I have a fellow countryman A, who is still a classmate and colleague, and yesterday I sent a voice message and asked me a question that made him very entangled.
His first love in high school, now working in the system of our hometown county, called him yesterday, and it happened that he didn't receive it in class, and then sent him WeChat, a dry notice:
XX：
It is hereby scheduled to be held at 10:58 a.m. on May 4, 2024 (March 26 of the lunar calendar) for his son Yang XX and daughter-in-law Li X in the banquet hall on the second floor of XX Hotel in XX County.
Yang X, Han XX
April 14, 2024
A took a screenshot of the WeChat picture that Wang XX sent to him and sent it to me, asking me if I wanted to go.
As a bystander, I know more about the events when he and Ms. Han were in high school. At that time, we were all in the liberal arts class, Xiao Han was from the county town and lived on campus, while student A was not far from the school, day school, and rode a broken bicycle back and forth every day. I was riding the same beat-up bicycle to and from school, and the two of us were classmates from elementary, junior high and high school, and the two villages were next to each other.
Student A is a literary teenager and literary youth, and as soon as he entered high school, his writing attracted the attention of all the girls in the class. The county cultural center runs a literary tabloid called "Dandelion", which publishes the works of literature lovers in the county. At the end of the 80s, it was a dream for many people to have their name appear in the newspaper.
Student A participated in an essay contest and wrote a short novel, which won a second prize. Later, a small circle of students in the class who loved literature formed a small circle, including the first prize winner of the essay contest and Xiao Han. Although I am not in the circle, A reports everything to me and discusses with me, including the "love" between him and Xiao Han.
Xiao Han's fondness for A began when he received the essay contest prize (a miniature radio) and a certificate from the principal at the school-wide teacher-student assembly. And I'm a little hair, it's relatively slow, half a beat slower, I don't know that people like him.
Xiao Han has a best friend, and the two are often together. One day after school, A entered the classroom from outside to pack his schoolbag and prepare to go home, and suddenly saw a magazine on the desk, I forgot the name, he also forgot, it seemed to be a literary magazine edited by the Municipal Federation of Literary and Art Circles. He didn't know why, so he picked it up and asked, "Who is this?" Why did you put it on my desk? He asked several times, but no one answered. Han's best friend smiled at him, "Fool!", and then the two female classmates walked out of the classroom. At that time, I was outside the classroom, leaning on my bicycle, waiting for him to come out and walk together. First, I saw classmate Han and his girlfriend walking out with a smile on their faces, and then I saw him walk out with a red cloth on his face. I don't need to ask me to know what's going on, because the whole class knows that Han likes him, only he, the party, doesn't know!
In the third year of high school, Han was sent to the Municipal Normal School; A failed the college entrance examination, and I went to the county No. 1 middle school to tutor, and the two of us separated.
In the second year, A was admitted to the Municipal Normal School, but he was not in the same department as Han. As a second-year veteran, Han helped A, a newcomer, to familiarize himself with the campus environment and buy daily necessities. During college, student A took a lot of meal tickets from Han, because the main meal tickets of normal female students were not used up, and male students generally did not have enough of them. I can see this scene with my own eyes, because I, like A, did not spend money to go to college for the envy of rural families, and I was also admitted to the teachers' college, and I was not in the same department as him and her.
After graduating from junior college in three years, Han arranged at home to return to the county to work in the government office. Student A graduated a year later than her, did not return to her county to become a teacher, and participated in the provincial assignment to a rural middle school in another city, while I stayed in a middle school in the city. Han sometimes comes to the city for meetings, and our classmates + fellow villagers in the city get together and have a meal. Later, the classmates got married, and the female classmates came out to the party less and less, and only a few rough old men got together to drink and brag.
Suddenly, one day, a classmate who worked in the Intermediate Court told me to sit together, and when I entered the private room of the hotel, I found A sitting inside! He quit his job, his wife and children, and returned to the city alone, starting from scratch. When asked why he came to the city, he said that he wanted to go to Beijing in one step, but he didn't want to put too much pressure on himself, and at the same time he didn't like the environment in the county where interpersonal relations were more important than everything else.
He has a point. Later, he entered a private middle school, and the mixed party became prosperous, and the remarriage partner was a colleague, an old virgin in her 30s. We were both teachers in the city, and we had nothing to do together, and we found a little bit of what we felt like in high school.
As for the "second handshake" between classmate Han and A, I learned some inside information from him. As soon as he returned to the city, he rented a house at first, and Han, now Ms. Han, lived with A whenever he had the opportunity to come to the city for meetings or training, and lived with A three or four times until A moved into the dormitory of the private school. At that time, after SARS, until now, the two of them are fine, and I haven't heard of any major changes in their families.
I said to A, I don't know how much your relationship developed in the two years of the teacher's college, I don't know why you didn't return to the county after graduation, I don't know what happened between you and her during your two marriages, and even whether you divorced and returned to the city to have anything to do with her. We seem to have a good relationship on the surface, but we are both adults, and some things can't be said to others, and everyone has an unknown side. Based on this situation, I can't give you an idea.
He smiled wryly, do you know that I have always had low self-esteem in front of her? In my relationship with her, all the decisions I made were because of this.
Emotional matters are really complicated! To go or not, he needs to take the big idea himself.