Hello everyone, I am the family education instructor Guo Ma~
Are you tired after becoming a mom?
Guo's mother found that some of the mothers around her were very chic, while some were very tired.
Some people say that the chic mother is because she has no financial burden and someone helps take care of the baby.
But some of these mothers are even moonshine, as well as mortgages and car loans, and they still bring their own babies.
Some people say that a very tired mother needs to do too much, there is no husband who can help with the burden, the financial pressure is high, and the children may not be obedient.
That's right.
However, only partially.
Pregnant mothers who are very tired often have a common problem: they want too much, so they can't grasp the point.
No matter how rich people are, they will have their own troubles.
And whether you want more or less determines whether a person is happy or not.
A person's energy is limited, and many times, we can only do one thing well, or two things. If you do more, you may be very tired, and you will not be able to do anything at all.
For example, I want to take care of the baby, make money, and do housework.
And then:
When taking the baby, I couldn't help but be anxious about the problem of work, and my attitude towards the baby was very perfunctory;
When doing housework, it is difficult to hide the anger when I see the room messed up by the baby;
When I was working, I began to think about how to give my children the right early education, after all, I had less time with my baby and felt indebted......
If you want to make your life easier, then you need to be clear about your focus, so that you don't have a lot of pressure, and after you put in it, it is easier to succeed.
For example, the focus is on bringing a baby
Presumably this is the focus of many stay-at-home mothers, since it can be listed as a priority, then the things that make money will be left to the husband to do!
When accompanying the baby, take care of the child's three meals a day, accompany the child to watch the sunrise and sunset, take the child close to nature, and experience the fun and beauty of life.
With such high-quality parent-child companionship, the child is well taken care of and a very good attachment relationship is established.
When I recall the little things about my child's growth in the future, I will not regret it at all.
Like, the focus is on making money
This is now the "focus" of many mothers, many mothers no longer bind themselves to the life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, they know very well: the economic base determines the superstructure.
The occasional palm-up life is not the same as a 20-year palm-up life.
Occasionally, it's coquettishness.
20 years, is status.
Since you want to make money, then try to seize every opportunity for promotion, devote yourself to your work, and don't overdo the trivial things in life.
As long as you are under your own control and there is no big mess, then you will continue your career.
Then, give the baby a better material foundation and give yourself a higher family status.
For example, there must be two key points: making money + bringing a baby
There is no reliable old man at home to take the baby, and he doesn't want to have his palms up, so he wants to make money and take the baby.
Then Bao Ma must be mentally prepared: it will be very tired.
This tiredness is kept as much as possible in the body of tiredness, not mental tiredness.
Because once the heart is tired, it is difficult for the body to hold on.
And it is recommended that this kind of mother is after the baby begins to enter the kindergarten, and then grasp these two key points together, otherwise, it is easy to catch one of them.
And, when you make money, you should improve yourself and make money.
When you bring a baby, you can enjoy a pleasant time with a baby and give your child high-quality parent-child companionship.
For the mother who has a vague focus, Guo Ma's advice is: focus on more important things in order to leave no regrets.
There is a mother Yunyun next to her, who is still busy at work, and has a 4-year-old daughter at home, who is in very poor health, and she can't wait to get sick once a month.
For the sake of her daughter's health, Yunyun often takes leave to take her daughter to see a doctor, and the hospitals in the surrounding big cities have been run, and the Chinese medicine hall has also run many times, but it has no effect.
Later, it was found that there was a problem with the child's daily diet, and the grandmother gave the child too much food on weekdays, and he got sick as soon as he accumulated food.
It's just that the physical foundation is not very good, and grandma still firmly believes that she is right, so Yunyun still quit her job and chose to take care of the baby full-time.
Almost half a year of conditioning, the child's complexion and physique are visibly better, and the number of illnesses is also decreasing.
Yunyun feels that his efforts are worth it.
After all, no matter how much money you make, it is not as important as the health of your children.
Yunyun is actually like many mothers, she wants to make money, she also wants to take care of her family, and she wants to take care of her children.
At a time when priorities were already conflicting, she chose something more important.
Moreover, the "emphasis" can be changed.
For example, Yunyun's current focus is to regulate the child's physique, so that the child can have a good body to meet the new life of the first grade.
The next focus is the child's early childhood transition and first-grade learning life.
The next focus is to make money.
Because, at this time, the child's physique is good and the learning situation is relatively stable, so he can continue to make money with peace of mind.
So what's the point of Guo Ma?
Bring a baby + make money.
The first focus is to bring the baby, because, if you don't want to feel indebted to the baby in the future, the main task of making money will be handed over to your teammates to complete!
After all, for this teammate, Guo Ma still fully trusts him.
The second is to make money, when the baby goes to school, it is the time for Guo's mother to make money.
Compared with internal friction in housework, Guo's mother is more willing to make money, and it is a big deal to ask for cleaning once a few months or a year, which is not much less than the money she makes. On weekdays, the whole family is arranged to clean together, and the house can also watch.
Overall, it will be a little tired, but the mental state is full marks!
Written at the end of the article
Some readers may ask: Why is it all Mom's business, what about Dad?
What Guo's mother wants to say is that what Dad thinks and does has a great influence on us.
However, we can't disrupt our own rhythm because of Dad, and let ourselves get psychological satisfaction, which is the most important thing!
And this psychological satisfaction sometimes requires a trade-off to achieve.
Of course, we need to have a "focus", and "focus" is not the whole story.
It's not that if you make money, you don't need to take a baby, whether it's a working father or a mother.
It can only be said that because of the need to make money, the time spent with parents and children has decreased.
But in the limited time, we have to grasp the key points, and we must also arrange our free time reasonably to make this home better!