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My name is Zhang San and I am 68 years old. Ten years ago, my son Li Ming and his wife Chen Li came to my home to take care of me.
It was my birthday, and my son Li Ming and his wife Chen Li arrived on time, holding a big cake with a happy smile on their faces: "Dad, happy birthday! "
I was a little surprised because they rarely asked about birthdays in previous years. I took the cake with some embarrassment and said gratefully, "Gee, why are you so enthusiastic all of a sudden, and I'm flattered." "
Chen Li smiled and said, "You're welcome, we are all a family, and this little thing is nothing." Enjoy your birthday today. "
I was happy, but I was also a little puzzled. The son and daughter-in-law, who have always neglected contact, suddenly took the initiative so much, there must be something hidden. I tentatively asked, "How are you doing?"
"We're doing well and we're doing well. Li Ming replied briskly.
Chen Li took over the conversation: "Yes, Li Ming has been promoted recently, and his salary has increased a lot. We thought it would be inconvenient for you to live alone, so we decided to take care of you. "
My heart moved, could it be because Li Ming was promoted and raised his salary, so he was willing to take care of me? However, I could also see that they were indeed very concerned about me. "That's great, I'm much more relieved to have you here. But don't work too hard, I'm not worth too much sacrifice as an old man. "
"Dad, don't say that. We want to take care of you from the bottom of our hearts, so you're welcome. Li Ming said enthusiastically.
I nodded with satisfaction, grateful. The three of us happily ate the cake and chatted a lot. Before leaving, Chen Li said with concern: "Dad, is there any inconvenience for you to live alone? We are always there, just say what you need." "
"It's no big deal, you can rest assured. But you have to take care of yourselves, don't work too hard. I said with a smile.
Sending them away, I was alone at home and reliving everything I had just done. I'm glad that the children finally came to see me, but I was also a little uneasy. They usually treat me so coldly, but suddenly so enthusiastic, there must be something hidden. I decided to observe them for a few more days to see what they really were.
Over the next few days, I carefully observed the behavior of Li Ming's family. Sure enough, my guess was correct.
I nodded, but there were doubts in my heart. They must have some intention when they are so attentive. Soon, my suspicions were confirmed.
One day at noon, I was having dinner, and Li Ming and Chen Li sat down with serious faces, looking a little nervous.
"Dad, we have something to discuss with you. Li Ming said.
"What's the matter?" I put down my chopsticks and looked at them.
Li Ming took a deep breath and continued: "Actually, I have been promoted recently, and my salary has increased a lot. The combined income of our family of 3 is already considerable. So, we want you to come and live with us, so you don't have to worry about life alone. "
My heart sank, and it was exactly as I expected. They must have wanted me to move there because I was too old to take care of myself on my own. I resisted my disappointment and calmly said, "That's a good idea. However, at my age, I'm afraid that moving will make me uncomfortable. Besides, I'm fine here, so I don't need to let you worry about that. "
"Dad, don't worry, we will take care of you wholeheartedly. Rest assured, we will make your stay as comfortable as possible. Chen Li said enthusiastically.
"I'm not in a hurry, I'll think about it first. I said perfunctorily.
Li Ming and Chen Li saw that my attitude was a little cold, and their faces were a little lost. I could sense that they really wanted me to move in, but I had a vague feeling in my heart that their intentions might not be all out of filial piety.
In the days that followed, they brought it up again and again and repeatedly promised that they would take care of me wholeheartedly. I pretended to accept it, but my heart became more and more uneasy. I began to observe their living conditions, but I realized that things were not as simple as they seemed.
One day, I sneaked into their room while they were out and stumbled upon something strange. There are expensive designer bags on the table, and the wardrobe is full of high-end clothes. I was even more convinced that they should be doing well.
A few days later, I went to Li Ming's school while they were working, and unexpectedly found that he was a high school teacher with a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan. I couldn't help but be surprised, why did my son let me move in with such a high income?
The more I thought about it, the more strange I felt, and I decided to have a good chat with Li Ming. When they came back in the evening, I took the initiative to bring it up.
"Dad, why are you asking this all of a sudden?" Li Ming was a little surprised.
"Didn't you say you've recently been promoted? Why are your salaries so high? Besides, your living conditions seem pretty good. I asked bluntly.
Li Ming and Chen Li glanced at each other, and Chen Li whispered, "Dad, in fact, we are also thinking about you." We do have a good job pay, but both of us are busy and it's hard to take care of you. That's why we want you to come and stay with us so you don't have to worry about it on your own. "
I stared at them and was silent for a long time. After a long time, I slowly spoke: "Aren't you worried that if I move in, it will become a burden to you?"
Li Ming and Chen Li looked at each other and explained incoherently: "Dad, how can it be a burden? We really want to make your life better." You've been living alone for so many years, and we're all worried that you'll be alone and can't take care of yourself. We have the ability to give you the best life, so that you don't have to worry about food and clothing, and you don't have to worry about housework anymore. "
I groaned, and asked, "Then why didn't you come and take care of me earlier? You've left me here alone for so many years, and now you suddenly asked me to move in." Is it because your income has increased that you want me to share the burden of the family?"
A trace of embarrassment flashed on Li Ming and Chen Li's faces, and they lowered their heads and said, "Dad, we did neglect to take care of you before, and we are very sorry for that. You're right, we want to make your life better, but we mean it. We know our past mistakes, so we want to make your life more comfortable in the future. "
I fell silent, my mind mixed with mixed feelings. I don't doubt they did have good intentions, but I always felt that their purpose might not have been that simple. My son's monthly salary is 20,000 yuan, and my daughter-in-law's income is not low, I really can't believe that they will really ask me to move in for my well-being. In addition, their cold attitude towards me over the past few years also makes it difficult for me to fully trust their motives.
