I am 42 years old, an ordinary office worker, married and have two children. My husband and I live together in this prosperous city, and our lives are quite stable, although sometimes life is not small, but we can finally have no worries about food and clothing. I have an older sister who is more than a decade older than me and a single mother who has a less stable job and has a harder time than me.
A few days ago, when I was returning home from work, I passed by my sister's house and accidentally saw a scene that surprised me: my sister was patiently taking care of her elderly in-laws, feeding them, and helping them wash. I couldn't help but stop and watch, and a mixed mood welled up in my heart. I know that my sister has always been very filial to her in-laws, but I didn't expect her to be so conscientious, and even the most basic diet and daily life have to be taken care of by herself.
"Sister, why are you here? I couldn't resist stepping forward and asking.
"Oh, it's my sister, I'm taking care of my parents. You know, they're old, they're not in good health, and they need to be taken care of all the time. My sister explained gently.
"Yes, I know you've always been very filial. I nodded, but I couldn't help but feel a hint of shame in my heart. Although I did my best to take care of my parents, I was far from being able to match my sister's efforts.
"Sister, you also know that I am alone with children, and my work is not very stable, and my life is not easy. But after all, my parents are our relatives, and I feel that I should do my best to take care of them. My sister said, with a tired look on her face.
"yes, I understand your thoughts. I sighed, feeling a little guilty inside. I did my best to take care of my parents, but it didn't seem to be enough.
"Sister, how are you doing? My sister asked with concern.
"It's okay, the kids are pretty good. But I've been busy lately, and sometimes I'm really tired. I answered truthfully.
"Yes, I know that both of you and you both work and it is not easy to take care of the children. However, it's good to go back to see your parents often. My sister said.
I was silent for a moment, but I was thinking about a question in my heart: why did my sister give so much, but I always felt that I didn't do enough? Is it because of the difference in our personalities and living circumstances? Or is it because I don't have a strong sense of responsibility for my family?
"You've worked so hard, sister. I've always felt that you were so nice to your parents that sometimes I feel like I should do more. I say from the bottom of my heart.
My sister smiled and replied, "Sister, our parents raised us and gave us life. Now that they are old and need our care, as they should be. I just did what I could. "
Listening to my sister's words, my heart felt sour. Although I tried my best to take care of my parents, it was far less than my sister's efforts. And I always feel like I can do better.
"Sister, don't blame yourself too much. Everyone's situation and abilities are different, and it's important to do the best you can. I know that you and you are also very busy at work and taking care of the children. As long as you do your best. "My sister comforted me gently.
I was grateful for my sister's understanding, but at the same time, I felt a little guilty. I knew I could do better, but I was always overwhelmed by the trivialities of work and family, and I couldn't take care of my parents wholeheartedly.
"Sister, you're right, we do have our own situations and difficulties. Still, I feel like I should do more. You see, you are taking care of your in-laws alone, and your job is not very stable, and your life is really hard. Otherwise, let's discuss it and see if we can share some?" I hesitated to make this suggestion.
My sister was stunned for a moment, and then showed a wry smile: "Sister, you are really good." However, I think you should also take good care of your family and not be distracted by me. I took care of my parents by myself, and although it was hard work, I felt that this was what I should do. "
"But, sister, you bear so much by yourself, I'm really worried that you'll be tired. Otherwise, let's discuss it and see if we can share some?" Again, I suggest.
My sister was silent for a moment, and then slowly spoke: "Sister, I know what you want. However, I think it's better for me to take care of this alone. You and you are also very busy, and taking care of the children is very hard, and I don't want you to be distracted by me. Besides, taking care of our parents, I think it should be up to us children. "
Hearing my sister's words, I once again felt a wave of self-blame and guilt in my heart. I knew I wasn't doing enough, but my sister insisted on taking it alone. What should I do?
I hesitated to speak: "Sister, I really appreciate your efforts. But I still think that we should take care of our parents together. After all, they are our common loved ones. You're taking on so much on your own, and I'm really worried you're going to burn out. Why don't we take turns taking care of them every weekend?"
My sister was silent, she seemed to be thinking about my proposal. After a long time, she slowly spoke: "Sister, I understand your proposal, but I still think it's better for me to take care of my parents alone." You husband and wife and your children really need my attention and help. I take care of my parents by myself, and although it will be tiring, I feel that this is my filial duty. "
Hearing my sister's words, I had mixed feelings in my heart. I really appreciate my sister's dedication, but at the same time I feel guilty that I haven't done enough. How do I balance my responsibilities with my love for my family?
I listened silently to my sister's words, and my heart was full of mixed feelings. I knew I wasn't doing enough, but watching my sister take on such a big responsibility alone made me feel very guilty. How do I balance my responsibilities with my love for my family?
"Sister, I understand your thoughts. However, it will be really hard for you to bear so much by yourself. We brothers and sisters should take care of our parents together. I said cautiously.
My sister pondered for a moment, then sighed: "Sister, I know your concerns. However, I think it is up to us children to take care of their parents. After all, they raised us, and now it's our turn to repay them. I'm tired, but it's gratifying to think about what I can do for my parents. "
"But, sister, you bear so much by yourself, I'm really worried that you'll be tired. Otherwise, let's discuss it with a few brothers and sisters and see if we can share some of it?" I still insist on my own proposal.
