Seeing such a thing made me very angry:
My boyfriend's annual salary is almost 600,000 yuan, because he has a younger brother, but my mother asked for 800,000 bride price, and he gave it. I asked for my name to be added to the wedding room, and my boyfriend did so.
Now that the wedding is approaching, my mom has made another even more drastic request. After listening to this, my boyfriend angrily threw down a few words and drove away. What do you think I should do now?
But just a month before the wedding, her mother suddenly made another request. She asked Amin to transfer the house he was living in to me, saying that this would give me a sense of security.
If your mother is really good for you and gives you enough confidence, she should transfer the house she lives in to you.
I don't know if this is true, I have the right to look at the story, every parent wants their child to be good, this is understandable, she thought of the worst ending of your life, and also prepared a way back for you.
But she didn't expect that running a marriage is a matter of two people, your boyfriend promised to add your name to the bride price of 800,000 yuan and the house book, which shows that he loves you and respects your family, but you trampled on his last bit of dignity.
He is not a big money, nor is he a rich second generation, everything he has depends on his hard work, he gives everything he has to you and your family, where is his sense of security, he will feel that this is a transaction, Hao has no emotion at all, so he said that it is right to be calm and calm, on the contrary, you should reflect and reflect.
Marriage is a matter for both children, not a sale. Now there is no bride price in big cities, and if the woman proposes the bride price, the man will look down on it.
The man pays a lot more than the woman in marriage, so the woman will generally buy some dowry to improve her status in the man's family, otherwise it is likely that the man will look down on her.
Your mother should transfer the property in her name to your name, so that you have enough security. It is very absurd to ask for the transfer of the stock house of the boyfriend's ancestors, although it is a stupid way to create contradictions in the state of marriage!
The same parents, such a mother is too much. The boyfriend has explained that the house is the life savings of the parents. You should empathize, you should be understanding and considerate of your boyfriend. A happy marriage is not something that comes with money.
Such a mother just treats her as a commodity, even if such a marriage is married, there will be trouble in the future, the thorn in the man's heart is buried, will the marriage with unequal payment be happy?
I've already written a suite, I have your name, and I want a set, the man is sincere enough, it's a bit too much, let me break up directly.
After all, falling in love is a matter of two people, marriage is a matter of two families, this mother-in-law can't afford to serve, and no matter how much she loves, she can't afford to serve. Can I earn 600,000 a year and can't find a wife?
Mom has to inch in, and she is so greedy. It's nature. How good can her daughter be! What is a test, it is nothing more than money!
If the man listens to me, stop immediately, that woman doesn't love you, and if she loves you, she will stop her mother.
This requires that request, why should other people's houses be transferred to you, and they won't let you live, and they give you so much, and this and that, isn't it harming your happiness now, there are many girls, and you are not a girl in this world, your mother is too self-righteous, and people are not rich.
If the man is sensible, he will immediately return the bride price and mourn the name on the real estate certificate, a girl from such a family will not be educated, and there will be no happiness in the future, and it is possible that you will pay to help her brother buy a house and ask for a wife.
If your mother is really good for you, she won't open her mouth, and it is not a matter of increasing your demands. Such a mother treats marriage as a business negotiation condition, and uses you as a bargaining chip, talking about business and trading is not benevolent and righteous, your mother doesn't even have benevolence and righteousness, you only have two words to break up or divorce, and you are all right.
If you listen to your mother in everything, then live with your mother for the rest of your life! Adults should have their own opinions, what can be done can be said, what can not be said and what can not be done, there should be a bottom line!
The confidence is not given to you by the man, but given to you by your mother's family. Your mother's family conditions are good, are you still afraid of divorce? My mother's family doesn't have the ability to ask for so much, and there are many men with an annual salary of 60w, and most women are waiting in line for her to marry.
A friend of mine saw it and said: I also have a daughter, I never thought of asking for a bride price, my daughter is very good, very beautiful, and her husband is also very good.
There is affection between men and women, it is to live in the future, work together, as parents, we should treat the children's marriage correctly, to ask for so many bride price, the woman's family seems to have a younger brother, I feel like I am selling my daughter.
It's okay if the girl in this kind of family doesn't marry, it's too greedy, it's a bottomless pit, guy, leave quickly.
Is the 800,000 yuan in your hands? If it is not in your hands, you still have a younger brother, do you still think you can still get this money?
If you are partial to your husband, and then coax your husband after marriage, you can tell me how much you can spend on your husband's annual salary. Also, if you are not Voldemort and are dedicated to the small family, your husband can hand over the bank card to you to manage, and the money will not be in your hands at that time.
If you only think about how much you can take now, you don't think about your future life. If this is a marriage, you won't get any of the above.
This kind of perception is too! So does he love people or does he care about money? Just because he has spent too much and tied himself to a person? This is really divine logic!
What roots produce what seedlings bear and what fruits, this female classmate has read so many books in vain, it is really a waste of youth, and it is really good for the guy to make a decision.
Why don't you say that the man has spent so much money for you, and he is unwilling, and he will abandon you when he is a phoenix in the future. It's good to have a normal and suitable bride price, and marrying a girl is not a woman, and you really treat others as wronged.
Even if you get married, this will become a hurdle in a man's heart, the reason why he doesn't love you, the reason for leaving, I don't know when it will break out, like a time bomb.
The three views are not correct. If the young man is rich now, if he encounters some difficulties in his life, will he share the joys and sorrows, or will he find another rich man and abandon this marriage?
