There is such a saying:
In this world, except for parents and relatives, there are really few people who want you to live well.
With certain life experiences and lessons, perhaps we will understand such a truth.
In fact, everyone has their own seven emotions and six desires, and they also have their own ineffable desires.
Therefore, in the face of interests, in the face of gains and losses, in the face of right and wrong, in the face of success or failure, in front of grievances, people's hearts will be fully displayed.
The psychologist Adler said that maturity is not about understanding things, but about understanding human nature.
Therefore, if you want to mature yourself, you must learn to see through people's hearts and understand human nature.
In the end, we will be able to understand human nature and see the beauty of the human heart at the same time.
In this way, I can really make myself more calm, more enthusiastic, and even fearless to live well.
People interact with each other and are always mutual
Confucius said: "The beauty of a gentleman as an adult, but the evil of not an adult." ”
People's hearts are always mutual.
It is not possible that only one party is always giving and never asking for something in return.
In fact, a big reason why there are contradictions and problems between people is that they do not know how to respect each other and exchange on an equal footing.
Because there is always one party, who will be more accustomed to taking and prefer to take advantage.
And once such a habit is formed, if the other party no longer lets him get his wish, he will be disappointed.
Then at this time, grievances will come out, contradictions will arise, and eventually the relationship between each other may break down.
In real life, we will find that even a small joke can see through how a person's heart is.
I saw this topic on the Internet:
"What jokes have you been hurt by?"
One of the netizens' answer made people feel quite agreeable:
"Jokes are the spice of a boring life.
When chatting with people, it is inevitable that there will be some jokes to defuse the embarrassment and make the serious atmosphere relaxed.
But not everyone likes these jokes, and sometimes the jokes that come out casually are really hurtful.
Being able to make jokes is not a person's basic cultivation, not making jokes about others is. ”
In fact, the communication and getting along between people should be based on the premise of mutual understanding and mutual respect.
Don't trample on anything arrogantly because the other party's economic ability is inferior to your own and the other party's status is inferior to your own.
Even if we really can't understand some of the other party's words and deeds, we must show the cultivation we should have, and the upbringing understands.
As Immanuel Kant once said:
"I respect any independent soul, and although I don't approve of some of them, I can understand them as much as I can. ”
Only in this way can we respect each other's independent souls and respect each other's choices, and in the end, we can all be safe.
People who really have a pattern and cultivate must know more and more how to maintain a certain sense of proportion, distance and boundary in interpersonal relationships.
In this way, we can respect people's hearts, soothe people's hearts, fulfill people's hearts, and finally achieve ourselves.
People get along with each other and know how to compare hearts with hearts
There was a passage like this:
"We live in different worlds, you live on a big luxurious ship, you have everything on board, you have a lifetime of good wine, and there are many people who are just as lucky as you are to get on board.
And I grabbed a piece of driftwood and tried to float and drift, the waves crashed in waves, and I couldn't hide from it, I was in danger of drowning at any time, and I was afraid that there would be any sharks passing by.
So you asked me, 'Why don't you take the time to see the beautiful scenery on the sea?'"
Like the line in The Great Gatsby:
"Before you judge others, know that many people are not in a better position than you. ”
Indeed, everyone's growth environment is different, and you can't judge other people's three views with your own three views.
To put it bluntly, the cultivation that a person should have is to tell himself whether he has understood others well enough before he wants to judge them.
I often see such a sentence on the Internet, without the suffering of others, do not advise others to be kind.
Only by learning to compare the heart with the heart and empathize with the other can a person live more transparently, see more objectively, and understand people's hearts more profoundly.
At the end of the day, the human heart is always complex and changeable.
We can't judge or talk about anyone with a frivolous posture and an irresponsible attitude.
And we must also understand that only by truly knowing how to empathize, stand on the standpoint of people's hearts, and look at and deal with problems from the perspective of others.
In the end, we can win people's hearts, get people's hearts, and finally gain people's respect and praise for themselves.
Napoleon said:
"If you know how to empathize, can really look at problems from the perspective of others, consider problems, and can actually help others solve problems, this world is yours. ”
So, let yourself learn to compare your heart to your heart. You will find that every day in the future, you will live more calmly, more comfortably, and more regretlessly.
See through people's hearts and see human nature
Only when you see through people's hearts can you see through the world.
In the end, we will be able to see humanity and live the rest of our lives in our own style and way.
In fact, the real preciousness lies in the present moment, in every day and moment that belongs to us.
You always have to believe that the human heart is complex, realistic, even dirty and cruel.
There's a good saying:
"If you don't betray, just because the bargaining chips for betrayal are not big enough and the interests are big enough to a certain extent, the dark side of human nature will be induced. ”
Therefore, don't try to test people's hearts and test human nature at every turn.
Because the more you want to do this, the more you do it, the result will definitely make you feel disappointed, even hopeless and painful.
You must know that in the face of interests, people's hearts are not reliable, and in the face of grievances, human nature cannot withstand scrutiny.
Shakespeare said:
"Money is a great magic wand that can change a person's appearance at will. ”
Instead of constantly consuming oneself, we want to grasp people's hearts and control human nature.
It is better to learn to let go of yourself, respect people's hearts, and see through human nature.
Then, try to adjust your mindset, stabilize your emotions, and recycle inward and look inward in the imperfect journey of life.
In this way, we can definitely live a simple, beautiful and happy life in reality.