Before reading this article, we sincerely invite you to click the "Follow" button, which will not only allow you to easily receive the wonderful articles we have prepared for you in the future, but also allow you to exchange ideas and share insights with us at any time when you are swimming in the ocean of reading. Every click and comment is a great encouragement to our creative passion, and it is also the source of our continuous progress and innovation
My name is Li Mingzhu, I am 28 years old this year, and I am an ordinary housewife. Born in a small county town in Jiangsu Province, he was taught to be filial to his parents and virtuous and generous since he was a child. After graduating from university, I married my husband Wang Hao and started our married life.
Our family lives in a small house of 70 square meters in the city center. The living room is small but warmly furnished. The kitchen and bedrooms are also simple and functional. The furniture in the house was newly added when I got married, and although it is not a famous brand, it is very strong and durable. The environment of the complex is not bad, the neighbors get along well, and you can see a small garden outside the balcony. It's just that there is always a lack of children's voices at home, and it seems a little lonely.
Her husband, Wang Hao, works in a manufacturing company and works very diligently. His parents also often came to our house and lived in harmony. It's just that recently, my mother-in-law always seized the opportunity to gossip about me, and always felt that my daughter-in-law was not virtuous enough and lacked the consciousness of passing on the lineage.
However, in today's society, many people have postponed the age of childbearing. Most people of our age put their careers first. My mother-in-law stuck to traditional ideas and always forced me to have a baby quickly, and I was indeed a little disgusted and irritable. Having a child should be of your own volition, not by being forced. This made my attitude towards my mother-in-law more and more rusty.
"Mingzhu, you have to hurry up and have a baby. "My mother-in-law came to my house as a guest and began her "lesson" again.
"Mom, don't worry about that. I replied with some displeasure.
"Ouch, you're not sensible. The most important thing for a woman at home is to have children, you are almost 30 years old, and if you don't give birth, I'm afraid it's too late. My mother-in-law said, looking at me earnestly.
"But Mom, now that society has developed, many people have children at a later age. I tried to explain.
"Those are all people who don't have a family, you have to open an endless incense for our Wang family!" The mother-in-law said confidently.
In the evening, my husband Wang Hao returned home, and I told him what happened during the day.
"Wife, don't pay too much attention to your mother's words. Wang Hao comforted me, "After all, she is old and her thinking is more traditional. "
"But she's gone too far!" I said with some emotion, "She doesn't respect our lifestyle and choices at all." Having a child is related to the happiness of a family, such an important decision, why should she be forced like this?"
Wang Hao frowned, as if he was a little embarrassed. He reached out and patted me on the back, and said comfortingly, "I know you're very troubled now, but Mom and she have good intentions after all." However, we do have to discuss the matter of childbirth. "
I nodded, but secretly thought in my heart: Although Wang Hao loves me, it seems that it is difficult for him to fight against his mother-in-law. It made me even more helpless and frustrated.
That night, I tossed and turned and couldn't sleep anywhere. What lingered in my mind was the expectant old face of my mother-in-law and her stern reprimand.
Should I really have a child? After work, the relationship between our husband and wife has long been estranged, if we have a child, will we be able to regain the sweetness of the past? But if we don't give birth, will my mother-in-law be angry to death? Besides, passing on the family lineage is also the expectation of my mother in her old age.
However, am I really ready to have children? Am I qualified to take care of children alone? If there is a rift in the relationship between our husband and wife, will the child become a victim? Thinking of this, my heart is like being clouded and I feel cold.
A few days later, my mother-in-law came to my house again. As soon as I entered the door, she called me to the living room and said with a serious expression: "Mingzhu, you have to think carefully about what I said last time." You're almost 30 years old, and it's too late to have children. "
I lowered my head and didn't reply. When my mother-in-law saw that I was silent, she became even more excited: "When you married into our Wang family, you should have fulfilled your duty as a daughter-in-law! Isn't it okay to have a child? Do you deliberately want our Wang family's incense to continue!"
"Mom, don't say that. Husband Wang Hao hurriedly played a round, "The matter of having a child needs to be prepared by both parties, so don't worry about it." "
"Hmph, you're going to rebel!" The mother-in-law glared at Wang Hao angrily, "If it weren't for you, who was unproductive as a son, how could you let your wife be so willful?
I saw that Wang Hao's face turned red all of a sudden, and his expression was very serious. I know that he has always been a good and filial son, and he has always been obedient and obedient to his mother-in-law.
"Mom, don't be angry. Wang Hao said helplessly, "We will think about this matter carefully." "
"What are you considering? You've been delaying long enough!" The mother-in-law scolded, "If you don't give birth again, I will ask your father to take you a little daughter-in-law again!"
I was shocked and frozen. I looked at Wang Hao, and saw that his face was blue and his teeth were clenched, and he seemed to be completely annoyed by his mother-in-law's words.
In the evening, I took the initiative to find Wang Hao and wanted to have a good talk with him.
"Husband, you say, should we really have a baby?" I asked him, "Your mom has been persecuting us like this, and I don't know what to do." "
Wang Hao sighed, his brows tightened: "Mom, she's a stubborn old woman, don't take it too seriously." However, I also quite mind what she said. "
"What do you think?" I asked, "Do you want us to have a baby right away, or do you want to keep waiting?"
