replied helplessly.
One weekend afternoon, I was scheduled to go on a blind date with a 41-year-old lady. Her name is Li Xue, and she is the general manager of a large company, and her career is very successful. We met at an upscale French restaurant.
The atmosphere was a little rusty at first. We were like two strangers, at a loss where to start. Luckily, the waiter was quick to serve us hors d'oeuvres and champagne.
"I heard that you are a candidate for a son-in-law?" Li Xue asked me straight to the point, with a little provocation in her tone.
"Oh, are you willing to have two children for me?" Li Xue continued to ask, looking solemn.
"Hmph, you're the kind of person who doesn't eat oil and salt. Li Xue interrupted me, looking a little displeased, "At my age, how can I have time to detour again? Either just agree to my conditions, or be exempted." "
I was so angry with her attitude that I couldn't speak. What kind of blind date is this? It is clearly choosing a qualified "fertility tool"!
Through this blind date, I gradually learned that Li Xue is a very successful professional woman. She has won many battles in the mall, has a successful career, and holds the real power of a large company in her hands. But sadly, her love life has always been a blank.
Li Xue lacks patience and tolerance for feelings, and is used to treating everything in a rational and demanding way. She seems to see marriage as a transaction, seeking an object that will bring her "fertility value". Of course, I feel very uncomfortable with this.
However, after learning about her past, I can understand some of her methods. Li Xue grew up in a traditional family since she was a child, and was deeply influenced by the concept of "male protagonist outside and female protagonist inside". Her parents hope that she will marry a promising man in the future and have children in peace.
Although Li Xue's conditions are excellent, I still can't completely let go. I began to reflect on my life pursuits, whether it is enough to blindly pursue material achievements, and emotional and spiritual satisfaction are equally important, which can bring people a unique sense of happiness and belonging.
Should I let go of my self and learn to appreciate and tolerate? After all, everyone grew up in a different environment and values, and we are not qualified to judge who is right and who is wrong. It is important to listen and understand each other with an open and inclusive mind, and to influence and grow with each other in the process of getting along.
Perhaps, Li Xue's approach seems a bit arbitrary, but it also contains her longing and yearning for a happy life. And am I too self-absorbed to ignore that? It's time for me to learn to think from someone else's point of view.
In the next few dates, I tried to communicate with Li Xue with a peaceful and inclusive attitude and get to know each other. Gradually, I discovered that she was actually delicate and compassionate, but her long-term professional life had smoothed her sharpness.
Li Xue also realized that her previous approach was too arbitrary and impersonal, and began to learn to communicate with me in a more friendly way.
We began to exchange views on topics such as life, career, family, etc., and found that many of them coincided. For example, we all believe that men and women should be equal in modern society, and women should not be left with all the housework; We also all hope that we can respect and achieve each other with our partners in the future.
"Actually, I also hope to find a like-minded person, not just a fertility tool. At the end of a date, Li Xue said, "It's just that I was too eager and used some inappropriate methods." "
"It's okay, I understand your painstaking efforts. I smiled and said, "We still have a lot of time to get along and get to know each other." "
As we got to know each other, the differences between Li Xue and I began to come to the fore. She still expects me to be a full-time househusband and devote myself wholeheartedly to family life; On the other hand, I hope to find a balance between career and family and realize my self-worth.
This makes our contradictions bigger and bigger, and quarrels also occur from time to time.
"You always put work first, how can such a man be a good househusband?" Li Xue once questioned me.
"But career is just as important, how can I just give up my pursuit completely?" I argued, "We should be considerate and supportive of each other, rather than just asking each other to change." "
"So what do you really want? a family or a career? You have to give me an answer!"
"You don't understand my mood at all!" Li Xue had tears in her eyes, clenched her fists tightly, and looked helpless and angry.
I stood there helplessly, trying to reassure her, but I couldn't do anything. The atmosphere was tense for a while, and no one spoke again.
After a long time, Li Xue sighed heavily and turned to leave. I stood there for a long time, unable to recover.
At that moment, I was deeply aware of how different the two of us were in understanding marriage and family. Li Xue regards family as everything and hopes to find a partner who is fully committed; And I'm still obsessed with personal development, putting family and career on the same footing.
On the eve of our breakup, Li Xue has changed amazingly. She began to reflect on her own approach and realized that pitting family and career against each other was a one-sided and extreme idea. A happy marriage requires mutual understanding, tolerance, and support, rather than blindly asking each other to make sacrifices.
"Lin Lin, I figured it out. One day, Li Xue took the initiative to ask me to meet, her eyes were firm and soft, "In the past, I was too complacent and separated my family and career, which is a narrow idea. We should support each other, appreciate each other, and achieve each other, which is the most beautiful marriage. "
I looked into her eyes and saw that there was more warmth and wisdom in them than I had ever seen before. She is no longer the stubborn and arbitrary strong woman, but a woman who truly longs for a happy life.
At the same time, I was also thinking about my attitude towards life. Is it possible to achieve the full meaning of life simply by pursuing a career? Family and love are equally important, and they can bring me a unique sense of happiness and belonging.
In the past, I was too rational and utilitarian, and saw my love life as dispensable. But through this experience with Li Xue, I realized how narrow and one-sided my concept is. A person's life should not only have a career, but also emotional sustenance and family warmth.
Gradually, I began to adjust my life philosophy and learn to balance family and career. I hope to find a partner who is like-minded with me, to support each other, to grow together, to show myself in my career, and to find comfort in my family.
With the growth together, the gap between Li Xue and me began to bridge. We are both aware of the beauty of each other and are fascinated by it. A new hope and expectation is rekindled in our hearts, and we want to spend the rest of our lives together, supporting each other and fulfilling each other.
