No matter where we are at the ends of the earth, only family affection can give us endless strength and warmth.
In our lives, apart from our parents, our brothers and sisters are the closest people.
When our parents pass away, we will also try our best to get together with our brothers and sisters, celebrate the New Year together, and agree to go to the tomb on the Qingming Festival.
However, even so much family affection is difficult to withstand the test of reality after all, and finally shattered into countless wounds engraved in the heart.
Time flies, the New Year is coming to an end, the adults are back to their respective positions, and the children are starting a new semester of study life. Let us feel the flow of time and cherish every moment of life.
Looking back on the past, did the brothers and sisters feel alienated during the Spring Festival? If so, it may mean that fate has come to an end. After all, family and friendship need to be sincerely given and cherished. Let's cherish those memorable moments.
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During the Chinese New Year, we will no longer get together.
Although it is thousands of miles away from home, it is necessary to go home for reunion, and better yet, to gather with the family on the evening of the Chinese New Year's Eve.
Siblings sit around and share the results of the year, talk about future plans, and think about ways to help each other. The advice of the elders on all sides and the laughter of the children make this family full of warmth and love.
A glass of wine, accompanied by a lifetime of emotion. At the moment of reunion, the tiredness of the year slowly dissipates and leaves a good memory.
Some relatives may never be together again. Not because it's too far away, but because there's no sense of missing it. This feeling is like a dead tree in spring, short and rare, which makes people miss deeply, but it is irretrievable. Only cherish the present moment and grasp every opportunity to get together.
If you are in different cities and you don't have contact around the Chinese New Year, you have no plans to get together. Even if you reach out to the other person, you will only get a cold response. This kind of mood makes people feel very uncomfortable, as if they have forgotten the friendship they once had. However, we must know how to cherish and not let the years swallow up the feelings of the past. I firmly believe that there will always be a chance to meet again. "This year's New Year is a bit sad, and I decided to stay in the city and not go back to my hometown. ”
If you don't see each other for a long time, even the most intimate relationship will gradually fade away.
You've just heard that a sibling is working hard in a certain city. The stories and lives behind them, you don't know. But let's imagine the challenges and pressures they face as they move into the future. Perhaps this is the beauty of life, the hope of seeing the future in the midst of stumbling.
Maybe in the future, you don't recognize these brothers and sisters, they have moved away from their homes, and things have already changed in their families. The river of life has been flowing forward, time flies, and many stories have been forgotten by the years.
If someone refuses to meet you, it's best not to ask why, and there's no need to call. Respecting each other, not disturbing and contacting each other is the most basic principle of being a human being, which can also prevent yourself from being hurt.
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When we get together, we quarrel endlessly.
Quarrels are really irritating. Every time I quarrel, I feel haggard and cold. After the anger is over, when you calm down, you always feel overwhelmed, as if the whole person is falling apart.
In the family, siblings are always quarrelling, even during the Chinese New Year. Specifically, there are usually three manifestations of this situation: one is to turn over old accounts and bring out the past contradictions again and become a topic; the second is to compete for interests and hope to get their own benefits from the big family in the new year; and the third is to be picky about everything, even letting daughters-in-law and sons-in-law be involved. All of this makes people feel anxious and uneasy, but in the end, we are a family after all, and we should learn to understand, tolerate and respect each other.
A wise man once said, "Like-minded people don't quarrel for a long time, they will eventually reconcile." Let us believe that as long as we have resonance in our hearts, the ultimate difficulties will come to naught.
If there are always quarrels during the Chinese New Year, it may mean that we have taken different paths and our respective hearts have lost their sympathy. It's incredibly sad and lonely.
No matter what you do or say, you are paying for everyone, but it will always attract opposition and controversy. Bearing endless pressure, caught in endless contradictions and compromises.
Suppose you sympathize with the eldest sister and give her a red envelope of 1,000 yuan because of poverty, and also give the second brother a red envelope of 500 yuan, but the second brother thinks that you are partial to the eldest sister and does not understand your intentions. But the truth is that you don't like the second brother, it's just that because his family conditions are better, you don't think he needs too much care. Your heart may not be fully expressed through red envelopes, but I hope the second brother can understand that courtesy and affection are not only manifested in money.
People are not sages, and there is no room for perfection in the home. If you are too demanding, you can always find endless excuses for quarrels.
Why bother quarreling with your siblings? It is better to let go of the conflict and enjoy a pure time. Especially during the Chinese New Year, we should cherish the moment of gathering together and welcome the new year with a united and harmonious atmosphere.
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When filial piety is fulfilled, blame each other.