Wang Hao was silent for a moment before he said, "Actually, I really want a child." But I hope it's you who really want it. If it is forced, the child will only suffer more in the future. "
I nodded, secretly moved. I know that Wang Hao is a person who values love and righteousness, and I can understand his thoughts very well. However, when it comes to having children, we also need to reach a consensus between husband and wife.
"Then let's wait. I said, "When we're ready, we'll have one." But if your mother persecutes it again, I'm going to have to be tougher. "
Wang Hao smiled slightly, stretched out his hand and hugged me: "Don't worry, with me, she won't be too much." "
That night, I tossed and turned by myself again. My mother-in-law's cruel words are still echoing in my mind: If we don't have children again, she will let Wang Hao take a concubine again! This is simply challenging our marriage and bottom line!
However, I can also understand my mother-in-law's feelings. In their time, childbirth was a matter of course, and it was the greatest contribution and filial piety to the family. And our generation has modernized its ideology, pursues freedom and individuality, and has its own ideas about childbearing.
However, when it comes to having children, I am determined to do it according to my own wishes. I can't be coerced and intimidated by anyone, otherwise I will be burdened with a lifetime of pain and regret. I am responsible for my own life, and that cannot be shaken.
My mother-in-law's cruel words have kept me haunted. A few days later, she came to my house again, and her expression was even more stern than last time.
"Mingzhu, I've given you a lot of time to think about it. As soon as the mother-in-law entered the door, she said coldly, "You must give me an answer now, do you want to make an incense for our Wang family?"
"No need to think about it anymore!" The mother-in-law interrupted Wang Hao's words, "I've waited enough! Either Mingzhu will get pregnant immediately, or you will divorce and let me give you a new daughter-in-law who can have children!"
I was shocked, I couldn't believe my ears!
"Hmph, it's not a trivial matter, it's not up to you!" The mother-in-law glared at us angrily, "If Mingzhu doesn't obey again, you will have to leave this unfilial daughter-in-law, and I will help you get a new one!"
I finally couldn't hold it anymore, glared at my mother-in-law angrily and shouted, "That's enough! Why are you forcing me like this? Having a child is related to the happiness of a family, and how can you threaten and blackmail such an important matter?"
"You two shut up!" The mother-in-law roared, "If you don't give birth, you will get divorced, and I will marry you a new daughter-in-law who can have children!
After saying that, the mother-in-law rushed away without looking back. There was a dead silence in the room, except for me and my husband and wife, looking at each other.
My mother-in-law's cruel words almost broke my heart. I never imagined that she would be so determined to ask for a divorce and remarry, completely leaving our feelings behind!
I never imagined that my mother-in-law would be so paranoid and stubborn, even going to the point of destroying our marriage to achieve her goals. What she is doing is undoubtedly hurting us and trampling on our faith and happiness in marriage!
"Husband, you say, what should we do?" After a long time, I finally asked. I looked at Wang Hao's gloomy face, and I felt even more helpless.
Wang Hao took a deep breath and said with a firm expression: "No matter what, we can't divorce." Is it up to her to decide the matter of marriage?"
I nodded, secretly glad that Wang Hao and I were on the same front.
"I've figured this out now. I interrupted him and said in a firm tone, "I don't want to have children just yet." Your mother is persecuting us, hurting our feelings. I can't be threatened and blackmailed like this!"
Wang Hao looked at me and nodded. I know that he finally understood and respected my decision.
However, how we will face our mother-in-law next is really a difficult problem.
Just when we were ready to confront our mother-in-law, an unexpected thing happened that completely changed the whole situation.
At noon that day, I was cooking lunch in the kitchen, and Wang Hao suddenly rushed in in a hurry, his face pale and panicked.
"Wife, hurry up, something happened to Mom!" He grabbed my arm tightly and said eagerly.
"What's wrong?" I was taken aback.
I just felt like the world was spinning and I was chilling. Something happened to my mother-in-law? High blood pressure? My heart was suddenly tightened, and I was left with huge guilt and self-blame.
When we arrived at the hospital, my mother-in-law was lying in the intensive care unit, so weak that she couldn't even open her eyes. I looked at her pale face and had mixed feelings.
The doctor said that her high blood pressure had been high for a long time, and her mood swings had been too great recently, so it suddenly worsened. Wang Hao whispered to me.
All of a sudden, my heart felt like it had been stabbed, and it hurt to the core. It's all because of our business that my mother-in-law's emotions are so out of control and suffer from this catastrophe!
Looking at my unconscious mother-in-law, my heart was filled with infinite self-blame and pain. I never thought that our conflict would cause her to have such a big problem in her body.
"Wife, it's because we're too willful that we let my mother suffer this catastrophe. Wang Hao whispered, his tone full of guilt, "Perhaps, we should really have a child as soon as possible, so that my mother can have a comfort." "
I was silent, my mind numb. My mother-in-law's condition does not seem to be optimistic, and if she passes away like this, I will be burdened with a lifetime of guilt and regret.
Just as I was lost in thought, the doctor hurried over with a solemn expression.
When I heard this, my blood seemed to freeze. Is my mother-in-law really going to die? My heart felt like it had been hollowed out raw, and it was so painful.
I knew I had to make a decision now. Whatever I choose, there will be irreparable consequences. At this moment, my heart was painful and tangled like never before.