In today's society, young people are different from our older generation, men are also flowers, men are easy to cheat, women are also easy, and there are many female men.
Although I'm also a woman, I think this man is already very good, just 80W bride price, but also add the woman's name to the house, if you are not satisfied, the other party is greedy.
Do you have the ability to make money by yourself, and always think about the kindness of others? What age is it, don't say what the mother means, it should be the daughter's own meaning, deceiving the kind boy.
It's a bit funny, if you get along for so many years, you can't be sure that the other party loves you, and you still need to bind it with money What kind of love is this, I think Ah Ming is very right, how can I transfer the house that my parents have prepared for him all their lives. It's really unnecessary to do everything to prove that I love you, I want to know what you've done for Amin?
If you don't object to the conditions put forward by your mother, it proves that your mother is thinking about it, and if your boyfriend stops the loss in a hurry, then his mind is still sober.
You have already added your name to the marriage room, and you have to transfer a set of houses, how many houses do you want, and you will not be wronged in the future if you give you so many houses? Are you marrying a house? Or are you marrying a man? Not to mention that there is a bride price of 800,000 yuan, how much will you marry yourself?
The man's 800,000 dowry was given, and the property was added to your name, and my woman felt quite sincere. You have to completely transfer the ownership to you, if you don't live with others for a lifetime, won't other people's men be empty of people and money?
Your mother's abacus is too good, you think there is nothing wrong, you should keep it wholeheartedly just for your mother, what do you want a man to do?
For your lover, the family gave a set of marriage houses, have you invested, people paid to buy a house and your name became a joint property after marriage, this man himself is too generous, your mother wants someone else's ancestral house is too much, if he is an only child, you have a good relationship after marriage, isn't that suite also yours?
If I were that boy's mother, I would rather my son be a bachelor than a daughter-in-law like you, who sells herself as a commodity and has to get an inch! There is an old saying that if there is a mother, there must be a daughter! I guess you will be more greedy and ruthless than your mother in the future.
A woman's sense of security is given by her mother's family, not from her in-laws, and asking for it will only degrade her personality. If it is true, you have no future.
Your sense of security is to make someone else's ownership your own. Are you secure, but what about other people's security? Are you selfish or greedy? If you have a brother and daughter-in-law who thinks the same way as you, then things will look good!
The boy is so good, capable and profitable, I don't know how many girls envy it, her mother is not satisfied, and I don't want to marry such an in-law family in exchange for me.
It's outrageously wrong, your mother should give you a rich dowry for your own good, and the dowry is your confidence! On the contrary, hollowing out your husband is equivalent to hollowing out yourself, and the quality of life after marriage plummets.
I have never seen a marriage negotiation without explaining it at one time, and satisfying one item after another, this is not a lack of people's hearts, what is it? Obviously, it is challenging people's bottom line again and again.
If you don't hear good, you can marry a very good family according to the satisfaction, what are you doing? Still not satisfied, wait for someone to recognize the true face of your family? If you marry a future like your mother, will you have a peaceful birthday?
The sense of security is never brought by the house and money, but by the true feelings of both parties.
I think mothers have a big problem, their marriage room with their name is enough, that house was bought by other people's parents, how can it be transferred to the daughter, this is a very selfish performance, but also a sense of security? 80 bride price is not safe? These 80 are in the hands of the woman.
Take 10,000 steps back, even if my mother is right, she should have put forward all the requirements at the beginning, instead of asking for this and asking for that, my friend said 160,000 bride price before she got married.
As a result, my mother later heard that everyone else was 200,000, and she had already said that she wanted 180,000, although it was 20,000 more, but her friend felt that this kind of change made people feel very dishonest, but it was also her husband's family who was good to me.
The personalities are also compatible, and the friend directly told her mother that she did not agree to the extra 20,000 bride price, and then her mother also agreed that they got married, and she didn't want the bride price, she said that she wanted to give more to her friend, but also considering that her friend should not hurt her feelings in the middle, and it is all good now.
Everything has a degree, at this time you are not on your boyfriend's side, you mean that you have the same idea as your mother, so you have successfully lost him, think about it from a different angle, if you were your boyfriend, what would you do.
As the saying goes: birds die for food, and people die for money.
I think that if it's yours, he will never be able to escape, and if it's not yours, he will find a million reasons to leave you.
My suggestion: write a "premarital coordination letter", if your boyfriend has not done anything morally corrupt to you from now on (for example: find a mistress, ignore the purple rice oil and salt of your wife and children...... ）。
You can not give you the house without giving it to you, and if he does something morally corrupt, from now on, the house will be transferred to you for no reason.
If your boyfriend truly loves you for the rest of his life, he will readily accept this little request, but you should not forget the love of the original heart, and do not do morally corrupt things.
As the saying goes: to respect others is to value yourself.
The man let it twice, the woman should be content, don't cover up what material things should have a sense of security, three times the woman still listens to her mother's words, and is ready to regret it for the rest of her life, even if she looks for it again, it is impossible to find this man to make your mother ask for this.
What attitude to use, what angle to use, what interests to stand, whether it is worth it or not, whether it is right or wrong, and what can it be! To live, we should live for ourselves! Thinking too much about gains and losses will only harm others and ourselves!
If you still insist on your mother's point of view, I dare to say responsibly that you have no future, no man is stupid enough to meet the extreme selfish behavior of your whole family, even if you compromise temporarily, the relationship will not last long, and the man will get tired of it one day.