The ancients had a saying: "Everything has a degree, and if it is too much, it is not enough."
It is true that the same is true for relationships between people, especially between people of the opposite sex, once it is not handled well, it is easy for something that should not happen.
Today, I would like to talk about three signs of impurity in the relationship between the opposite sex from the perspective of a divorced woman. I hope my summary can be a wake-up call for everyone to avoid getting lost in the whirlpool of emotions.
In general, the impurity of the relationship between the opposite sex often begins with these three small things
01
Frequent ambiguous chats
Nowadays, mobile phones are an indispensable tool in our lives, and our chat interactions with others on mobile phones have become a way to get closer to each other. However, when chats between people of the opposite sex become frequent and ambiguous, this is likely to be the trigger for impure relationships.
Just like my ex-husband, he was deeply involved in this kind of frequent ambiguous chat. During the period before our divorce, he always maintained a long chat with other members of the opposite sex, from daily trivial matters to late-night conversations, and the words were full of ambiguity.
I once stumbled upon their chat history, and those sweet words and warm greetings seemed to be their exclusive secrets. This way of chatting not only made their relationship delicate, but also made me feel very uneasy.
It was precisely because of his frequent chatting with other members of the opposite sex that the quarrels between us began to increase.
02
Unconscious intimate actions
In heterosexual interactions, some intimate actions may seem inconsequential, but it is easy to evoke reverie. For example, unintentionally touching the other person's hand, hugging, kissing, etc. These actions tend to gradually warm up the feelings of both parties, which can lead to unnecessary misunderstandings.
I remember one time when my ex-husband and I went to a party where he had a good conversation with a friend of the opposite sex. During the conversation, they also touched each other's arms from time to time, and even once, the friend of the opposite sex gently leaned on the shoulder of her ex-husband.
These unconscious intimate actions made me feel very uncomfortable in my eyes.
Later, I learned that the reason why they had such unconscious intimacy was actually because they had an improper relationship with each other for a long time, so they had such a natural intimate contact, and they didn't feel that there was anything wrong with such behavior.
03
Excessive care and care
Caring and caring for people of the opposite sex is human nature. However, when this care and care becomes excessive, it is likely to trigger impure relationships.
My ex-husband once made me feel guilty because of his excessive concern and care for other members of the opposite sex. Because, during that time, he always paid special attention to that friend of the opposite sex, whether it was trivial matters in life or difficulties at work, he was always the first to lend a hand.
He would even ignore my feelings and needs for the sake of that friend of the opposite sex. This kind of excessive care and care made me feel very uneasy and lost.
It wasn't until later that he often didn't come home at night, saying that he was drinking with friends, but in fact he was having a tryst with the woman, and by the time I found out, they had been together for more than a year, and I was the last person to know.
04
The impurity of the relationship between the opposite sex often starts with these three small things: frequent ambiguous chats, unconscious intimate actions, and excessive care and care can become the fuse for the relationship to deteriorate.
When people reach middle age, the people we should care about the most should be our family members and lovers, how can we have so much time to care about an outsider?
Therefore, when you find that your husband and other members of the opposite sex have abnormalities in these three aspects, it is time to draw your attention.
Finally, I would like to say to men who are emotionally half-hearted: "Keeping a distance from the opposite sex is the reason of middle-aged people, and it is also a kind of wisdom.
I hope we can all remember: if you don't speak ambiguously and don't act excessively, you will have a frank relationship, and it is the best way to cherish your family.