The New Year is approaching, with a grateful heart, with a beloved gift, home to visit our parents, this action is our least responsibility and care.
If our parents are living in average conditions or need our long-term care, we should always be there for them, even if they move around a little more often. Doing so not only cares for them, but also makes them feel our attention and love for them.
During the Chinese New Year, most families rush to invite their parents to their homes and take care of them. We will also take the initiative to discuss ways to make our parents happier in their old age. This kind of love, rich and sincere, makes us feel warm and touched.
Some families are really sad that children dislike their parents and only give them a little "benefit", but never really care about them. Such children always complain to outsiders and never understand the wisdom that suffering is a blessing. However, no matter how many difficulties they encounter, parents always silently support their children and give everything for them. We should be grateful to our parents and let them feel our love and care.
During the Spring Festival this year, my eldest aunt and eldest aunt chose to reunite at the home of my daughter Xiaoyan, and the warmth and touching feelings of family reunion have always flowed in my heart.
Xiao Yan choked up and said: "My father is unable to move and will not be able to take care of himself in the future, brother, you also have to pay alimony to support him together, okay?"
My sister-in-law's child, Xiao Yong, cried and complained: "If you want me to pay alimony, I really can't do it! At the beginning, my parents spared no effort to support you, taking care of the children, opening a store, and being busy...... Now, shouldn't you give them back the benefits you have received with your heart?" Xiao Yong's words are full of feelings and grievances, making people feel the importance of family affection in life and the conscience of return.
Siblings quarrel, each feeling that they are victimized and the other is profitable. In the dispute, they forgot each other's emotions and were estranged.
On the second day of the Lunar New Year, Xiao Yong drove south to work, abandoning the responsibility of filial piety and leaving Xiao Yan alone. He is like a bird, pursuing freedom and dreams, but the air he leaves behind is full of fear and reluctance.
We all understand that "filial piety comes first", but filial piety comes at a price, and it takes money and energy. This is a responsibility that we must bear.
Between brothers and sisters, if only interests are emphasized, filial piety will become difficult. If you accuse each other, you will hurt each other like a thorn. We should let go of our interests and care more about each other's feelings. Only love and tolerance are the cornerstones of family harmony.
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When teaching children, negative relationships.
On the third day of junior high school, my mother said to me, "In the future, we will not go to your uncle's house to pay New Year's greetings." Her words surprised and helpless me, as if a beautiful tradition had disappeared. I regretted it, but I obeyed my mother's decision.
Yes, in the past few days, my mother and uncle have had a dispute over a piece of land in their hometown, and I looked at the two elderly people with helpless and sad eyes, and I also felt very sad in my heart. All this makes me cherish the importance of family and affection even more.
So the mother imposes the contradictions of the previous generation on the next generation, as strong as the stains on the clothes. She broke the blood of the family and deprived the future generations of children of the harbor of the family.
If you know that children are being instigated not to recognize their relatives, you will definitely feel extremely heartache. Knowing relatives is a part of traditional culture and a continuation of family harmony and affection. Children should not miss out on such feelings.
Family affection is priceless, rooted in the bones, running through the veins, and tightly binding us together.
There will be conflicts between brothers and sisters, but the family affection that blood is thicker than water cannot be denied. If someone forcibly denies family affection and makes future generations not recognize their relatives, then stop dating. If you want to move around, but sit on a cold bench, it is better to be indifferent. No matter what happens, our family will always be our most solid backing. We must not let a momentary quarrel affect our bond of affection. Let us love and respect each other and create a beautiful family together.
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When you find that in the New Year, the relationship with your siblings has ended, do not break off the relationship hastily, let alone be blinded by hatred, you should learn to prioritize things. In our lives, family affection is often the most precious treasure, and we should not give it up easily.
To repair the estranged relationship between siblings, you must first take the initiative to visit them and express your friendship. Such a move may help to shorten the distance between each other and make the relationship more harmonious.
Stepping into the second stage of life, we need to learn to greet everyone in our lives with a smile. No matter what grievances have occurred, we must be tolerant and let go of past grievances. If someone rejects you, there is no need to force it, the friendship can last for a long time, that is a real good friend.
When our parents are alive, we should set rules for filial piety and take care of them in the agreed way. Don't stop caring just because siblings are separated. Parents are important people in our lives, and we should cherish them and take care of them in their old age with love and care.
Life is like the Yangtze River, where there is no passage and pain everywhere.
In life, the most important person who hurts you the most is often the most important.
If you look at family affection with indifference, you will lose your feelings, but it will not hurt if you do so.
To be a human being, you should be guided by your conscience, as long as you have a clear conscience, everything will be fine.
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