My sister was silent, as if weighing my proposal. After a long time, she slowly spoke: "Sister, you are right. It's going to be hard for me to take on so much on my own. However, I think it's better for me to do it. After all, I was the only one of our siblings, and I didn't have too many other burdens. Moreover, taking care of parents, I think it should be done by us children, not by distracting you. "
Hearing my sister's words, I had mixed feelings in my heart. I understood her thoughts, but at the same time I was worried that she would burn out. How do I convince her?
"Sister, I know what you think, but I'm really worried that you'll be tired. You take on so much by yourself, and your work is not very stable, and your life is too hard. Otherwise, let's discuss it and see if we can share some of it? We brothers and sisters should take care of our parents together. "Once again, I make a sincere suggestion.
My sister was silent for a long time, and there seemed to be a hint of hesitation in her eyes. Finally, she slowly spoke: "Sister, you are quite right. It's going to be hard for me to take on so much on my own. Still, I feel like this should be done by me. After all, it is our children's responsibility to take care of our parents. I'm tired, but it's gratifying to think about what I can do for my parents. "
Hearing my sister's words, my heart felt sour. I know she's out of filial piety to her parents, but I'm really worried that she's going to get tired. How do I convince her?
Just as I was thinking about how to respond, my sister suddenly spoke, "Sister, I have a request for you. "
"What request?" I asked, confused.
"Can you help me take care of my parents?" My sister lowered her head and whispered.
I was stunned, I didn't expect my sister to make such a request. I quickly replied, "Sister, of course that's fine! I can take care of my parents at any time." You've worked too hard during this time, and our brothers and sisters should share some of it. "
My sister raised her head, her eyes shining with gratitude: "Thank you so much, sister." I've been getting tired lately, and it's getting harder and harder to take care of my parents. You can help me take care of them, I really appreciate you. "
"Sister, this is as it should be. Our brothers and sisters should take care of our parents together, and don't let you take on too much burden alone. I shook my sister's hand and said sincerely.
"Sister, you're so nice. I really appreciate that you can help me share this responsibility. You husband and wife and your children also need my attention, and I don't want to distract you. I will continue to do my best to take care of my parents, but if I am too tired, please help me. My sister said gratefully.
Hearing my sister's words, my heart warmed. Although we had always felt that we were not doing enough, we had finally found a way to balance. I will do my best to help my sister and make it easier for her.
This incident made me deeply reflect on my sense of responsibility to my family. I thought I had done a good job, but when I saw my sister's dedication, I realized that I had not done enough. I want to learn from my sister's spirit, repay my parents well, and cherish the relatives in front of me.
So, I started to take the initiative to help my sister take care of her parents. Every weekend, I would make time to spend time with my parents at my aunt's house, helping them wash and eat, and sometimes chatting with them. I pay attention to the physical condition of my parents, care about their diet and daily life, and do my best to make them feel cared for by my children.
Sometimes, I would invite my parents to my house for a few days so that my sister could have a short break. Our brothers and sisters took turns to take care of each other, trying not to let my sister take on too much alone. Although it takes a lot of time and effort to take care of our parents, we all feel that it is our responsibility.
With the cooperation of our brother and sister, my sister's life has gradually improved. She is no longer as tired as she used to be, and occasionally finds time to do what she loves. Sometimes, a few of us would take our parents out for a walk together so that they could feel loved by our whole family.
I remember one time when we were walking in the park as a family, and my parents had a cheerful smile on their faces. My sister turned her head, her eyes flashing with gratitude: "Sister, I really appreciate you for helping me share the burden of taking care of my parents." I'm so tired by myself, and your help has made it a lot easier for me. "
"Sister, this is as it should be. Our brothers and sisters should share this responsibility, and we can't let you bear it alone. I said with a smile.
"Yes, we should help each other and care for our parents. My sister nodded, her eyes full of love.
One day, I suddenly noticed that my parents' mental state was getting better and better, and their faces were a little more radiant. I can't help but feel relieved and proud that this is the result of our collective efforts.
"Sister, you see, my parents have been in a really better state of mind recently. Your help really made it a lot easier for me. My sister said sincerely.
"Yes, sister. I am very happy that my siblings and I can help each other and care for our parents. I replied with a smile.
"You guys are really nice, I really appreciate you. I used to be so tired to bear so much by myself. With your help, I was able to find time to do what I loved, and I felt a lot more relaxed. My sister said gratefully.
"Sister, we are a family, and it is right to help each other. You have been taking care of your parents alone for so many years, and it is time for us to share this responsibility. I shook my sister's hand and said sincerely.
"Yes, our brothers and sisters should be well united and care for our parents together. With your help, I can finally catch my breath. My sister said with relief.
Since then, I have cherished my family more and taken the initiative to care for them. I often take time out to visit my parents, care about their lives, and do what I can to help them. I also communicate with my sister from time to time to understand the current situation of my parents and discuss how to make their lives more fulfilling.
Through this experience, I not only gained deep love for my family, but also changed my outlook on life. I believe that as long as our families are united and help each other, we will be able to usher in a better future.