Author: Insight Ciyu
Last Friday, my child had a high fever in the middle of the night, and I hurriedly drove my child to the provincial hospital.
At 4 a.m., the hospital building was brightly lit as far as the eye could see.
As soon as I walked into the hall, some people were resting on cold chairs, some people were holding children, and they looked anxiously through the crowd with their tired bodies.
In the corridor, nurses pushed the beds back and forth, and family members hurried.
ICU的门口，哭喊声，争吵声，不绝于耳。
There is no place like a hospital, which reflects the joys and sorrows of the world so truly.
Looking at this scene, I suddenly felt that there is nothing in life that I can't let go, and being able to live is more important than anything else.
When you see a dying patient, what are the worries at work that you can't think about?
Looking at the families of those who are crying, what is there that can't see through the trivial matters of the family?
I think everything you see in the hospital is the most authentic thing in the world.
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- Before life and death, everything rests.
New Zealand has one of the top universities, and every year when students graduate, the school organizes them to visit the local hospital for internships.
At the end of the day, the principal gave them a sentence as a graduation message:
The hospital is the last lesson for you, there is nothing to be disappointed in life, because it is not easy enough to live.
Before life and death, everything rests.
There is nothing more important in the world than health, no matter how much wealth is better than good health, no matter how high the status is, it is not worth peace and security.
Nurse @石悦 wrote the story of two patients' families.
The first patient is a producer in the provincial station.
In order to get through all kinds of relationships, he was drunk when he was socializing.
For the quality of the film, staying up late and working overtime is commonplace.
When he was diagnosed with chronic nephritis and lay in his hospital room for treatment, he suddenly realized that work seemed less important.
No matter how good you are, you can't get a healthy body.
No matter how much you get promoted and raised, you can't fill the hole of medical expenses.
He sighed: "Work is like a leather ball, it will bounce back when it falls. Health is like a hollow glass ball that shatters once it falls.
The second is a mother whose child suffers from hyperkalemia.
She talked to Shi Yue about her chicken baby experience.
Because many parents around her are chicken babies, she is waiting for her when she is pregnant, looking for various early education classes for the baby all day long.
When the baby was five or six years old, she enrolled her child in piano lessons and dance lessons, and when the child was about to enter primary school, she enrolled in kindergarten bridging classes and various extracurricular classes.
During that time, the couple took their children around non-stop on weekends.
It wasn't until the previous year that the child was diagnosed with the disease.
When a child is sick, parents shed their skin first.
She thought it was an incurable disease, cried for several nights, and stopped letting her child go to class, just taking him to check every day.
Thankfully, hyperkalemia is not a serious life-threatening illness.
She saw it and thought about it, and she said: Now focus on taking care of his body, don't make trouble, and it doesn't matter what you learn or practice. They who love to learn and who learn, we have health is enough.
Before we got sick, we were worried about work and wanted to earn a car and a house, and we had to make our children become dragons and phoenixes.
After a trip to the ghost gate, you will find that the major things you cared about before seem so insignificant at the moment.
When the time comes, you will only have a simple thought: it is good to be alive.
So, if you're too busy, take a break, don't be tough with life, and if you're too tired, take a break, don't compete with yourself.
02
- The daily fireworks in the world have the strongest taste.
Zhihu netizen @小monster汪汪 took such a picture.
It's a family of three playing.
Dad had leukemia because his resistance was very poor, and he could die if he got infected.
As a result, families have only two and a half hours of visiting time a day.
On this day, the mother brought her daughter to see the father, and the three of them were playing eagles to catch chickens, father as a hen, daughter as a chicken, mother as an eagle, and they were laughing and laughing outside.
Seeing this, netizens were thinking: Such a scene should have appeared on a sunny and grassy holiday afternoon, how good it would be if that was the case.
The pain of life and death in the world allows us to re-examine life.
Ordinary life is not available, and daily fireworks are luxury.
You think that the days are repetitive and boring, but people with terminal illnesses think that being able to watch the sunrise, smell the flowers, and chat with people close to you is the best gift of life.
Blogger @香川 met a young man while accompanying his father.