"We've been a pair of 'bosom friends' since the beginning. Li Xue said to me with a smile, "It's just that I took some detours in the middle and lost myself." Thankfully, we all found the right path in the end. "
"Yes, if we grow together and work together, we will definitely reach the pinnacle of life. I say from the bottom of my heart.
"I've learned that family and career are not two opposite things. I sincerely said to Li Xue, "They complement each other, and only by taking both into account can we achieve true happiness." "
"Yes, I'm also aware of my paranoia. Li Xue nodded, "We should be considerate of each other, appreciate each other, and achieve each other, this is the most beautiful marriage." You have your pursuits, and so do I. We should listen to each other with an open and inclusive mind, and grow together in mutual understanding and respect. "
I nodded sympathetically and continued, "Like you said, we've been a pair of 'confidants' from the beginning. We share the same philosophy and pursuit, but we have taken some detours in the middle. Now, we have finally found the right path, and I believe that we will be able to reach the pinnacle of life together. "
I am deeply glad that I have grown. In the past, I only blindly pursued material achievements, and regarded my love life as dispensable; And now, I finally understand the value of love and family, which are the most precious gifts in life.
I hope to be with Li Xue for the rest of my life, support each other, appreciate each other, and work together to reach the pinnacle of life. We will respect each other's pursuits, listen to each other's ideas with an open and inclusive mind, and grow together in understanding.
Family and career are not two opposing poles, but two levels that complement each other and complement each other. Only by taking both into account can we attain true happiness and fulfillment. I believe that with this understanding, Li Xue and I will definitely be able to build a happy marriage.
Family and career are not two opposing poles, but two complementary aspects. Blindly dividing them apart will lead to one-sidedness and paranoia. Only by learning to balance and take care of each other can we make steady progress on the road of life and reach the peak of life together.
This is not only a family philosophy, but also a positive outlook on life. It tells us to approach life with an open and inclusive mind, to grow together in understanding and respect, and ultimately to achieve happiness and fulfillment.
A year later, Li Xue and I entered the palace of marriage on a sunny day. When I looked into her eyes, I saw a look of happiness and anticipation. I know that we will spend the rest of our lives together, supporting and appreciating each other.
The wedding scene was filled with a joyful atmosphere. Relatives and friends are full of blessings on their faces, sending us the most sincere blessings. My parents finally let go of a big stone in their hearts and saw that their son was able to form a happy family.
"I wish you a happy newlywed, and grow old together!" Friends chanted and threw colorful flowers.
I kissed Li Xue deeply and whispered in her ear: "From now on, we will be a family, let us work together and walk hand in hand to the peak of life." "
Li Xue nodded, tears flashing in the corners of her eyes: "Yes, we will support each other, appreciate each other, and grow together in understanding and tolerance." "
Although the life after marriage is uneventful, it is full of happiness. We understand each other's work and make time for each other. Sometimes it's doing chores together, sometimes it's going out for a picnic to relax.
Li Xue gradually learned to find a balance between family and career, and I cherished the happy life in front of me even more. We go on regular dates and talk to each other to keep each other fresh.
In this way, in mutual understanding and respect, our feelings are getting deeper and sweeter. We are no longer two lonely individuals, but a whole, each other as the other half of life.
"Honey, look at the shape of that cloud, doesn't it look like a bear?" One day, we were lying on the grass admiring the clouds, I jokingly pointed to the sky.
Li Xue smiled and kissed me on the face: "You are my little bear, and you will always be my closest confidant." "
"She's such a little angel. Li Xue looked at her daughter and said happily, "We must give her a happy and warm family, so that she can grow up healthy and happy." "
"Yes, we will teach her in our own way and make her a good child who is responsible and empathetic. I solemnly said, "I believe that she will become the greatest pride of our lives." "
We will nurture her with an open and inclusive mindset, so that she can learn to respect and appreciate differences, and grow in understanding. Just like us, with each other's understanding and support, we will work together to reach the pinnacle of life.
Through this married life, I finally realized the true meaning of life. It is not only about pursuing career achievements, nor is it just about simple emotional sustenance, but about learning to balance and take into account both family and career, treat life with an open and inclusive attitude, and grow together in mutual understanding.
Family gives us emotional comfort and spiritual sustenance, so that our life is no longer a lonely individual, but a whole, with a new meaning and direction; Career, on the other hand, allows us to realize our self-worth and gain a sense of control and accomplishment in our lives. Only by taking both into account can we attain true happiness and fulfillment.
This kind of understanding is not only applicable to married life, but also a valuable philosophy of life. It teaches us to approach every role and stage of life with an open and inclusive mind, to grow through understanding and respect, and ultimately to reach the pinnacle of life.
What is the meaning of life? Is it career achievement? Is it emotional sustenance? Or is it the pursuit of material wealth? I was confused for a while, but with this experience with Li Xue, I finally found the answer.
The meaning of life lies in balancing and unifying all levels, embracing all aspects of life with an open and inclusive attitude, and growing together in understanding and respect. Don't separate family and career, don't put material and spiritual things against each other, learn to balance and balance, so that we can achieve true happiness and fulfillment.
As Li Xue said, we have been a pair of "confidants" from the beginning. Fate has tested us a lot, but it has also allowed us to grow deeply. Now, we have finally found the right path, learned to listen to each other with an inclusive mindset, grow together in understanding, and work together to reach the pinnacle of life.
Finally, embrace life with a positive mindset. There will inevitably be obstacles and setbacks on the road of life, but as long as we remain optimistic and hopeful, we will be able to find an outlet to the light through understanding and tolerance, and finally reach the pinnacle of life.
It is with this mentality that Li Xue and I can go hand in hand to get to where we are today, we will continue to support and appreciate each other, treat life with an open and inclusive attitude, grow together in understanding, and always yearn for the peak of life!