After a long time, I raised my head and stared at them seriously: "I understand what you said. However, I have a question for you, did you really want me to move here for my own good, or did you have another purpose?"
Li Ming and Chen Li were stunned for a moment, and then explained one after another: "Dad, we are really for your own good! You see, our income is quite good, so you don't have to worry about life anymore." We will take care of you wholeheartedly so that you can enjoy your old age. "
Instead of being convinced by their explanations, I was more convinced of my own guesses. I spoke slowly, "You do have a good income, but I always feel that you have other purposes. You have been cold to me for so many years, and now you suddenly care about me, it makes me feel a little unnatural. Is it because you want me to share the burden of the family so that you can live more comfortably?"
Hearing my questioning, Li Ming and Chen Li's faces suddenly became very ugly. After a long time, Li Ming finally opened his mouth and admitted: "Dad, you are right, we do have another purpose. We just recently bought a new house, and the burden is quite heavy. If you can move in with us, not only will we be able to take care of you, but we will also be able to take care of some of the mortgage. "
I fell silent, my mind mixed with mixed feelings. I had already guessed that they had another purpose, but I didn't expect it to be for me to help them share the mortgage. I watched them silently, feeling extremely disappointed and angry.
"I see. I knew you couldn't have asked me to move here just for my own good. So you just want to use me to lighten your load. I said coldly.
Li Ming and Chen Li lowered their heads and said nothing. I stared at them, filled with disappointment and anger. How could I think they were really doing it for my good? It turned out that they were just trying to take advantage of me and treat me as a free caregiver and living supplement.
I took a deep breath and said, "In that case, I don't want to let you worry about it anymore. Now that I'm older, I really need more care. But don't expect me to help you share the burden of your family. My greatest wish in life is to live a quiet old age and not want to be taken advantage of anymore. So, I decided to stay alone. Go ahead and live your own lives. "
Hearing my words, Li Ming and Chen Li immediately panicked.
"Dad, don't say that! Of course, also out of our own considerations, but we definitely don't mean to take advantage of you. Just move in with us and we'll take good care of you. Chen Li hurriedly explained.
I shook my head: "You don't have to explain anymore, I understand what you think." However, I decided to continue living on my own. At my age, the last thing I need is to be taken advantage of. So, you can live your life in peace and don't bother me anymore. "
"Dad, don't do that! Just trust us, we're really doing it for your own good. You have to trust our sincerity. Li Ming also said eagerly.
I sighed, "I know you really want me to have a good time, too. However, your cold attitude towards me for so many years makes it difficult for me to fully trust your sincerity. Now that I know you have other intentions, it's impossible for me to move in. So, I hope you will respect my decision and stop bothering me. "
Li Ming and Chen Li looked at each other, their faces full of helplessness and frustration. After a long time, Li Ming said in a deep voice: "Dad, you have to believe us, we really don't mean to use you." However, if you still insist on living alone, we can't force it. We will respect your decision and will not bother you again. However, if you need anything in the future, feel free to let us know, we are always there. "
I nodded, "Okay, I see." You can live your life and stop bothering me. "
Li Ming and Chen Li nodded helplessly, got up and left. I sighed as I looked at their departing backs. I thought they were taking care of me out of kindness, but I didn't expect that there would be other purposes. I was disappointed, but I understood their thoughts. After all, I've lived alone for many years, and it's true that it's a burden for them. However, I can't change my decision, and I don't want to be taken advantage of anymore.
In the days that followed, Li Ming and Chen Li never came to disturb me again. I live quietly and alone, and I think of them occasionally. I know that they may also have some guilt and regret in their hearts, but I think that as long as I am doing well, they will be able to let go of the burden in their hearts.
Gradually, I began to think more about my life. I realized that although I didn't achieve much in my life, I at least lived a chic and comfortable life. I'm also glad that I'm able to live independently and don't need to rely on others. I began to reflect on what I wanted from my children and how I could give them a better life.
One day, I received a call from my son. He sounded anxious and said he wanted to come and talk to me. I hesitated, but agreed. Soon after, Li Ming and Chen Li arrived as scheduled.
"Dad, we're really sorry. We did have other purposes before, but now we really just want you to have a good life. Li Ming said sincerely as soon as he entered the door.
I nodded, "I know you do have good intentions. However, I decided to live on my own. At my age, what I need most is quiet and independence. "
"Dad, if only you could understand us. We will definitely take better care of you in the future, you have to trust us. Chen Li said.
"Well, you don't have to say any more. I know your sincerity. Still, I hope you will respect my decision and stop bothering me. I laughed.
Ming and Chen Li nodded helplessly. Before leaving, Li Ming said solemnly: "Dad, we will always be here, you can say anything you need at any time." We will respect your decision and will not force it. However, you must take good care of yourself. "
I nodded and watched them go. Looking at their backs, I couldn't help but feel a little emotional. Perhaps, I should have understood their situation and thoughts better. As parents, we always want our children to do well, but sometimes we also need to learn to respect their choices. I believe that as long as we understand each other, we will eventually find a way to live together in harmony as a family.
In the days that followed, I was happy alone. I take care of my life regularly, and I always think about the meaning of life. Sometimes, Li Ming and Chen Li would come to visit me, but our relationship was no longer strained. We talk more about the trivial things of life and work, and we will also bless each other.
Before you know it, 10 years have passed quietly. When I look back on this time, I realize that I have not only learned to live independently, but also learned to be more tolerant and understanding of my children. I am also glad that I am able to enjoy my old age.