Text\ Xiaowen
The movie "Grass and Trees in the World" made Chen Jianbin and Jiang Qinqin popular, Chen Jianbin is only a supporting role, but Jiang Qinqin is the protagonist, and his acting skills are explosive, playing a low-level working woman in crisis in contemporary times, and this allowed her to get a heavyweight actress trophy after 30 years in the industry: Best Actress at the Asian Film Awards.
Behind this brilliant success, another woman, Wu Yue, was soon mentioned again, and her love story with Chen Jianbin became the focus of everyone's discussion.
Back then, she lived with Chen Jianbin for five years, and Chen Jianbin was not famous at the time, Wu Yue was willing to live and fly with him, it is said that this kind of love from a small time is the most sincere, but Chen Jianbin and Jiang Qinqin did a fake scene when filming, and dumped Wu Yue.
It's so miserable, her long-term boyfriend lost a letter to Wu Yue, and moved all the luggage, and when Wu Yue came back, everything was empty, what was wrong with her Wu Yue?
Men's emotions can change, Wu Yue lost in this love competition, which is really sympathetic.
But didn't she really fail? Not really.
In my opinion, Chen Jianbin has really lost a treasure, and Wu Yue has actually won the victory on the more important track of life.
01 A man who doesn't love you, leaving is a blessing
Some people say that a man's love often does not last long, yes, just like Zijuan said in "Dream of Red Mansions", a man makes a fairy, and it only takes three or two days to lose it to the back of his mind.
Chen Jianbin is right for Wu Yue.
Wu Yue was born in a scholarly family in Shanghai, his father was the director of the Shanghai Minhang Painting and Calligraphy Institute, and his master was Feng Zikai's apprentice Qian Juntao.
Such a family has allowed Wu Yue to read poetry and books since she was a child, she can also carve seals, and has won many awards, but she likes acting, and her father fulfilled her wish and let her be admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy.
In the School of Drama, she didn't take on the play until she graduated, but as soon as she took it, she was directed by Teng Wenji, and her partner was Chen Baoguo. The second play "Age of Peace" won her the Golden Eagle Award for Outstanding Supporting Actress in one fell swoop.
As for Chen Jianbin , he is a scumbag, and after graduating from high school, he wandered for a while before he was admitted to Chinese opera, and he was in the same class as Li Yapeng, but his acting career has not been smooth, and his economic conditions are also very bad.
Two people meet in a crew.
Chen Jianbin was attracted by Wu Yue's cold temperament, and relied on rhetoric, soft grinding and hard bubbles to hug the beauty.
At that time, Chen Jianbin had no salary, Wu Yue subsidized him, and finally in order to save him money, he also bought a house out of his own pocket, she lived with him, she washed his hands and made soup for him, and took care of his food and clothing.
When encountering a good script, Wu Yue will also push it to him as soon as possible, "Qiao's Courtyard" is recommended by her,
In the end, it didn't come to pass, he and Jiang Qinqin were achieved, Chen Jianbin left a breakup letter to Wu Yue and left, Wu Yue was still stupidly waiting for him to turn back, but the next year, he announced his wedding to Jiang Qinqin.
once gave affectionately, but suffered betrayal, Wu Yue couldn't accept it for a while, she was sad for a long time, she couldn't understand her boyfriend's farewell.
In an interview, Chen Jianbin said that the biggest reason for their breakup was that their personalities were incompatible, and he also praised Wu Yue as the best school, and she taught him a lot.
But no matter how good the school is, it can't retain good students, Wu Yue is really "the predecessors planted trees, and the descendants enjoyed the shade." ”
This lovelorn hit Wu Yue very hard, but it also made her understand: For people who don't love themselves, even if they are in pain, they have to leave, and leaving is the best relief for themselves.
Maybe without Jiang Qinqin, Chen Jianbin would have already wandered away, if he was too deep, wouldn't it be more sad when he left?
