The reason why the elderly do not get along well with their children is mainly due to the following three reasons, which are too realistic, is it the incompetence of the parents, or the lack of virtue of the children?
In today's society, each has its own reasoning and its own position, after all, it is still the old saying, people in the world, sometimes it is inevitable to compromise.
In real life, I really don't know which wind blows today's young people so "domineering".
Parents have worked hard to raise their children, but when they are old, it seems that everything has become wrong.
Many elderly people are always cautious and cautious under the roof of their children, speaking softly, and always seeking the opinions of their children, for fear that an inappropriate sentence will cause family turmoil.
In fact, if the elderly can do the following three things, they can not only win the respect of their children, but also have a peaceful and happy old age.
The first thing is to talk less and work more.
Of course, talking less does not mean that we elderly people have to keep our mouths shut all day long, but we must speak selectively and say something meaningful and valuable that others are willing to hear.
When you go to your children's house, if you can see the work, you can help them do a little bit, and don't be cheap when you work.
Two days ago, the old woman of the downstairs neighbor came to my house. She came from her hometown last month, and her son asked him to come over and help pick up the child for a few days when he was on a business trip.
This old woman is very nice, but this mouth is not human.
When I came this time, I had a conflict with my daughter-in-law. It was because he came and found that the kitchen was very dirty.
While cleaning up for others, he was still muttering about how to eat when he was so dirty? Why can't he clean up when he is so lazy? It made his daughter-in-law unhappy.
This is a thankless effort
The second is not to cry poor in front of your children.
Elderly, if you want to win the respect of your children, you can't cry poor in front of your children.
To put it bluntly, we have to maintain some dignity and don't always tell our children that we are poor here and there.
When the children are older, they all have their own pressures and responsibilities, and when we get old and complain to them, it will only make them feel that we are not responsible, and may even make them resentful.
We have to learn to take care of ourselves and live our lives. If you have some savings or a little pension, you will have a good life.
If you really have any difficulties, you can talk to the children, but don't always cry poor to win sympathy.
We need to show our children that we are strong and independent, so that they will respect us more and care more about us.
Third, don't always say in front of your children that you won't live for a few days
Elderly, you have to know something, don't always say in front of your children that you are not in good health, this hurts and that hurts, and you won't live for a few days.
often say this, the children are annoyed when they hear it, and if they talk too many times, they don't take it seriously, and it will make them annoying.
For us elderly, it's normal to have a little problem with your body, but don't keep talking about it.
If there is really a big problem, go to the hospital, listen to the doctor, and treat it well.
We have to learn to take care of ourselves and not always cause trouble for the children.
When they grow up, they have their own things to do, and we have to have our own lives. When we are well, our children can be more at ease.
Therefore, if the elderly want to live comfortably, they should do more and talk less in front of their children. Those who hurt this and that, if they don't live for a few days, they must not be able to say it.
If we can do some work for our children, we will do as much as we can, and we don't want to reciprocate anyway.
Also, if we want to be independent, we have to be strong, optimistic, and enjoy our old age. In this way, we can win the respect of our children and make ourselves happier.
Everybody says, right?