The young man had lymphoblastic lymphoma and had been devastated by long-term chemotherapy.
But he's strong.
During the infusion, he sometimes vomited violently, but when he finished spitting, he turned his head and grabbed a peach and stuffed it into his mouth.
He can also be optimistic, joke with the nurses, and eat meat.
Later, because there were too many chemotherapy treatments, he could no longer undergo chemotherapy, so he was directly discharged from the hospital to take medicine at home.
During that time, his circle of friends was full of yearning for a better life.
He wants to have a good time by the sea with a bottle of cold beer in one hand and a skewer in the other.
He joked that he was bored at home and was about to get moldy, and wanted to go to the northwest for a road trip.
He wants to marry his girlfriend.
In almost every circle of friends, bloggers will tease each other with him.
During the Spring Festival, the blogger sent a greeting to the past, but he never received a reply.
Schopenhauer said: a healthy beggar is happier than a sick king.
What is Happiness?
It is you who spread your feet and run in the sunset, it is you who eat meat and drink with your friends, and it is the old husband and wife who heat the kang together.
For the patients in the hospital, they never ask what the meaning of life is, because living like an ordinary person is the greatest happiness.
03
- The only one who accompanies you in adversity is your family.
There is an issue of the documentary "The World" that tells such a story.
Dai Xiangqun works as a sander, and his lungs are covered with tungsten alloy dust.
He was confined to his bed, on a ventilator.
The doctor said that if his son did not have a lung transplant, he would not live long.
Although there is only 50% hope of survival, his father Dai Zhaozhang insists on giving him a lung replacement.
In order to finance the expensive medical bills, he went door-to-door in the village to borrow money.
For the identification of his occupational disease, he traveled everywhere and it took three years to finally get his seal.
On the day of the operation, after 4 hours of hard work, the stone in the old father's heart finally landed.
A few days later, Dai Xiangqun's stomach tube and chest tube could be removed, and seeing his son's body gradually recover, and he began to gobble up his meal, Dai Zhaozhang showed a smile on his face.
For the father, as long as the son can be cured, he can go up the sword mountain and go down to the sea of fire.
The son saw everything in his eyes and was moved in his heart, and it was his father who snatched him from the hands of death.
When we are seriously ill, our understanding of feelings is more transparent.
You dislike your old and useless parents, who have been holding you up, and your quarrelsome pillow person who has been accompanying you when you are sick.
Cardiovascular physician @ Chenzhi said that there are three emotions in the hospital, between partners, children to parents, and parents to children. Every emotion can break people's intestines in the depths.
The doctor looked outside the ICU and saw a child kneeling down for the doctor, holding his trouser leg and crying: Save Mom, I will make money to pay you back when I grow up.
Fortunately, my mother was rescued in the end.
He also saw a newlywed girl with stomach cancer, and her husband stayed by him day and night, and her hair turned gray overnight.
The girl wanted a divorce, but the husband refused.
The man didn't flick when he had tears, but he shed a lot of tears when no one was around.
He amused her, coaxed her to eat, and reassured her that she would get better.
The doctor sighed: In the hospital, you will know who loves you the most and who you love the most.
Adversity sees the truth, and the hearts of the people are seen over time.
The only people who accompany us through hardships and tribulations are those who love us.
When you are weak and lying in a hospital bed, they greet you with warmth and take care of you, and when you need a huge amount of money for surgery, they whisper and beg for help.
The world is very bitter, but there is always a feeling that warms people's hearts.
We will meet many people in our lives, but the only ones that are truly worthy of our cherishing are one or two in front of us.
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Writer Zhang Xiaofeng wrote in "The Temperature of This Cup of Coffee is Just Right":
"If I were allowed to declare one more public holiday, I would make it so that it should not be used for entertainment or travel, but that people should be compelled to visit the hospital to see the birth, old age, sickness and death of mankind. ”
Approaching death, I understand the meaning of life better.
There is nothing harder in life than being alive, but there is nothing more important than being alive.
Hospitals, treating diseases, but also healing people's hearts.
Once you go to the hospital, you will understand how to live better.
It is a blessing to have no food and clothing, and it is a blessing to be free from disease and disaster.