This kind of departure is actually a precious blessing in life, which gives Wu Yue the opportunity to rediscover himself and learn to cherish and respect himself more.
02 Don't be too demanding in life, it's almost fine
In the face of all kinds of unsatisfactory in life, Wu Yue has always maintained a detached attitude. "The way I love myself is that I Wu Yue is not bound to win, I will fail, I don't feel so much that I have to win the first place in everything, I almost get ......"
Wu Yue's words in the variety show are not only an elaboration of self-love, but also an expression of his attitude towards life.
In this competitive world, it is also a kind of wisdom to learn to accept your imperfections and know how to find balance and happiness in life without imposing.
However, in fact, the person who can say this does not mean that she is mediocre, on the contrary, it often means that she is intelligent and excellent.
She learned seal carving at the age of 6, won the gold medal in the national seal carving competition in the second year of junior high school, and was admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy, which was also the first place.
Think about it in "The First Half of My Life", Ling Ling played by her, when it was broadcast at that time, it really attracted countless "bad comments", which shows that she really worked hard to study the characters, and her acting was extraordinarily expressive.
Do her best in everything, but don't pay attention to the result, this indifference is the result of her being rich by her family since she was a child, and it is also the best embodiment of her own elegant temperament.
Thinking of the variety show "Longing for Life 7", this is her first variety show.
Some people say that at the age of 51, she can become popular with variety shows, but she really just goes to have fun.
Her dress is very down-to-earth, others wear shorts and short sleeves, while she chooses warm clothes, others drink ice drinks, she holds a thermos cup, others eat junk food, she eats hand-dug Malan head and folded ear roots.
Many big names like her will hold shelves, but she actually took the initiative to serve food to Chen Qiaoen, and when she toasted, she also lowered her cup, she is really a good person who does not fight or grab.
This kind of Wu Yue just wants to show her truest appearance in front of the audience, variety shows! It's not acting, she doesn't want to rely on variety shows to become popular, there is no such utilitarian purpose, but she behaves very calmly.
Yes, there is no big star at all, people are as light as chrysanthemums, but they have won a lot of praise.
03 Marriage is dispensable, and the most important thing for a woman is to live her own life
In the variety show "Longing for Life 7", Wu Yue cried sadly because of a song by Wan Qian, why?
Only those who have truly given their feelings will understand why, after all, the man she has seriously loved for 5 years has left her ruthlessly while enjoying the resources she has fought for him.
But she is "Wu Yue" after all.
After experiencing Chen Jianbin breaking up with him, she had no complaints, she once said something in an interview:
"From the bottom of my heart, I'm grateful for this experience, thank you very much. Because if I hadn't come across it, I didn't know anything like this would have happened...... At this time, a lot of people will come out to help you cover the quilt, hold your hand, and hand you a cup of hot water. I will find out how warm friends are. ”
She was injured, but she was not engulfed in darkness, she felt the warmth of the world, and strengthened her belief in living well.
Later on a show, she said:
"I don't think there's anything great about getting married, and there's nothing to be proud of. Without marriage, there is nothing to be inferior to. ”
This is her transparency, and she has a renewed understanding of love and marriage.
Zhou Xun once said:
"Children who grow up in happy families have enough love from their parents, and they don't necessarily have to find love in marriage. ”
Yes, in fact, Wu Yue's own love is already very full, so she doesn't need to force any relationship.
Her attitude towards marriage shows her yearning for freedom and her pursuit of personal values.
For Wu Yue, living oneself is far more important than committing to a nominal marriage.
She used her own experience to show us another possibility of women's happiness.
The happiness of our women should not be limited by the expectations of society, but should be defined according to our own hearts and needs.
Yes, the real triumph of life lies not in the evaluation and expectations of the outside world, but in being able to assert oneself and be brave enough to live the life you want.
Wu Yue's philosophy of life, "Don't compete, love yourself, it's almost enough", this transparency and freedom is really worth learning from every woman.