All of the information stated in this article is based on reliable sources of information and is detailed at the end of the article
≺ Preamble≻
Recently, a female college student complained about her mother on the Internet, saying that her mother "has never worked a day" and "eats at home every day and waits for death, like a primitive person", which has aroused heated discussions among the public.
Unexpectedly, netizens did not comfort the female college student, but scolded in the comment area, what the hell is going on?
≺ Female college student complains about her mother not going to work ≻
The cause of the incident was a female college student who posted on the Internet, complaining that her mother never went to work.
The mother who doesn't go to work is the housewife of the family.,I didn't expect people to be disliked by their daughters in their old age.,The owner of the post explained his family situation in detail.,I thought I could gain a wave of sympathy and resonance.,I didn't expect to be speechless after reading the full text.。
The owner of the post is the only daughter in the family, who is about to graduate from college, and has been admitted to the establishment of a high school teacher, but before the entrance examination, she was preparing for the exam at home, but she found countless shortcomings of her mother.
First of all, she doesn't work, in her memory, her mother has never gone out to work, she is at home day after day, eating, sleeping, playing with her mobile phone, and her father has always been the breadwinner and going out to make money.
The poster detailed his father's hard work, such as supporting her and her mother and grandmother, but even with such hard work, the family house was built by people from the grandfather's generation.
My parents' generation has no money to build a new house, and it is likely that they will have to rely on their own work to buy a new house for their family in the future.
When the family was not wealthy, her mother not only didn't want to make money to subsidize the family, but even often went out to play cards and lose money, which made her look hot.
The mother has no social circle of her own, and she has no friends, and it is impossible to travel, and such a habit of life also makes her daughter feel powerless.
If it was just a grudge that hated iron and steel at the beginning, then the contradiction between the owner and the mother was the real smoke.
My mother once said at home that she hoped that her daughter would find a boyfriend with good conditions and buy her a house for the elderly in the future!
When I was young, I relied on my husband, and when I was old, I relied on my daughter, and my mother's idea made the owner feel ridiculous, obviously my mother was not old enough to move, but she was motionless everywhere waiting to be taken care of.
The most classic thing is that the poster posted so much, just to ask netizens what to do, because she didn't want to pay too much.
≺ Netizens commented with different opinions ≻
The content of the girl's complaint is "full of gold", and the netizens who watched it were stunned, some people shared their mothers from other angles, and some people broke the defense in an instant because they were their mothers!
is also a housewife mother, a netizen told about his mother's hardship.
For example, I and my brother were brought up by my mother, there is no nanny at home, and my mother is doing laundry and cooking, farming and selling vegetables, it is precisely because of my mother as the backing of the family that the family will get better and better.
Someone hit the nail on the head and pointed out the problems in the girl's article, she empathized with her father and grandparents throughout the article, but she didn't stand in her mother's position and be considerate of others.
What's more, they think it's a white-eyed wolf!
Some netizens, who are mothers, push themselves and others, and they can't help but start worrying about their future.
Because the information elements are too similar, I don't work, and I have a daughter, so I began to worry that I would be disliked.
Some people are more convinced of the admonition of "don't be a full-time mother", because if a full-time mother has been a full-time mother for a long time, she will appear like the one complained about by the poster, there is no social circle, a single life, and the palm of your hand is up.
In the long run, not only can my husband not see his own efforts, but even his children don't buy it, and they can't help but complain.
There are also people who look at the problem from another angle, and let the poster reflect on himself, whether it was too difficult to bring when he was a child, so his mother quit her job to concentrate on taking care of the family.
My mother may have been forced to be helpless back then, but she didn't expect to be put on a big hat many years later.
≺ Should I be a stay-at-home mom ≻
Whether to be a full-time mother is a topic that has always existed on the Internet, some people think that being a full-time mother can take better care of their children, but some people think that full-time mothers will only be disliked by their husbands and children.
Although the poster's remarks only represent her personally, the topic of "Mom has never worked a day" is definitely not just her complaint.
As long as you search for relevant terms on the Internet, there will be many similar complaints:
"My lazy mother who has been a lifelong mother", "I'm sick of stupidity", "What should I do if my parents don't go to work in their fifties", each of these subheadings is shocking, making people see the disrespect and contempt that children have for their parents.
There are thousands of different kinds of life, and everyone's family is different, so we don't need to criticize any one family model.
But stay-at-home mothers are great in their own right, and they deserve recognition and respect for their willingness to give up their lives and careers for the sake of their families.
There are two sides to everything, we believe that there are conscientious stay-at-home mothers or stay-at-home fathers in society, and we also believe that there are always some parents who are not so responsible, unwilling to take care of their children, lack of care and love, so that their children have a lot of opinions when they grow up.
Every family's situation is different, and there is no need to sit in the right seat.
How to solve the conflict between mother and daughter?
Filial piety is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is the obligation of every child to bear the responsibility of parents for the elderly, so the first thing is to correct their mentality and not be too selfish.
If you have the right mentality, in fact, many things can be solved.
For example, if you are dissatisfied with your mother's current situation, you can sit down and communicate, talk openly and honestly, clarify what your mother wants, how to help your mother have a correct routine, fitness, go shopping, and travel, which are all good suggestions.
When we grow up and our parents grow older, many of their living habits are difficult to change.
It is her freedom to live how the mother lives, and the children do not interfere excessively, which is actually a kind of respect.
≺ Conclusion ≻
Whether it is a stay-at-home mother or a househusband, it is all the needs of the family, and the difference is never who is easier or who is harder.
It's hard to be busy with three meals a day and chores, and it's great to have to work hard outside the home and bear the financial burden, so parents should teach their children to empathize, not just blame.
The love of parents is great, when parents enter old age from middle age, as children should be more tolerant and patient, after all, family affection cannot be severed.
Filial piety is the foundation of a person's life, but also a good family style inheritance, what do you think about "mom does not go to work"? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss!