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I was born in an ordinary family in the 70s of the last century, and my parents were intellectuals. At that time, family planning policies were so strict that overbirths meant dismissal from public office and even harsher punishments. So I was the only child in my family, and my parents pinned all their expectations on me.
Although my family was not wealthy, my parents still did everything possible to provide for me to go to school. The hard work paid off, and I was admitted to one of the best universities at the time. After graduating from college, I met my current husband and we finally got married after a few years of love. In accordance with the trend of that time, we soon gave birth to our only child.
I have a unique affection for an only child. He is the crystallization of our husband and wife's deep love for each other, and all the hope of our family of three. I gave him all my love and hoped that he would get ahead in the future and live a better life than we did.
But the idea was undoubtedly crazy at the time. I'm not too old anymore, and my son's wife has always been against me having a second child, which she thinks will affect her quality of life. Whenever I came up with the idea, she would laugh at me, calling me an "old clam and a pearl".
"Mom, are you crazy? Look at your current age, why do you still want to have children? When the child is born, you will already be an old woman! Besides, our quality of life is already very good, and if we add another child, our expenses will increase, and our quality of life will also decrease. Don't daydream about it!"
Whenever my daughter-in-law says something like this, I feel very sad and helpless.
Although my daughter-in-law has been laughing at me, my desire to have a second child has become stronger and stronger. I began to weigh the pros and cons back and forth, and finally made up my mind that I wanted to have another child.
One night, I mustered up the courage to say to my son and daughter-in-law, "Sons, I've been thinking about it for a long time, and I've decided that I want to have another child." "
The son seemed a little surprised, but didn't say much. But my daughter-in-law immediately exploded, and she began to reprimand me loudly: "Mom, how can you be so willful? You are already so old, it is too dangerous to have another child! Besides, our quality of life is already very good, and if we add another child, we will suffer a lot!"
I tried to explain my thoughts, but my daughter-in-law didn't want to listen at all, and she just kept reprimanding me aggressively. Seeing this scene, my husband finally couldn't hold back and came forward to relieve me.
"Don't say it, your mother has been thinking about it for a long time. The husband said, "She has this idea now, and I fully understand and support it." Our current economic conditions also allow for another child. "
"Don't always be so complacent, you should respect your mother's ideas. "Having another child will add some expenses, but we can afford it." You should put yourself in your mother's shoes, at her age, if she really can't fulfill this wish, she will regret it for the rest of her life. "
I watched my husband do justice for me, and I was deeply moved. Thanks to his support and understanding, I might have been persuaded by my daughter-in-law to give up this desire.
In fact, my decision to have a second child was not just impulsive. I was well thought out.
Most of all, I genuinely longed to have another child with me. My son has grown up and gone out to work, and our family is rarely reunited. If I could have another child, our whole family would be able to stay together often, and I would not be so lonely in my old age.
After making the decision to have a second child, I started to prepare. The first is to tone your body and prepare for future pregnancies.
I started to do a moderate amount of exercise every day to keep my body in good shape. At the same time, I also got rid of some bad habits, such as staying up late, eating raw and spicy, etc. I eat nutritious food on time and in the right amount to make sure that all my body indicators are within the normal range.
In addition to my own preparations, I also asked around about pregnancy. I consulted a lot of information and asked doctors and friends who were pregnant and had given birth. Although you are older, as long as you are well prepared, there is still a good chance of pregnancy and childbirth.
During this preparation period, my daughter-in-law kept laughing at me, calling me "old fool" and "old confused". She laughed at me for wanting to have a baby at my age, it was just daydreaming. Her cynicism did shake me a little, but every time I thought about being able to hold my own child in the future, my heart was filled with strength.
My husband not only encouraged me mentally, but also took care of me with all his heart in life. He would cook me nutritious meals and accompany me on walks to exercise. Sometimes I would feel depressed because of my daughter-in-law's words, and he would enlighten me and keep me optimistic and positive.
With my husband's support, my determination to persevere was even stronger. Although my daughter-in-law has been opposed, as long as my husband is by my side, I have nothing to fear.
But when my daughter-in-law saw that the two of us had such a tacit understanding, she seemed to be even more unhappy. She began to be more harsh on me, and she was also very difficult for her husband. Once, she said directly to her husband: "Dad, you just listen to your mother's words, you are really confused by her!
In addition to my family, my relatives and friends also had different opinions and comments about my decision.
Some friends expressed their support, saying that having a child is a major event in life, and it is a great happiness to be able to conceive. As long as we are well prepared, it is not difficult to have another one.
There was also an uproar in our house. Some relatives supported us, saying that adding a grandchild was a happy event for the family; But some relatives objected, saying that we should not be greedy for life and fear of death at this age, and it was too reluctant to add another child.
In the face of all the comments from relatives and friends, my heart was also shaken for a while. The risks and worries they say are really worth thinking about. But when I thought about being able to hold my own child in the future, I was desperate to make this dream come true.
In this way, amid the dissuasion of relatives and friends and the ridicule of my daughter-in-law, I insisted on preparing for pregnancy. My husband has always been by my side, giving me great support and encouragement, and I am more and more determined to be able to conceive a child.
As soon as the news of pregnancy was confirmed, I burst into tears. Although the road was not easy, I finally realized my heart's desire! I couldn't wait to tell my husband the good news, and he couldn't be happier for me.
"It's great that we finally have a baby of our own!" The husband said, "It's not easy for you, I admire your perseverance and determination so much!"
Looking at my husband's joyful expression, I was extremely happy in my heart. Yes, we finally have our own children, and our whole family can be reunited.
However, the daughter-in-law scoffed at this. When I told her about her pregnancy, she was not moved at all, but laughed at me and said, "Oh, Mom, you finally got your wish." But don't be too happy, what if something happens to you when you're pregnant at your age? Besides, when the child is born, you'll already be an old woman, and will you still have the energy to take care of the child?"
"You're just jealous that I can get pregnant, so you said these ugly words!" I said a little angrily.
"Oh, jealousy, dream, Mom!" The daughter-in-law disagreed, "When you are pregnant for ten months, I will see if you are still so proud as you are now? Then you will know how hard it is to be pregnant! You are an old fool, an old fool, and you still daydream about this kind of old mussel and pearls!"
Hearing my daughter-in-law laugh at me like this, I burst into tears. Yes, she was right, pregnancy at my age is indeed very risky, and the process of waiting for labor must be extremely difficult. But in order to be able to hold my own child, I have no way forward, and there is no way back.
Ever since I became pregnant, my daughter-in-law's attitude towards me has become worse and worse. She always sneered at me, calling me "old fool" and "old confused". Sometimes, she would even deliberately make things difficult for me to do some heavy work that I couldn't do.
My husband finally couldn't bear it anymore and began to do justice for me.
"How can you treat your mother like this? She is already such a big person, you should be considerate of her and care more about her!" The husband yelled at his daughter-in-law, "Look at your mother's current physical condition, are you still asking her to do such heavy work?"
"Hmph, you just listen to your mother, you're really confused by her!" The daughter-in-law didn't take her husband's words to heart at all, "When she really gives birth, don't regret it!
"Why are you so stubborn? Can't you put yourself in your mother's shoes?" The husband looked extremely disappointed, "At your mother's age, if she can't fulfill her wish to have children, she will regret it for the rest of her life! Besides, our current economic conditions completely allow for another child, so don't always be so selfish!"
"Selfish, I'm doing it for the good of our family!" The daughter-in-law is still stubborn, "Just wait and see, when the child is born, we will have a hard time!"
Although there were many conflicts in the family and my daughter-in-law never stopped laughing at me, I did not waver. On the contrary, I became more calm.
In my opinion, the reason why my daughter-in-law is like that is completely out of a selfish psychology to protect her quality of life. She fears that having another child will affect her current standard of living. But she overlooked that our current economic conditions fully allow for another child.
What's more, she couldn't appreciate how strong my desire to have children was. As a mother, being able to conceive and give birth is the greatest happiness, even at this age.
So no matter what my daughter-in-law says sarcastically, I will not waver. I have enough financial foundation and mental strength to support me, so that I can calmly face all the twists and turns of right and wrong. I was absolutely sure of my decision, and my daughter-in-law's ridicule didn't hurt me at all.
At first, the daughter-in-law didn't realize she was pregnant. Until one day, she suddenly began to gagging repeatedly, and she would be dizzy from time to time.
"What's going on? What kind of illness do you have?" When the husband saw his daughter-in-law's appearance, he couldn't help but be a little worried.
"I—I don't know. The daughter-in-law looked a little at a loss, "Maybe I've been working too hard lately, so my body is so weak." "
Later, my daughter-in-law went to the hospital for an examination and unexpectedly found out that she was more than three months pregnant!
"I—I'm pregnant?" The daughter-in-law was obviously a little caught off guard, "But, but we didn't plan to have a child?
Moreover, the daughter-in-law knows that her current physical condition is not very ideal. She has been living a high-pressure work and lifestyle and has always been physically weak. If she was pregnant for ten months, she might not be able to bear it. But if she wants to kill the child, she really can't be ruthless.
In this way, the daughter-in-law fell into a dilemma.
When I heard the news that my daughter-in-law was pregnant, I didn't laugh at her, but I was sincerely happy for her. I stepped forward and hugged my daughter-in-law and said sincerely, "Good boy, you are pregnant, this is a great joy!
"It's okay, it's all in the past. I smiled and said, "Now that you are pregnant, take good care of your body and raise this child in the future." "
"But Mom, I—I really regret treating you so badly. The daughter-in-law choked up and said, "You made up your mind to have a child so that you could hold your grandson and accompany your grandson to grow up." But I always laugh at you and make things difficult for you, I'm so selfish!"
"You're too young to really see the full picture. I was relieved, "But now that you're pregnant, you should put yourself in my shoes." As mothers, how we long to be able to hold our own children? "
Seeing my daughter-in-law's apologetic appearance, I decided to forgive her. Life is indeed great, and although she now has a child, I believe that she will be a good mother.
Through this incident, I deeply realized the greatness and selflessness of mother's love.
As mothers, we are willing to pay any price, even at the risk of our lives, just to be able to conceive our own flesh and blood. How pure and precious this love is!
During my pregnancy, I suffered countless taunts and blank eyes. Relatives and friends pointed fingers at me, and my daughter-in-law was even more cynical and made things difficult for me in every way. However, I have no regrets, because I want to be able to hold my own child.